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Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

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sobsanta · 04/11/2020 13:54

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

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pearljamming · 06/11/2020 17:42

Heartbreaking. I am so sorry Thanks

PubicMenace · 06/11/2020 17:42

So very very sorry. I'm heartbroken for you sobsanta and your family Flowers

whatk8ydid · 06/11/2020 17:42

I'm so sorry, OP. As you will already know I'm sure, there are no words. Child Bereavement UK is a phenomenal charity which has brilliant resources on how to help talk to children about death in a way that they can understand and also has a helpline run by parents who have experienced similar. I'd really recommend looking them up when you have the headspace. Flowers Thinking of you.

www.childbereavementuk.org/supporting-bereaved-children-and-young-people

JohnnyBullets · 06/11/2020 17:43

So very very sad and sorry to hear this news. Love and thoughts with you all Xx

Dinocan · 06/11/2020 17:43

Oh my god. This is the most terrible thing. I read your post the other day after I had taken my own dd to hospital with breathing problems. I can’t even imagine what you are going through. I’m so so sorry Flowers

Nomorepies · 06/11/2020 17:44

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Squigglypig2 · 06/11/2020 17:44

I am so sorry for your loss, absolutely devastating for you all. I can't imagine how you are feeling- just take it 20 minutes at a time.

dottiedaisee · 06/11/2020 17:44

Am so sorry. Beyond heartbreaking.💐🕯X

Smellbellina · 06/11/2020 17:44

I’m so so sorry Flowers

Itwontrainallthetime · 06/11/2020 17:44

I'm so so sorry, there are no words , my thoughts are with your family xxxxx

WhatHaveIFound · 06/11/2020 17:45

So very sorry for your loss Flowers

Chocachocaholic · 06/11/2020 17:46

I can't even imagine how you must be feeling! So sorry for your loss ❤️ xxx

IRIELADY · 06/11/2020 17:47

I can only echo what others have said. So sorry for your loss.

borageforager · 06/11/2020 17:49

I am so sorry for your loss.

Mylittlesandwich · 06/11/2020 17:50

Oh OP I am so sorry. What a horrible shock. Life is so bloody cruel.

lostandfound55 · 06/11/2020 17:55

I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers

Titterofwit · 06/11/2020 17:57

I am so sorry to hear of the sad loss of your beautiful daughter.

What is her name?

Sundaypolodog · 06/11/2020 17:59

I'm so very very sorry for your loss. I really feel speechless This has brought tears to my eyes 💐💐

esthergodwin · 06/11/2020 17:59

So heartbreaking and shocking to read your update. I'm so sorry. Praying for strength and peace for you and your family. Flowers

ApplestheHare · 06/11/2020 18:02

I'm so so sorry you have lost her, this is heartbreaking Flowers

Ihaveyourback · 06/11/2020 18:02

Oh op, I saw your first post and never ever imagined you would posting an update like this. I am so shocked, and feel so sick to my stomach reading your post. I hope you have people around you getting you through this in real life. You certainly have all of us.

Your dds must be devastated too, and your dh. So so sorry Flowers
You are in my prayers this evening.

GammyLeg · 06/11/2020 18:02

What a terrible shock. Heartbroken for you @sobsanta.

Blingismything · 06/11/2020 18:03

So very very sorry for the loss of your darling girl, such a devastating shock. I too have shed a few tears for her and your family. 💕💕

Mummydaydreams · 06/11/2020 18:04

How completely awful to lose your beautiful little girl, life can be so unfair and wrong. I'm so so sorry for your loss xx

picklemewalnuts · 06/11/2020 18:06

You are living our nightmares, I'm so sorry. I am holding your family in my heart, and pray you can take comfort in each other.