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To think that newbies should be allowed to start threads that may have been discussed before without backlash

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cookinmama · 09/09/2008 11:06

I am a longtime lurker on MN and have really been getting annoyed that when a thread is started that may have been discussed before there are immediately a whole load of posts saying this has been done before. Do these posters not realise that if they had seen the original they wouldn't have started the new one and want helpful comments rather than the curt - its been done before!

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Chequers · 09/09/2008 11:08

I agree - quite a lot of intolerance on this site at times.

asicsgirl · 09/09/2008 11:13

well it is possible to search for threads/ messages... no need to be rude tho imho {smile]

ParCark · 09/09/2008 11:14

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Hassled · 09/09/2008 11:14

Agreed. If it's a very specific request for info (e.g a gardening question) or discussion re current TV or news then it's worth checking the topic lists to see if it's been done recently, but otherwise I'm with you - just answer the question or don't, but otherwise leave it alone.

stripeytiger · 09/09/2008 11:14

Yes I completely agree with you cookinmama. If you're like me, sometimes you know something has been discussed before but you can't be arsed to plough through and find the relevant thread. Also nice to get new opinions and views on stuff.

NappiesGalore · 09/09/2008 11:14

saying its been done before is hardly a backlash tho is it? its not exactly cutting their fingers off

haven't seen any of the threads/posts to which you refer - threads about threads being supposed to be Not The Done Thing... did you post at the time to object? if not why not?

cookinmama · 09/09/2008 11:15

I realise that you can search but if people want to start a new thread then thoseeho don't want to discuss just stay away rather than make some unhelpful - we've done this it's boring comment.

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Chequers · 09/09/2008 11:15

If you've contributed to a particular topic before and don't want to again it's perfectly possible to ignore the thread or politely provide a link rather than being rude.

Feature · 09/09/2008 11:15

yanbu

Remotew · 09/09/2008 11:17

Very similar threads crop up quite often. I've been around a while now and get the feeling of deja vue i.e I've posted this reply before.

You can look down topic list history. If people don't want to reply to a new thread they don't have to. Newbies are joining everyday and won't have had the opportunity to post before.

NappiesGalore · 09/09/2008 11:17

its also perfectly possible to ignore random strangers on the internet being occasionally a bit short with you... methinks its a little hypocritical and petty to start threads about it... but hey, what do i know?

cookinmama · 09/09/2008 11:17

I have never commented on the threads because I don't think it's fair to hijack someone elses thread.

Maybe backlash is not the word to use then but narky unhelpful comments are not warranted

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zippitippitoes · 09/09/2008 11:18

well it is just a fact that people will say that

and then usually the thread continues anyway

but it may not get the response it would have done if it hadnt be the subject of a massive thread recently

like the periods one for example

so nothing wrong with repeating the same subjects it happens all the time newboes and oldeis but you wont stop people saying there was a long thread on this recenlty

Gateau · 09/09/2008 11:18

Surely all people have to do is ignore the thread? Why go to the bother of seeing it, getting pissed off because it's been done before and then sending a shitty reply? Sad.

cookinmama · 09/09/2008 11:20

That's exactly my point gateau - thanks

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cookinmama · 09/09/2008 11:21

I see what you are saying Nappies but just wanted to see if it was just me that thought it was a bit uncalled for at times.

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forevercleaning · 09/09/2008 11:21

where are these threads that people say its been done before, are they recent, or do you mean in general?

2shoes · 09/09/2008 11:22

yanbu(unless it is a p&t one)
it is rude imo to tell someone it has been done before.

zippitippitoes · 09/09/2008 11:22

but sometimes it is just stating a fact oh we had a big discussion on thios recently it is putting a new person in the ppicture...surely that is as valid as just ignoring them

cookinmama · 09/09/2008 11:23

I have seen it happen on a couple of threads over the last couple of days and in general

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cookinmama · 09/09/2008 11:24

When it is said in a helpful way - great but it is more the done before boring comments that I object to.

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TheHedgeWitch · 09/09/2008 11:25

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morningpaper · 09/09/2008 11:25

cookin which thread are you referring to

I would put money on there being a comment from cod that says DONE BEFORE

KerryMum · 09/09/2008 11:26

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ParCark · 09/09/2008 11:28

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