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Can anyone find a middle ground between me and DH’s name lists?

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namepains · 25/05/2025 21:57

Have NC’d for this Blush

DH and I have very, very different tastes when it comes to names. I’ll give you our lists below, but we’re nowhere close in terms of taste. What sounds nice to me DH hates and vice versa. I apologise profusely if anyone’s name comes up, I am really not meaning to offend anyone but names are very personal and tastes are very different. Please don’t take any offence and fwiw, my name always comes up on outdated/names people don’t like threads Grin for context, we live in Scotland and DH is Scottish, I’m English. If there’s a specific reason for DH not liking mine, I’ve put it next to the name.

My list:

Lily- too twee apparently
Rosie- he’s said he likes it but not enough to say it every day henceforth. He doesn’t like variations such as Rosaline/d, Rosa or Rose.
Daisy- brief period of time a girl wasn’t nice to DS with this name
Jasmine - Aladdin (who honestly thinks that!)
Ophelia- apparently pretentious, although I love Hamlet!
Scarlett
Tara- his first dog was called that so apparently he can’t name DD ‘after’ his dog Hmm
Emily
Ruby

DH’s list:

Michelle
Siobhan
Lisa
Louise
Mhairi
Bernadette

I particularly don’t like Bernadette and Siobhan. But honestly, I don’t like any of them. No connotations or personal issues with people with these names but I just don’t like them. Does anyone have any suggestions for a middle ground? I’m not sure there is one! We had a boy name agreed immediately but we’re worlds apart on a girls one Sad

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DeSoleil · 25/05/2025 21:59

You’re names are fine, nothing spectacular but all good solid names

His choices are awful except for Louise.

DeSoleil · 25/05/2025 21:59

Eloise?

Rowen32 · 25/05/2025 21:59

It's hilarious how 80s all his names are 😅

namepains · 25/05/2025 21:59

Thank you @DeSoleilfor agreeing with me, he’s made it out that my ones are ridiculous/awful but imo his are dreadful!!

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Rowen32 · 25/05/2025 22:00

I do think Aladdin when I hear Jasmine though

namepains · 25/05/2025 22:00

@Rowen32right?!

@DeSoleilI do like that name but one of my childhood bullies had that name so I do have a connotation to that unfortunately Sad

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SupposesRoses · 25/05/2025 22:01

Tamsin
Camille
Elisa
Elise
Lucia
Lucie
Marie
Pearl
Alicia
Elisha
Juliet

Canyousewcushions · 25/05/2025 22:01

Flora
Eloise
Daphne
Sarah
Clara
Carla

TomatoSandwiches · 25/05/2025 22:01

Eleanor
Clare
Isabelle
Harriet
Lydia

namepains · 25/05/2025 22:01

@Rowen32fair enough, I didn’t think that people would but he’s been vindicated on that one I guess Grin

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namepains · 25/05/2025 22:02

@SupposesRosesJuliet was actually my first ever suggestion which was shot down in flames.

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Newstartplease24 · 25/05/2025 22:02

Elise is Elizabeth in Irish. So he might like that (it’s like Lisa too) while being pretty enough for you?

Lassango · 25/05/2025 22:02

Mily
Rosbhan
Disa
Jasousie
Opheairi
Scarladette

Dstoat · 25/05/2025 22:03

Elodie
Octavia (Tavi)

Rach247 · 25/05/2025 22:03

Jasmine definitely fits more on his list than yours….

namepains · 25/05/2025 22:04

@Lassangothat took me longer than it should have Grin

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NuffSaidSam · 25/05/2025 22:04

I'm not keen on most of your names, but his ones are absolutely terrible!

It sounds like he likes Rosie best from your list. What's your favourite from his list?

Can you say what your sons name is? Some can get a flavour for what you both like.

(Jasmine is definitely Aladdin btw).

NuffSaidSam · 25/05/2025 22:05

Lassango · 25/05/2025 22:02

Mily
Rosbhan
Disa
Jasousie
Opheairi
Scarladette

I like Scarladette!

Sinkingfeeling952 · 25/05/2025 22:05

Sadie?

I agree I always think Aladdin when I hear Jasmine 😂

McCartneyOnTheHeath · 25/05/2025 22:05

Wow, spot the guy who went to school in Scotland in the 80s/90s (so did I!).
Can you start by looking through the top 20 most popular girls names and seeing which ones you both like? Then that may give you an idea of the style of name you can agree on and then look for more names like that.

ETA Sorry if you've done this already!

Needmorelego · 25/05/2025 22:06

Lisa or Louise on his list are nice.
You like Lily.
I think an L name maybe?

Laura
Lola
Lila
Lillan

dontcomeatme · 25/05/2025 22:06

How about joining some together,
So Michelle and Daisy - Maisie
Instead of Scarlett or Siobhan, go for Charlotte ?
Instead of Tara or Lily would yous do Matilda NN Tilly ?

Or first and middle names
I like Emily Louise for example.

TomatoSandwiches · 25/05/2025 22:07

His is just a list of girls he fancied at some point op, it's a bit odd to want to name your own baby after your past crushes.

Pemba · 25/05/2025 22:07

You have some nice names on your list, his list seems a bit outdated tbh, especially Michelle and Bernadette, although they're all nice enough.

Comedycook · 25/05/2025 22:07

Lucy
Anna
Annabelle
Millie