Why do so many mums ditch their childfree friends?

[Sishirunak70]

Especially when those friends are accommodating, take an interest in your child/children and willing to work around you?
Why do you now only associate with other Mums and think that they 'just won't get it?'

Why do you let them disappear from your life since you became a mother? Whilst I understand it's hard, it's not impossible.
There are far too many martyrs around who believe they're the only person to have ever given birth, everything must now revolve around them and that nobody else can ever be tired or busy, except for them.

True!

But you DO have a choice, you just already made it, in choosing to be a parent.

What on earth are you on about?

I don’t have as much choice in how I spend my time as someone without children. That is simply a fact. Just because I chose to have children doesn’t make that any less of a fact.

See previous comments about “you’ll never know real love/be truly fulfilled/dont you feel selfish“etc.

To be clear, the comment about not knowing real love was introduced on the thread by someone who doesn’t appear to have children:

“Yeah all those childless people who don’t know what tired is. What busy is. What real love is. What stress is. What it is to put anyone before themselves. How dare they even ever complain about ANYTHING! They know nothing!”

Not one person has outright said or suggested that.

What is all the disdain for women with children about?

Ok please make sure to repost this when you get mums whinging.

I had 2 good friends from school until recently ( both died) and a friend from my teen social years

Plus a friend who I worked with in the late 90s.

I ve another couple of friends I met socially in the early 200s when I moved to this town and still see regularly

Most of the transient lot were aquantices rather than friends

I'm the opposite of arrogant but that doesn't matter.
Where did I say that the only commitment people have in life is their children? I didn't. But what is true is that parents do have that particular obligation and childless people do not. People with kids have all sorts of other crap going on too, the same variety of crap that childless people have, but it is indesputable that if they have kids, they must look after them. It's inescapable. The OP is pitting parents against the childless and her arguments are laid out in those terms, even though, as someone who doesn't have kids herself she can't possibly understand the feeling of total obligation.

Talk about stating the bleeding obvious!
This thread isn't about any of that. It wasn't started by someone who has chosen to have kids, whingeing about their lot in life; it was started by a childless person whingeing about their friends with kids not wanting to spend time with them.
My point was that having had the child, you can neither expect to behave nor be expected to behave as if you didn't. That is the luxury of choice that parents don't have.

Are you available between 10am-11am on a Tuesday like the NCT group meet-ups (before everyone has to rush home for the afternoon nap)?

Why on earth would someone have to " rush home for a nap" Though gina Ford style routines were out of fashion by now. And many mums are at work at that time and many people without kids aren't necessarily working mon to Fri so could quite easily be free.

Such assumptions

Why on earth would someone have to " rush home for a nap"

I needed to be at home with my first child when he was due a nap, so that I could nap with him. He didn’t sleep well at night, and I relied on those day time naps to get through.

My second and third children were much better sleepers, so I was much more relaxed about naps.

Others have different reasons.

There is no right or wrong, everyone is different.

Its not really a big deal, is it, if someone wants to take their baby home for their nap?

Such judgments

Because they aren’t nice people really that’s why