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Original poster

To think that newbies should be allowed to start threads that may have been discussed before without backlash

109 replies

cookinmama · 09/09/2008 11:06

I am a longtime lurker on MN and have really been getting annoyed that when a thread is started that may have been discussed before there are immediately a whole load of posts saying this has been done before. Do these posters not realise that if they had seen the original they wouldn't have started the new one and want helpful comments rather than the curt - its been done before!

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ParCark · 09/09/2008 12:18

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FattipuffsandThinnifers · 09/09/2008 12:20

MC it's nothing to do with being able to handle 'argy-bargy' - it's about whether someone should not expect meaningless rudeness simply for asking a question that may have been asked before. I was really pleased to find MN as it seemed so much more intelligent than the other Hun-lol-pink-sparkly sites around, but it can seem that new posters have to pass some sort of baptism by fire to 'join' the club. Whaddya want, some sort of medal for being able to formulate a oh so witty rude reply to a genuine poster for the sake of it?

zippitippitoes · 09/09/2008 12:21

no anyone can post anything

MrsMattie · 09/09/2008 12:22

Oh come on. How many bloody 'child parking space' debates can one site possibly take? I think all new members should have to swear, before being allowed to join, that if they feel the urge to 'debate' stealing grapes from supermarkets and the like, they will sod off to Bounty, get it all out of their system, and then come back nice and refreshed and without the urge to express an opinion on whether child reins aren't even good enough for dogs and other such nonsense...

ParCark · 09/09/2008 12:23

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Original poster
cookinmama · 09/09/2008 12:24

yes anyone can post anything but the point is that we should respect other peoples threads and try not to be rude, or just plain obnoxious for the sake of it.

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DumbledoresGirl · 09/09/2008 12:26

Agree with OP. If I have an issue I want to discuss, I dodn't care if it has been done before. I want people responding to me!

(Yes, I am self-centred!)

ParCark · 09/09/2008 12:27

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jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 09/09/2008 12:27

Well if its parent and child parking spaces then it can be good to be warned, that the conversation will move very predictably into whether or not being a princess mother is as hard as being disabled and so forth and someone will point out that babies don't rust/melt in the rain.

The only interesting one of those recently was when some nutter one admitted that they keyed the car of a disabled person who dared to park in a P&T spot when all the disabled spots were full.

NappiesGalore · 09/09/2008 12:27

i object to being dictated to as to how i may post and to who and about what.
your point may be that you wish everyone was more polite all of the time.
but that does not make it the law.
i like to be polite for my own reasons, not because someoen else thinks i ought to be
get a grip

ParCark · 09/09/2008 12:29

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Rubyrubyruby · 09/09/2008 12:32

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MrsMattie · 09/09/2008 12:33

It was tongue in cheek@ParCark...jeez

I could say, perhaps, that people who can't take a wee bit of banter on said 'bundle of wires and servers' log off and go and get touchy feely with their real friends.

To be honest, I just don't get people who whinge about cliques, newbies versus regulars etc etc. You makes your post, you takes the feedback you gets.

(If you want a big hug, there's always Netmums.)

NappiesGalore · 09/09/2008 12:33

i think the get a grip is more suitably directed at you right now parcark. are you having a stressful time atm? you seem unduly bothered about this.

Original poster
cookinmama · 09/09/2008 12:34

I hadn't realised that starting a discussion that a lot of the other posters seem to agree with me on was dictating NG. Not once have i said that it should be a law I just wanted to make sure it wasn't just me that thought that it was rude.
I will do my best to get a grip

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NappiesGalore · 09/09/2008 12:34

mrsM, thats my point too, but better put.

NappiesGalore · 09/09/2008 12:35

[rolls eyes]
why are you so easily offended fgs?
its just a forum on the internet you know.

Original poster
cookinmama · 09/09/2008 12:37

Now that wasn't offence that was a reply to your comment.

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QuintessentialShadow · 09/09/2008 12:37

What?
You mean it is no longer an entry requirement to read, and take an exam in all the archived threads??

OLIVIA??????

Was it just me???

VinegarTits · 09/09/2008 12:40

YANBU its rude and ignorant imo

FattipuffsandThinnifers · 09/09/2008 12:42

It's the unnecessary rudeness that pisses me off. Wittiness is one thing, but I just don't understand why someone would go to the trouble of posting "yawn". Why bother? Does it make people feel better about themselves??

NappiesGalore · 09/09/2008 12:44

ok.
never mind.
youre welcome to your moan.
i may even agree, but since i have no way to know how rude the post to which you refer actually was for myself without a link, i just dont know.
personally, i think its a bit precious, delicate and pointless to get upset by anonymous replies on an anonymous forum, but hey ho. spose we're all a bit sensitive at times.

QuintessentialShadow · 09/09/2008 12:44

A newbie had a really good and thoughtful thread about this (uneccesary rudeness and sarcasm) last week. Cant remember who, but it struck a cord.

FattipuffsandThinnifers · 09/09/2008 12:44

Or simply "wit", even.

Tortington · 09/09/2008 12:45

i think newbies should be given a probationary period and a mumsnet 'mentor' they should have a newbie pin and only allowed to log in between certain hours.

they should be restricted to certain threads. such as "how to do cross stitch" and "how to bake cakes"