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Need hand holding as I sit with my dad who is dying

255 replies

kansasmum · 01/06/2013 02:17

My Dad is end stages of liver cancer. I'm sat with him tonight as the normal
Nurse cover was in an availabl

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expatinscotland · 07/06/2013 01:21

May he rest peacefully.xx

shabbatheGreek · 07/06/2013 01:24

Oh love - was going to say RIP but, my weird personality says - Cause havoc in heaven. Mr Kansas if you get the chance would you find my two sons and tell them I love them?

I was going to say I am very sorry for your loss and then I stopped myself. My Dad said the 'right words' a couple of days ago....'tell your friend on that t'internet 'Well done' for loving her Dad. xx

You have done the perfect thing that a child could do for its parent. You have loved them and cared for them - the same thing they did for you when you were a small child.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

fackinell · 07/06/2013 01:37

My sincere condolences, Kansas. Been following this thread and You did absolutely everything you could to make your Dad's passing comfortable.
RIP Daddy Kansas.

Homebird8 · 07/06/2013 01:53

A soft warm sleep for you now then Kansasmum. I am so sorry for your loss but so pleased that your dad's passing was peaceful and is now over and you were there for him at the end. It's the next chapter for him and for you.

Oh, and everything ShabbatheGreek said.

xxx Flowers Sad Flowers

TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong · 07/06/2013 06:08

As ever, (am long time namechanger) Shabba says everything we need to say so perfectly. Smile

Your have done everything a child could have done for a parent, and that in itself is reflection of what a wonderful Dad we have learned this week that Daddy Kansas must have been.

Have a good rest today. xx

Portofino · 07/06/2013 06:14

Oh Kansas! Sad. I am so glad the end was peaceful and that you were all with him. RIP xxxx

Themobstersknife · 07/06/2013 06:26

Have been thinking of you. It sounds like the end was peaceful. RIP Mr K . so sorry for your loss. I recognise the numb feeling. Keep posting if it helps.
Much love to you and yours.

Weegiemum · 07/06/2013 06:56

Just read this. So sorry for your loss, Kansas, but glad to hear that he died so peacefully, surrounded by love. Take care of yourself xx

LegoAcupuncture · 07/06/2013 07:07

So very sorry Kansas. Flowers

Hope you managed some much needed sleep.

Awakeagain · 07/06/2013 07:47

I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss
I'm so glad he is finally not in pain xx

dontmixthecolours · 07/06/2013 08:18

I'm so sorry for your loss Kansas. I'm sure you're dad was really proud of you

Be good to yourself, I hope you got some rest

Hooleywhipper · 07/06/2013 08:32

Oh my dear Kansas, have been watching your thread,silently wept & occasionally laughing with you. Have never known what to post before. Your are a truly wonderful daughter, please be kind to yourself.

May your dear Dad be at peace now.Am so sorry for your loss xxx

PostBellumBugsy · 07/06/2013 08:56

So glad to hear he passed peacefully with all of you at his side - I think that is the best you could have hoped for.

Dutchoma · 07/06/2013 09:09

Sorry for your loss Kansasmum, but grateful that he passed away peacefully and with his family by his side. Prayers continuing as you come to terms with his loss, deal with your mother and prepare for the funeral.

BIWI · 07/06/2013 09:35

Sorry for your loss, kansasmum, but glad that he is now at peace. And he will have had a huge amount of comfort from your constant, caring presence.

Now it's time for you to take care of yourself.

Flowers

Snog · 07/06/2013 09:47
Flowers Sorry for your loss kansasmum, your dad was lucky to have you with him at the end and I am sure you will gain comfort from having been there for him in days to come. I wish you strength for dealing with your mum.
Rosa · 07/06/2013 09:48

Hope you managed to get some rest and build up some strength to face the days ahead...I am glad he went peacefully with his family nearby.

TwentyTinyToes · 07/06/2013 09:49

So very sorry. X

ItsDecisionTime · 07/06/2013 09:55

So very very sorry. Remember in the days, weeks and months to come that there are a huge group of MNers with their arms firmly wrapped round you xx

ChimeForChange · 07/06/2013 10:05

Been thinking about you and your family Kansas and checking in.

I'm glad he went peacefully and that you were all there with him.

I hope you can all pull together in the near future and stay strong, and that your mum can pull in with you and support each other.

Do come back and talk to us, let us know how you're getting on, there's still so much support here x x

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 07/06/2013 10:08

Oh Kansas so sorry for your loss.

Your darling dad is at peace now and I am so glad you were all there with him, what an honour.

Be kind to yourself xx

IDismyname · 07/06/2013 10:09

Oh Kansas - I'm sorry to hear that your Dad has gone. You've been such an inspiration to us all.

Go and get some rest - sounds like you need to treat yourself gently.

I hope the situation with your Mum resolves itself, too.

Keep posting. We're all here to hold your hand if need be. x

20122012 · 07/06/2013 10:24

So ver sorry to hear of your loss Kansas.

Please take comfort in knowing that you were there for your dear father in the last stages of his life.

You should be so proud of yourself for getting through probably one of the hardest times of your life.

Your dad is now resting peacefully.

For you Flowers xx

BastardDog · 07/06/2013 10:29

So sorry Kansas. Flowers

Glad the end was peaceful and you were all there for him and each other.

Take some time for yourself now.

WandaDoff · 07/06/2013 10:38

It will be the 3rd anniversary of the death of my own Darling Daddy on Monday.

He had cancer, & went peacefully with us all there like your Dad.

Reading your posts this week has brought back loads of bittersweet memories from that time.
I'm glad I was there though & I can remember how surreal it all seemed.

Take it easy on yourself, you did wonderfully well this week in the worst circumstances.
You were exactly the daughter that your Dad needed. xx