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Could do with some hand-holding please?

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ChubbyKitty · 20/05/2013 06:32

Horrific accident in my parents house. Mum and grandad have both gone, dad is stable, and only found one of three cats.

I'm 21, I did not expect to lose my mum this soon at all. It hasn't even sunk in properly yet, and I know when it does I will be completely destroyed. What do I even doSad

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mummylin2495 · 28/08/2013 09:09

Crikey you work late ! Glad you are feeling a bit more normal. But if you find yourself slipping back do go and see your doc. Hope you have managed a good lay in this morning .

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ChubbyKitty · 28/08/2013 12:05

It's reasonably good yesSmile

Need to get out and deliver the Avon today so I think I'll rope my friend into helping. She won't mind. Ill give her tea.

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mummylin2495 · 29/08/2013 12:00

Hope you got all your deliveries done. How did you sleep last night ? Are you feeling a bit more together, I see Zing has suggested you come to the night owl thread, do that cause I'm on it too !!! How is your dad doing these days ?

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ChubbyKitty · 29/08/2013 18:50

I might do if I'm kept up again tonight! Still working on the bloody fleasHmm

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mummylin2495 · 30/08/2013 11:00

Glad ou found owls thread. Didnt want to mention about this thread in case you didn't want to speak about it. Hope you manage to fix your pink vax ! Have a good day maybe catch you tonight ?

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ChubbyKitty · 30/08/2013 11:52

Should hopefully be a busy day today so will be distracted from everything.

I will definitely be there tonight!Smile

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mummylin2495 · 02/09/2013 12:06

Wasnt on other thread for long last night. As I was tired and I thought everyone had gone. It's nice to have a thread where you can chat about any old thing. Glad you remembered the person I was trying to think of from holby ! Hope all goes well for your friend today. Your turn will soon come ! Are you speaking to the other person who wasnt nice to you. I wouldn't of bothered with her anymore. Some people have no regard for anyone's feelings at all. See you later

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ChubbyKitty · 02/09/2013 12:41

I'm sort of keeping an emotional distance. Ill still talk to her about froth but ill leave the big stuff out as there's better people to talk to about those things.

I haven't heard from the other friend yet, I'm eagerly awaiting the news Smile

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mummylin2495 · 02/09/2013 13:52

My brother has just been and told me his wife's nephew just given birth at 24 weeks to a 1 lb 8 oz baby girl ! God how tiny is that not even the weight of. Bag of sugar. Hope baby girl will be ok but I expect it will be a long road for her.

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ChubbyKitty · 02/09/2013 16:25

Aw! So tinyyy!

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mummylin2495 · 02/09/2013 22:52

Well what's the baby news ?

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ChubbyKitty · 03/09/2013 00:15

She is absolutely beautifulSmile

Joined the world this morning and I've seen a picture of a very proud looking daddy with his little girl and its just heart-warmingSmile

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mummylin2495 · 03/09/2013 00:23

Mum and baby both ok and your friend not too traumatised ! Details ! Weight name etc how exciting for your friend. I bet she is proud of herself now she has done it.

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ChubbyKitty · 03/09/2013 01:02

Don't want to post her name as its quite unusual and friend is worried about a few people finding out (wouldn't put it past some people to stalk MN for a non-MNer tbh!) but it IS very pretty. And she was 5lb something which I'm told is about the average size? I think I weight about 6/7 so must have been a tubby babyGrin

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mummylin2495 · 03/09/2013 01:12

No that's not average weight, that's quite a small baby. I understand about the name,

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ChubbyKitty · 03/09/2013 01:19

Ah right okay! I have no idea about baby weights. I do know the 19lb baby born in China was very big though!

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mummylin2495 · 03/09/2013 01:35

Oh my god I would f split in half. My babies were under the average and they were6lb 1 and 6lb 3 , so your friends must look like a little doll. My sis had twins both roughly the same as your friends baby. Think it's about 7 and a half for boys and 7 for a girl. But of course they are born all shapes and sizes

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ChubbyKitty · 03/09/2013 01:53

For logistical reasons I wouldn't mind a nice small one. But of be happy with it just being healthy really.

19lb is ridiculous. I have a ruler and I've seen 10cm and the two ideas just don't blend well in my head.

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mummylin2495 · 03/09/2013 01:57

Ha ha I could of had 3 babies with the weight of that huge one, a
Most a toddler on its first day, the poor mum oh my god that's awful. Yes your right as long as its healthy , it's fine

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ChubbyKitty · 05/09/2013 01:09

One of our drivers(he's new) had a delivery to the street today and gave me a lift as I'm only one street over.

'Thats where that house blew up isn't it??'

Cue most awkward car drive in the history of the universe.

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mummylin2495 · 05/09/2013 02:59

Oh , can imagine he felt terrible when he found out the truth.

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ChubbyKitty · 05/09/2013 10:57

He certainly went very quiet after that.

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mummylin2495 · 05/09/2013 11:42

I bet he wished the ground would swallow him up. Well have you been in touch with your friend yet ? Can you go round for your cuddle with the baby, I know you are chomping at the bit to get there Grin
On a different note how is your dad doing theses days ?

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ChubbyKitty · 05/09/2013 18:39

My dads getting a house soon and getting lots of furniture and stuff for it I think which will be nice for him hopefully.

I really am but I haven't spoken to her today as I've been really busy (overheating the Hoover mainly)

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mummylin2495 · 05/09/2013 18:53

That's good to hear about your dad. Is he going to stay in the same area or is he changing ? Will be good when he gets it then he can start to rebuild his life a bit. Hope you got to see the baby !