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My toddler died today

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acquiescence · 01/10/2019 14:12

My baby died today. I found him in his cot this morning. He was completely well yesterday and has no health problems. They are completing a post mortem today.
I don’t know what to do. Why would a healthy child just die? I have a 4 year old and don’t know how to handle it with him. Any advice welcome, I’m obviously a mixture of completely numb and a mess.

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holidays987 · 01/10/2019 20:42

I've gone cold from reading your post. Every parent's darkest fear and I am so very very sorry for you and your family. Sending you sympathies and well wishes. So sorry Thanks

harvey30 · 01/10/2019 20:44

My love is with u omg lots of hugs . How terrible . Ur heart must be broken. Hopefully the postmortem will tell u all u want to know. Nothing will make up for losing baby but at least u will know why. Omg its so terrible. Sending all my love n strength to u at this heartbreaking time xxxx

kate288 · 01/10/2019 20:44

I am so unbelievably sorry, I cant even imagine what you are going through. Sending my love and thoughts x

Csleeptime · 01/10/2019 20:45

Love and hugs OP, how very sorry we all are for your loss. Something nobody should ever experience xx

ApplestheHare · 01/10/2019 20:45

I'm so, so sorry.x

mumderland · 01/10/2019 20:48

I'm so so sorry Thanks

DeadButDelicious · 01/10/2019 20:51

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I am sending all of my love to you and your family and I am glad you have support around you for the difficult times ahead. Thanks

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 01/10/2019 20:52

Oh op im so sorry

GreatestShowUnicorn · 01/10/2019 20:54

Sorry doesn't seem enough xXx
Winstons wish are great.

AnnaMariaDreams · 01/10/2019 20:55

I’m very sorry about the loss of your beautiful baby.

lostonadustyrock · 01/10/2019 20:57

I'm so terribly sorry. So many of us on here are thinking of you tonight.

Second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour - that's all you need to do for now.

Flowers Flowers

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buddy79 · 01/10/2019 20:59

I’m so so sorry for your loss. I don’t know any words that can make it better. We are all thinking of you and your family this night xxx

ClemDanFango · 01/10/2019 21:01

I wish there was something I could say to comfort you at this horrific time. Sad
I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through, my thoughts are with you OP and your family. Take care of yourself and let others take of you too. Flowers

estellamay · 01/10/2019 21:02

Sending you so much love. I'm so sorry for your loss xx

Voila212 · 01/10/2019 21:03

I'm so very sorry for your devastating loss xx

Mummy2one2016 · 01/10/2019 21:04

I'm so sorry, hope you have someone with you

shinynewapple · 01/10/2019 21:04

I am so sorry, there are no words x x Thanks

bbciii · 01/10/2019 21:05

My heart is broken for you. I'm so so sorry this has happened to you. Life is so unfair sometimes.

There really are no words. Sorry doesn't do it justice.

Sending hugs and love Thanks

kos88 · 01/10/2019 21:12

I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby xx

ChevalierTialys · 01/10/2019 21:15

You have described my worst nightmare, I am so sorry for your loss.. nothing anyone says can make this hurt any less but, I hope you get answers soon.

Carpetburns · 01/10/2019 21:18

Sending love and strength to you at this dreadful time Thanks

Marlena1 · 01/10/2019 21:26

So so very sorry, xxx

user1474894224 · 01/10/2019 21:27

So sorry for your loss. 🌻

MollyHuaCha · 01/10/2019 21:29

How shocking. I am so, so sad for you.

I hope you are having lots of support today and in the coming weeks and months.

Use MN as as when you need us. There will always be someone here to listen.

Take care of yourself. Thanks

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