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Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

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sobsanta · 04/11/2020 13:54

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

Message from MNHQ: Please note, very sad update further down the thread

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lostpasswordagain · 06/11/2020 19:41

Oh my goodness, how absolutely devastating for you all. I am so so sorry for your loss. Please tell us about her.

Level75 · 06/11/2020 19:43

How awful. I'm so sorry for your loss.

queenjaneappro · 06/11/2020 19:44

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending love to you and your family 💐

ew1990 · 06/11/2020 19:44

Oh op I'm so sorry for you and your family. Please talk about your beautiful girl if you think it will help FlowersFlowersFlowers

WankmasterBastardDeLaShithead · 06/11/2020 19:45

Oh God, how utterly awful. Sending lots of love.

NellWilsonsWhiteHair · 06/11/2020 19:45

I am so, so sorry for your loss. xxx

MaryTeenOfScots · 06/11/2020 19:47

I'm so so sorry. I hope you're able to get some answers and that you have support around you. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

LolaLollypop · 06/11/2020 19:47

My God OP. Every parents’ worst nightmare. I am so, so sorry to read this Flowers

Natsel84 · 06/11/2020 19:49

Omg , I'm so so so sorry . Flowers

KindleAndCake · 06/11/2020 19:51

I am so so sorry for your loss OP Flowers

Mumbum2011 · 06/11/2020 19:51

I am so sorry for your loss. What a terrible tragedy. I hope you get answers. Xx

MumbleJunction · 06/11/2020 19:52

What a terrible shock. I am so tremendously sorry your beautiful girl lost her life. It could be any one of us. I'm just so sorry.

twig1234 · 06/11/2020 19:52

Oh no, I'm so sorry to read this. Hopefully you will have some answers. Xx

Giraffey1 · 06/11/2020 19:52

Oh my lovely, I am so very, very sorry. Sending utterly inadequate virtual hugs to you and your H xx

MonicaGellerHyphenBing · 06/11/2020 19:57

So so sorry OP, there are just no words Flowers

GreenLeafTurnip · 06/11/2020 19:58

I'm so, so sorry OP. You and your family are in my thoughts and I'm sending you my love.

BangHeadBrickWall · 06/11/2020 19:58

Sending you love and strength and that I’m so very sorry for the loss of your darling daughter. Flowers

chilledteacher · 06/11/2020 20:00

Jesus, that had got to be the saddest update. OP, I am so very sorry. Xx

SavageBeauty73 · 06/11/2020 20:06

I'm so sorry. Sending love and strength ❤️

Titslikepicassos · 06/11/2020 20:06

Thinking of you and your family @sobsanta. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your little girl

coronafiona · 06/11/2020 20:10

I'm so, so sorry. I too have walked this road. In a way it is harder because toddlers have more of a personality and you know who you lost. Give yourselves a lot of time and care.ThanksThanksThanks

ohfourfoxache · 06/11/2020 20:14

I’m so, so sorry Thanks

Maldivesdream · 06/11/2020 20:16

Really Sad Update I was totally shocked to read about your DD. Thoughts are with you xx

Stinkyjellycat · 06/11/2020 20:17

I’m so, so sorry OP. I can’t begin to imagine the pain you’re all in now. Sending you love and strength Flowers

compulsiveliar2019 · 06/11/2020 20:20

I'm so so sorry! I think this is the most horrific and appalling thing I have ever read on here. There are no words. I pray you get some answers as to what happened and that somehow someday you find some peace. Sending thoughts and prayers.