Need hand holding as I sit with my dad who is dying

[kansasmum]

My Dad is end stages of liver cancer. I'm sat with him tonight as the normal
Nurse cover was in an availabl

Dad very peaceful, urine output very minimal now, breathing shallow still

Thinking of you, and hoping that your dad remains peaceful xxx

Thinking of you x

Thinking of you and virtually holding your hand xx

Thinking of you and your Dad. I am in Devon (Okehampton way), if I can be of any help.

Just found this thread Kansas.

You are so brave and strong. I know this sounds stupid but I've been so touched by this thread I feel like I'm with you!

Hope you have all the strength you need.

Sending you the warmest wishes and thoughts x x

Thinking of you and your family Kansas. xx

I lost my dad to Liver cancer 10 years ago. He died at home. It's terribly hard, but you are doing so well. I was always comforted afterwards by the thought that as hard as it was we'd all been there for him as much as possible, right til the end. I empathise and recognise your thoughts of not wanting to lose him, but wanting it to be over. I also recognise some of the family dynamics that you've got going on.

Keep going, if you can. You'll be glad you did. Then when your dad is finally at peace make sure you take some time for yourself.

I'm also virtually holding your hand.

I've only just see. This thread I'm squeezing your hand very tightly right now xx

Thinking of you, you are doing so well being there for everyone. X

Thinking of you Kansas, you're so brave

I really admire your strength. Take care

Xxxxxxx

Thanks everyone. God its so hard. Lovely district nurse came out to change the driver this pm- asked me how I was doing! Big mistake- don't be nice to me or I cry!!
I am SO tired. ED has come home from work- they are being so supportive of her. She's offered to pick up her little brother from school so now I've tidied up a bit I think I'll take her upon that.
I have a cleaner who comes on Fridays but the house is a mess so my best friend has offered to come over tomorrow and help her give the house a good sort and tidy up and clean. Such a lovely thing to do.
Dh has gone to London and will be back this pm.

Darling Dad still hangs on- went for a walk in the lanes near my parents house this lunchtime with my sister and the dogs- was lovely. Sad too- mum and dad walked up there just a few months ago before dad got ill- he used to tire and would sit at a bench and wait for mum to come back. The bench overlooks a lovely lake:) We both cried.

Just to add to the misery i have the period from hell:( PMS+ Grief+ exhaustion isn't a good mix I have decided!

Its such a beautiful day and I wish my dad could see it and could be fishing by the river again:(

Life's a bitch.

Yes, life is a bitch.

Glad you've got RL friends to support you.

Thinking of you.

So good that you can see some positives in this awful situation. I keep checking on the t hread to see if there are any updates. So glad you are having some real life support.

Hello Kansas,
This is the first time I've seen this thread and my heart goes out to you. My mum passed away from leukaemia in January - she was at home, being cared for by us and the hospice nurses. For her it was much faster than for your dad as she was gone within a day. I wish I had known that urine production shows how close to the end a person is getting as my sister was not in the house (she was collecting the syringe prescription with my DH) when mum died.
You sound so strong and kind. It's no wonder your mum has felt able to let loose on you. It's not fair at all but I suppose it must be her way of dealing with things.
I hope your dad stays peaceful.

Still in my thoughts. Hope your dad remains peaceful xxxxxx

Read this last night and was moved by your account, such a difficult time. All the very best.

Trust AF to visit at the most in opportune moments. Same thing happened to me. Just when I'd been in the same clothes for 48 hours and I was wobbly from little food and no sleep.

I'm glad you made it out for that walk. It sounds truly beautiful although terrible sad. Perhaps it was good that someone was nice to you. A few tears are healthy and may give you the strength to carry on. The DNs we had for mum I'll be forever grateful to.

Try to get a little sleep. It does sound as if you are close to the end.

I've just read through your thread and just wanted to let you know that you are doing great, your dad will be so greatful for all you have done for him
I've sobbed as I've read through this as reminded me of the last days with my dad
Sending you a little hug through the tinterweb

Praying again for a peaceful night.

Here's hoping for a peaceful night for you all, whatever happens.
I know so much that feeling of wanting it all to end, but madly hoping it never ends, too.
The last days with my dad are such special memories, though, and I am glad that I and my sisters got to share his last days with him, if that doesn't sound too bizarre...
I am sure that your Dad will be aware of your loving presence

My darling daddy passed away at 9.40pm this evening. We were all with him and he died very peacefully.
I am truly exhausted and to be honest a bit numb.
My sister and I had nipped home to get my overnight bag and we got back and 5 mins later dad was gone. I held his hand as he died.
Going to bed now. Thank you all for your support. You will never know how grateful I am for the support.

Rest in peace Mr k. Deepest sympathies from me too.xxx