Which child is wrong-er

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Know it's not a word lol

Child A: Breaks something in their own pencil case by accident, is a bit upset and is trying to fix it

Child B: wants to know what happened, asks child A many times/repetitive asking and trying to look

Child A: Becomes fed up of Child A constantly asking, pushes them away in the chest (quite gently)

Child B: Doesn't like being pushed, pushes Child A back much harder, child A nearly falls over a chair, starts to cry and become very upset

Who is in the wrong here?

Just kids being kids. Why does one have to be more wrong?

Why did you not just say child A, you're alright, child B was a bit annoying but that's life now what are we having for tea??

Why have you turned it into such a big deal?

Child A started the fight.

The attempt to defend them (implying child B deserved to be assaulted because they were being irritating, and that child A's push was somehow more innocent) is doing the dc no favours.

It's a bit of a non-event.

What did the mum say in her text?

And this is why we don't take toys to school!
So many times it ends in tears despite schools saying precious items should be kept at home.

As others say it was obvious child A was going to be yours. She was definitely in the wrong for pushing first and perhaps if that upset about the keyring should have gone to the teacher about it. Sounds like messing around in the cloakroom out of sight as you do then mention when she started crying the teacher was told and spoke to the kids.

Both kids should have experienced the same consequence, both were pushing so that could just be the firm words from the teacher at the end of the day or depending on how strict your school is 5 mins inside at lunch.

The mum messaging is wrong, and as always in these situations I would just say I am aware of what happened, the school have dealt with it. I wouldn't engage in who was right/wrong.

I dont think this is about boy's or girl behaviour. Although I agree woman shouldn't always have to give way to men.

However this is about one spoilt child with an enable for a mother who has zero boundaries. My son had a girl in his.old class like that and most of the kids hated her as she was constantly causing issues, interfering and pushing other kids boundaries. She had been taught she was entitled to do this to other kids by enabler parents.

I would definitely say child A
You cant just react violently because you find someone annoying! By year 3 (7 and 8) the child has been at school 3 years and however bad their parenting, school will have taught them this.

Child B’s mum needs to teach her son that when a girl asks him to leave her alone, he does exactly that. In the world we live in today I have no qualms about teaching my daughters to do whatever they have to when boys/men invade their space and feel entitled to insert themselves where they have no business.

Abs no fucks given about being nice. Kind yes. But never at there own expense or detriment.

This is just about not using hands, it doesn't matter if it is a girl or a boy no one should be using violence in a school.

Or from the other perspective.
The girl was upset and frustrated at her keyring being broken. Boy could see his friend was upset and came over to see what the matter was trying to be kind and helo. Girl understandably frustrated at her new keyring being broken and lashed out and pushed boy. ,
But honestly this sort of thing is commonplace even at this age in every class in the country and it is dealt with swiftly and is really a non-event....... Until the bloody mothers get involved!!

So it’s fine to verbally provoke someone and not leave them alone?

That should be “can you please explain the thinking behind teaching a child not to push another child (who won’t take no for an answer)”.

Pushing is wrong but there is a big difference between pushing someone unprovoked and pushing someone who is badgering you and won’t leave you alone. The responses should be different.

Makes you wonder what all the PPs saying whoever pushed first was wrong would say about this type of scenario https://youtube.com/shorts/KDo8n_7_2YI?si=N-UW8DWQrnFCoIwD

I don't see what that story has got to do with this thread? That woman was physically attacked and she retaliated. Perfectly reasonable behaviour.

boy mom?

of course it is about sex. He's a little fucker and needs to be told

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One of each.

You do know that girls can be just as annoying too, right?

This issue really isn't about sex.

And i find it sad that you feel it's acceptable to call a 7 year old a little fucker.

For God's sake, we are talking about 7 year old kids here.
Do you really believe that it's always the boy who is 'invading' the space of the trembling little girlie?
You don't seem to know kids very well.

It's ridiculous to turn this into a sexist issue...both kids were wrong, one was an irritant and the other reacted by pushing.
Typical kid behaviour....be they male or female.