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Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

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sobsanta · 04/11/2020 13:54

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

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Fungster · 07/11/2020 00:34

What a sweetheart ❤️ God bless all of you.

LadyWithLapdog · 07/11/2020 00:35

Gorgeous little girl 🥀

Sunflowertall · 07/11/2020 00:38

I read this earlier today and it has stuck with me so much. I've been thinking of your little girl and wondering what her name is. Those pictures are beautiful, so full of happiness. I've no words of comfort but sending love to you and your family wherever you are xxx

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 07/11/2020 00:41

This is heartbreaking

So sorry about your beautiful darling girl 💕

jotorious · 07/11/2020 00:41

What a gorgeous girl, such a lovely smile x

ScottishStottie · 07/11/2020 00:41

I just dont know what to say. Im so sorry for your loss. Read this thread earlier this evening and its been on my mind ever since, so needed to post despite not knowing what to say.

remaininlight · 07/11/2020 00:42

Oh no! I'm so very sorry, Sobasanta. There are no words but sending love.

WanderlustWitch · 07/11/2020 00:48

Beautiful girl sobsanta, i have no words..

Yipitsme · 07/11/2020 00:55

So so sorry for your loss,may your angel rest in forever peace Flowers

scotsllb · 07/11/2020 01:00

Such a beautiful girl. I'm so sorry for your loss I can't even begin to find the words. Sending your strength xx

sobsanta · 07/11/2020 01:08

On her second birthday she bumped her head and ended up getting checked out in A&E. She wanted to wear a mask like everyone else.

I just went into the cupboard to grab some crisps as a snack as I haven't eaten and all her treats are there that we don't eat: Wotsits, jellies and white chocolate buttons. So simple but I've just lost it again. It's coming in waves. I just don't know what to do but post her photos. She was so loved and this world is fucking cruel.

Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.
Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.
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LadyWithLapdog · 07/11/2020 01:13

I’m so sorry for how much you must be hurting now and for the loss of your beautiful little girl.

BigBlueHouseBear · 07/11/2020 01:20

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful girl ❤️

Bikingbear · 07/11/2020 01:24

Bless youFlowers
I'm shocked that this could happen to your beautiful daughter, nevermind how you must feel.
Grief comes in waves and hits when you least expect. Even long into the future it comes in waves. Bless you

Sh0ck3d · 07/11/2020 01:26

I am so so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter xx

Yipitsme · 07/11/2020 01:31

She looks so cute,so happy,so innocent and beautiful, you can tell she was loved and well cared for by you.from one mum to another I feel pain for your loss and wish you solace and comfort.be gentle and kind to yourself,she will never cease being a part of you.xxxxx

Icanflyhigh · 07/11/2020 01:35

I am so so sorry for your loss, I have no other words, but here for a handhold while you process this xx

MrsEricBana · 07/11/2020 01:38

I'm so sorry Sobsanta, it must be unbearable. She looks to be a wonderful girl who knew a lot of love in her short life xxx

DigitalChristmas · 07/11/2020 01:43

There are no words.So sorry for your loss. 💐

MarthaHanson · 07/11/2020 01:55

I am just so so sorry.
I am sending you so much love. Please keep telling us about her if it helps-she looks like such a gorgeous child. X

thaegumathteth · 07/11/2020 02:20

I'm so sorry @sobsanta what a beautiful wee soul

KiriAndLou · 07/11/2020 03:19

She's gorgeous, OP. I'm so sorry. Flowers I hope you manage to get some sleep. Sending love and virtual hugs.

HotChocAndMarshmallows · 07/11/2020 03:21

I've been following your post, I'm extremely sorry for your loss. She looked adorable! We're all here for you, virtual hugs!x

MsDogLady · 07/11/2020 03:49

Sobsanta, my heart aches for you, your husband, and daughters. It is a privilege to see the photos of beautiful Wyatt. Sending love and prayers from the US.

Iwantalonglie · 07/11/2020 05:38

She is absolutely gorgeous.

You will find the strength to get through this, but I am just so so sorry. My heart is breaking for your huge loss.