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Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

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sobsanta · 04/11/2020 13:54

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

Message from MNHQ: Please note, very sad update further down the thread

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Literaryseed · 06/11/2020 19:04

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. There are absolutely no words.

Autumnvisage · 06/11/2020 19:05

I am so so so sorry for your loss OP. I can’t even begin to imagine how you all feel. You have my deepest sympathies Flowers xxx

Mandatorymongoose · 06/11/2020 19:06

I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter, it is unbearably sad and so bloody unfair.

Please know if you want to talk about her, about how you feel or you just want a brief distraction there are always people on Mumsnet ready to provide an ear.

Whatever you do / feel right now is ok, there is no "right" way to be.

Like lots of other people i will think of your family Flowers

Widebum · 06/11/2020 19:06

I’m also sending my love and condolences, I just have no words, I’m so sorry xxx

McPie · 06/11/2020 19:07

Such a devastating update, I'm so sorry for your families loss Flowers

TheGoodEnoughWife · 06/11/2020 19:07

I am so sorry for your loss. How utterly awful x

480Widdio · 06/11/2020 19:08

💐 Hugs.

InglouriousBasterd · 06/11/2020 19:12

I have no words, I’m so so sorry. I can’t imagine the pain Flowers

MadameMiggeldy · 06/11/2020 19:16

I am so very sorry for your loss. 💐

GVR0510 · 06/11/2020 19:16

I am so sorry for your loss. I'm so shocked reading that.

chickenyhead · 06/11/2020 19:16
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RandomMess · 06/11/2020 19:24

I am so so so sorry SadSadThanks

There are just no words x

daisydalrymple · 06/11/2020 19:24

Oh dear lord, this is the worst update I’ve ever read. OP you will all be in my thoughts when I light a candle tonight. I pray you all have lots of support in RL to get you through this most horrific of times.

satnighttakeaway · 06/11/2020 19:24

Oh my, how awfully sad, condolences to you all Flowers

GenuineKlatchianPottery · 06/11/2020 19:27

Flowers So sorry OP.

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 06/11/2020 19:28

Another randomer on the internet sending you condolences.

I'm so sorry, how desperately sad for you all.

SummerHouse · 06/11/2020 19:32

Hesitated to post because what the hell can anyone say? This is not supposed to happen. Unfair is such an inadequate way to describe it. I hope one day you can celebrate her and what she brought you in her devestatingly short time. But for now I hope you can just get through each moment.

kos88 · 06/11/2020 19:32

I am so, so sorry for the loss of your daughter

SionnachRua · 06/11/2020 19:33

Poor little soul. Life is so, so unfair sometimes, it really is. Sending you all the love Flowers

Wavingwhiledrowning · 06/11/2020 19:33

I read your update earlier OP, and didn't know what to say. I still don't. There are literally no words that will do.

So many of us are thinking of you and your family, and your beautiful girl right now.

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LifeInAHamsterWheel · 06/11/2020 19:34

I have no words Sad Flowers

Mylittlepony374 · 06/11/2020 19:35

I'm so so sorry for your loss.

alwaysscared · 06/11/2020 19:35

There are no words, I am so, so sorry Thanks

Sexnotgender · 06/11/2020 19:37

I’m so sorry Flowers there are no words.

SilverOtter · 06/11/2020 19:39

I am so sorry you lost your beautiful girl. Sending love and prayers x

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