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Can anyone find a middle ground between me and DH’s name lists?

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namepains · 25/05/2025 21:57

Have NC’d for this Blush

DH and I have very, very different tastes when it comes to names. I’ll give you our lists below, but we’re nowhere close in terms of taste. What sounds nice to me DH hates and vice versa. I apologise profusely if anyone’s name comes up, I am really not meaning to offend anyone but names are very personal and tastes are very different. Please don’t take any offence and fwiw, my name always comes up on outdated/names people don’t like threads Grin for context, we live in Scotland and DH is Scottish, I’m English. If there’s a specific reason for DH not liking mine, I’ve put it next to the name.

My list:

Lily- too twee apparently
Rosie- he’s said he likes it but not enough to say it every day henceforth. He doesn’t like variations such as Rosaline/d, Rosa or Rose.
Daisy- brief period of time a girl wasn’t nice to DS with this name
Jasmine - Aladdin (who honestly thinks that!)
Ophelia- apparently pretentious, although I love Hamlet!
Scarlett
Tara- his first dog was called that so apparently he can’t name DD ‘after’ his dog Hmm
Emily
Ruby

DH’s list:

Michelle
Siobhan
Lisa
Louise
Mhairi
Bernadette

I particularly don’t like Bernadette and Siobhan. But honestly, I don’t like any of them. No connotations or personal issues with people with these names but I just don’t like them. Does anyone have any suggestions for a middle ground? I’m not sure there is one! We had a boy name agreed immediately but we’re worlds apart on a girls one Sad

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plan4now · 25/05/2025 22:08

I like Mhairi, but agree the rest of his lists sounds like girls born in the 1980s.

I know young children with pretty much all of your names, and I think many of those names could become the 1980s names of now!

Could you go for something more traditional or Scottish/celtic to be a bit more timeless?

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 25/05/2025 22:08

Katherine or variations:
Kate, Cate, Catrina, Katrine (very pretty Loch north of Glasgow if he wants a Scottish link)

Lassango · 25/05/2025 22:08

NuffSaidSam · 25/05/2025 22:05

I like Scarladette!

Top entry in the 10 most popular girls names 2027. You heard it here first.

😎

UnimaginableWindBird · 25/05/2025 22:08

Isobel
Fenella
Elspeth
Una
Clara
Freya
Catriona

namepains · 25/05/2025 22:09

@NuffSaidSamthat’s fair, I still feel vindicated that his are worse Grin he does like Rosie but apparently because he likes Cracklin Rosie by Neil Diamond, he can’t call his DD that as it’s about a prostitute (I think?). If I HAD to call DD one from his list, I’d pick Lisa, but I give it a 5/10 on how much I like it.

The name we would’ve called this baby if it was a boy would’ve been Finn.

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lucasnorth · 25/05/2025 22:09

Taking names on his list and making them sound a bit more like yours…
Louisa?
Lisette?
Maria?

AyeDeadOn · 25/05/2025 22:09

Maria
Mary
Lucy
Lucia
Niamh
Evie
Roise (pronounced roh shah)
Lena

SwedishEdith · 25/05/2025 22:10

I like
Rosie/Rosa
Tara
Siobhan
Lisa
Louise

So, I'm trying to find a blend between those.

Lina
Roisin
Cora
Lara

Springinthecity · 25/05/2025 22:10

Marianne
Marina
Louisa

Rowen32 · 25/05/2025 22:11

Fiadh if you both liked Finn?

Moreteaandchocolate · 25/05/2025 22:12

Your list is lovely! DH’s I only like Louise - how about Eloise or Louisa? He needs to come up with some more ideas as his are very niche or dated.

A few ideas -

Niamh
Maeve
Elise
Maya
Iris
Lilia
Lila
Amber
Clara
Alice
Lucy
Poppy
Maisie
Matilda
Hazel
Olivia
Isabella
Evelyn
Eleanor
Gabriella
Sienna
Sophia
Cara
Lara
Chloe
Zoe
Phoebe
Penelope / Penny
Philippa / Pippa
Harriet
Imogen

plan4now · 25/05/2025 22:13

Oh yes, Róise might be a good shout - Gaelic vibes for him, the Irish for Rose for you? Louisa also a good suggestion.

FrankyGoesToBollywood · 25/05/2025 22:13

His names are hideous and dated and yours are all lovely. There’s no middle ground sorry.

MidnightPatrol · 25/05/2025 22:13

Rowen32 · 25/05/2025 21:59

It's hilarious how 80s all his names are 😅

My DH was similar with girls names.

I was almost speechless after he reeled them off - like a class list from the 80s.

Thankfully we had boys.

NuffSaidSam · 25/05/2025 22:15

namepains · 25/05/2025 22:09

@NuffSaidSamthat’s fair, I still feel vindicated that his are worse Grin he does like Rosie but apparently because he likes Cracklin Rosie by Neil Diamond, he can’t call his DD that as it’s about a prostitute (I think?). If I HAD to call DD one from his list, I’d pick Lisa, but I give it a 5/10 on how much I like it.

The name we would’ve called this baby if it was a boy would’ve been Finn.

So we're looking for something between Lisa and Rosie...

Lucy
Darcie
Lyla
Zoe
Rowan
Lacey
Esmee

Growuppeople · 25/05/2025 22:15

Don’t ask on here you’ll just get even more awful suggestions!
we had a shortlist and named them completely differently you do not no till they here!

Springinthecity · 25/05/2025 22:15

Or Elizabeth / Theresa nn Tessa.
Do you have the Scottish island ones : Skye, Iona

Pennula · 25/05/2025 22:15

Cora
Alicia
Tamara (Tammy)

namepains · 25/05/2025 22:16

@FrankyGoesToBollywoodthank you, I agree Grin

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Candleabra · 25/05/2025 22:16

Roisin
Elspeth
Lilian

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 25/05/2025 22:16

More common over the pond but you can use Finn or Finlay for a girl if you wish.

hyggetyggedotorg · 25/05/2025 22:18

Lila - halfway between Lily & Lisa.

Fern - similar(ish) sound to Finn.

jfoyo26 · 25/05/2025 22:19

Louisa!

I wanted Louisa but my husband didn't like it so my daughter is Louise, I love it now and have never met another child with this name yet. There is also a Laura in her class which I think my also be a good compromise name for you both.

SunComeBack · 25/05/2025 22:21

Something pretty and classic
Sarah
Emma
Chloe
Lucy
Rachel
Claire
Laura
Lauren
Natalie
Sophie
Amy
Isabelle

Ikeameatballs · 25/05/2025 22:21

Mischa
Marianne
Maeve
Mila
Lila
Loretta
Laura
Seren
Sophie
Sarah
Selina
Bella
Bonnie
Amy
Anna
Kate
Romy
Dina
Noelle
Posy