Can anyone find a middle ground between me and DH’s name lists?

[namepains]

Have NC’d for this

DH and I have very, very different tastes when it comes to names. I’ll give you our lists below, but we’re nowhere close in terms of taste. What sounds nice to me DH hates and vice versa. I apologise profusely if anyone’s name comes up, I am really not meaning to offend anyone but names are very personal and tastes are very different. Please don’t take any offence and fwiw, my name always comes up on outdated/names people don’t like threads for context, we live in Scotland and DH is Scottish, I’m English. If there’s a specific reason for DH not liking mine, I’ve put it next to the name.

My list:

Lily- too twee apparently
Rosie- he’s said he likes it but not enough to say it every day henceforth. He doesn’t like variations such as Rosaline/d, Rosa or Rose.
Daisy- brief period of time a girl wasn’t nice to DS with this name
Jasmine - Aladdin (who honestly thinks that!)
Ophelia- apparently pretentious, although I love Hamlet!
Scarlett
Tara- his first dog was called that so apparently he can’t name DD ‘after’ his dog
Emily
Ruby

DH’s list:

Michelle
Siobhan
Lisa
Louise
Mhairi
Bernadette

I particularly don’t like Bernadette and Siobhan. But honestly, I don’t like any of them. No connotations or personal issues with people with these names but I just don’t like them. Does anyone have any suggestions for a middle ground? I’m not sure there is one! We had a boy name agreed immediately but we’re worlds apart on a girls one

What about Liesel?

ETA : pronounced Lise-all

@bluedelphiniumthe only name I think he’d go for over our fallback name is Heather, which he considered with one of his grown up DD’s

Heather makes me think “lady in her sixties, possibly with middle-age spread”’ BUT now I think about it theres a reason it was popular: Heather itself is a lovely thing and the word has quite a pretty sound - soft but not frilly.

Some of these names just need the dust blown off them really.

Finley is gender neutral or Finola.

Tbf i like all of yours and none of his. If you can't agree on a name that you both like choose a name that neither of you like? If he wants a Scottish inspired name my husbands cousin is Ailsa Cara, both her and her two brothers have Scottish inspired names cos their grandfather was Scottish.

lol, show him his own list again and ask if he still likes any of them 😁

He is a nightmare @namepains! Although Heather is pretty I think I might struggle with it being a name he considered for someone else...with someone else...(but then I'm a nightmare for that kind of thing!)

If he would go for a variant on Heather but something totally different how about Erica - it's an old Norse name but also the Latin name for some heathers...so it moves it on a bit, and is pretty but strong...

Your husband's choices sound very dated, if I'm honest.

To me the crossover between your two tastes seems to be between Lily and Lisa/Louise.

How about the following:

Lila
Elise
Eliza
Ilsa
Elsa
Louisa
Ella
Isla
Lola
Lydia

They all have that Louise/Lisa sound, but are a bit more modern than your husband's choices.

There are some good suggestions here op, and I agree there is a lot of common ground in lots of those names. I know a Louise called Lily for short ( think it evolved from Lou Lou) and actually if I were going for Lily I’d probably prefer something a bit more “ substantial” on the BC.

You could also consider Lina, Lara or even Laura, which is the same sort of vintage as your husband's choices but still a nice name and maybe due a comeback?

Or for a slightly different vibe - Erin?

Orrrr... Throwing a couple more into the mix.

Lucy/Lucie/Lucia

Lia/Lea/Leah

Both old names which were popular at the same time as the names your husband likes and are still popular now. Several variations/spellings possible for each of them.

I think Lucie could be the sweet spot between Lily and Lisa.

I love a PP's suggestion of Erica. With the right surname that can be v attractive and striking.

I like Laura