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Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

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sobsanta · 04/11/2020 13:54

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

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niki26 · 06/11/2020 23:19

I'm so incredibly sorry. You are in my thoughts tonight and will be for a very long time to come.

kingdomcapers · 06/11/2020 23:19

I'm so sorry. Would it help to tell us more about her? She was the youngest of 3, developing her personality, starfish sleeper, daddy's girl. She sounds amazing

notapizzaeater · 06/11/2020 23:22

I'm so so sorry to hear this, take care of yourself x

NoNeedToArgue · 06/11/2020 23:24

This is heartbreaking and shocking, and something I will never forget reading. I hope you can find some peace.

Lisa78Lemon · 06/11/2020 23:24

I'm so sorry this has happened. Lighting a candle for your little girlFlowersFlowersFlowers

SweetMilkyFilth · 06/11/2020 23:26

I am so so sorry. I know you aren't religious but I would like to say a prayer for your daughter, for you and your family. I hope that's OK. You will all be in my thoughts.

TheDogsMother · 06/11/2020 23:26

I'm so sorry for your loss. How devastating for you. Heartbreaking. My thoughts are with you Thanks

KiriAndLou · 06/11/2020 23:30

DH and I have lit a candle for your little girl.

Sparklfairy · 06/11/2020 23:33

I lit one too. Thinking of you all Flowers

theconstantinoplegardener · 06/11/2020 23:36

I am so terribly sorry. That is just heartbreaking. I'm saying a prayer for your lovely girl tonight. Flowers

dreamer2 · 06/11/2020 23:49

So so sorry for your loss OP 💐💐

Mishmased · 06/11/2020 23:54

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KilljoysDutch · 06/11/2020 23:54

I'm so sorry OP there really aren't words. I'll light a candle for her tonight too x

Sleepforever · 06/11/2020 23:59

This is the most shocking thread I've read on Mumsnet. I am so very sorry for your loss. Words are not enough. Rest in peace little sweetheart xx

mrssunshinexxx · 07/11/2020 00:02

Wow this is one of the saddest most shocking things I've ever read on here
My heart truly goes out to you, this should not of happened to you life is shit and totally cruel
Heartbreaking

SaltyAF · 07/11/2020 00:08

Keep starting and deleting a post, there really are no words. So sorry OP X

NC4Now · 07/11/2020 00:08

This is just heartbreaking. I can’t begin to imagine. I’m so, so, sorry for your loss. Would you like to tell us about her OP?
I know we’re strangers, but this is so sad. I’m sure she was a beautiful baby girl.

Rosecottage888 · 07/11/2020 00:12

Can't believe what I'm reading, my heart is breaking for you. I am so very sorry for your loss x

Fungster · 07/11/2020 00:19

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I will keep your daughter, and all of your family, in my prayers.

user1497974897 · 07/11/2020 00:24

This is heartbreaking. I wish you all the strength and courage you need to face the days ahead. Take one day at a time and take care of yourself. Take offers of help and keep talking to people.

My brother died suddenly in September and my mum has been receiving support from a charity called Sudden if you feel up to talking to anyone. They specialise in helping people for the first 8-10 weeks after a sudden death. They have some good resources for explaining sudden death to children.
sudden.org/

I am so so sorry you ever have to feel this pain 💐

sobsanta · 07/11/2020 00:25

Her name is Wyatt Rose. We called her Woo and Bug. She was our last baby and so we opted to make Wyatt a gender neutral name even if it wasn't really. It suited her so well. Here's a photo taken just a few weeks ago. She was so full of life.

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DavetheCat2001 · 07/11/2020 00:27

I have no words..

mynameisigglepiggle · 07/11/2020 00:27

My heart breaks for you, your husband and your family.
What a beautiful smile on a beautiful little girl x

TonytheDog · 07/11/2020 00:29

I'm so sorry. X

mrssunshinexxx · 07/11/2020 00:32

Oh @sobsanta what a little dolly 💔💔