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Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

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sobsanta · 04/11/2020 13:54

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

Message from MNHQ: Please note, very sad update further down the thread

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Mollscroll · 06/11/2020 22:21

My God. I’m so sorry. This should not be.

loobylou10 · 06/11/2020 22:23

I am so so sorry Thanks

stayathomegardener · 06/11/2020 22:26

Your beautiful, perfect girl.

I am so sorry. X

felineflutter · 06/11/2020 22:28

So sorry for your loss. Flowers

sobsanta · 06/11/2020 22:28

Thank you all so much for your kind words. Honestly, it makes me feel better knowing people are thinking of her, like she really existed in this wider world. Friends and family are lighting candles for her and while I know it won't bring her back, it means that she lives on 😢 I'm not religious but I've never hoped for a heaven more.

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LaundryandDirt · 06/11/2020 22:29

I am so sorry for your loss. Truly horrified reading your update. Shocking.

RIP and I hope you and your family will be okay.

speakout · 06/11/2020 22:29

So sorry

Marypoppinsagain · 06/11/2020 22:30

I am so so sorry I can't stop thinking about you but also your older children.

felineflutter · 06/11/2020 22:30

I have a lit a candle for your daughter OP sending you strength and love. Flowers

Cecilia2016 · 06/11/2020 22:38

I’m so sorry For your loss op

WitchDancer · 06/11/2020 22:39

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. May I ask her name? I understand if you don't want to share on a public forum.

Randomness12 · 06/11/2020 22:46

There are no words OP. I am so sorry for your loss, for what you have been through already and for what you face ahead. Sending you love and light. I too will light a candle for your beautiful girl.

Sevo7 · 06/11/2020 22:52

I am so sorry, this is heartbreaking Sad I can’t even imagine the pain and shock you must be in. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Omeara · 06/11/2020 22:52

I am truly so sorry for your loss.

JammyGeorge · 06/11/2020 22:54

I'm lost for words and shedding a tear for your beautiful girl.

I'm so sorry x

Whoopsmahoot · 06/11/2020 22:57

Good god this is so wrong, I’m so sorry for your loss, I cannot comprehend. Life is so unfair at times. I have no words.

startswithanL · 06/11/2020 22:57

I'm absolutely devastated for you all there are no words I just hope you have some peace soon my thoughts are with you allBiscuit

BirdsDoIt · 06/11/2020 22:58

We will light a candle for your family, and for your little girl, here. I’m so sorry.

TableFlowerss · 06/11/2020 23:00

I’ve not been able to switch off from this all evening. Xxxx

TableFlowerss · 06/11/2020 23:03

Can’t stop thinking of you all xx

HettyPain · 06/11/2020 23:03

I'm so, so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family. xx

Keyperfect · 06/11/2020 23:07

I am so, so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful little girl, Sobsanta. It's heartbreaking. Thinking of you all and holding you all in my prayers.

WanderlustWitch · 06/11/2020 23:09

I am so sorry, my thoughts are with you and your family. I'll light a candle for your little girl x

LittleCabbage · 06/11/2020 23:13

I am so sorry to read your devastating news. This is heart breaking. I hope you at least get some answers Flowers

2018SoFarSoGreat · 06/11/2020 23:14

@sobsanta I am so, so sad to read this horrible news. There are no good words that will do any good, but please know that there are so many of us here thinking of your family and your beautiful girl.

Will light a candle for her tonight, and join you in wishing that heaven is real, and that she was welcomed in with open arms.

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