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AIBU to think my colleague is not too old for motherhood?

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PithyPoet · Yesterday 22:33

Work colleague and friend is having a much wanted first child, of course she’s got comments she’s too old I genuinely don’t feel she is just wondering what others thought

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CandidRaven · Today 11:27

For me personally I feel 42 is too old, I had my last baby a month after I turned 35 and it was an awful pregnancy compared to my others and I've started all over again as my oldest is almost 18, ended up getting sterilised because I knew I didn't want to be any older and get pregnant again, saying that though that's just me, if someone else feels able to then it's no one else's business.

Purplecatshopaholic · Today 11:29

I do think it’s too old, imo. She’ll be paying for Uni in her 60s, plus all the other reasons she may struggle. I wouldn’t say anything to her though, it’s defo a personal (selfish) choice.

MaeshoweDragon · Today 11:35

Personally would be too old for me.

I had mine in my late 30s and it had some unforseen issues... "mum can you be guarantor on my uni accommodation " - no love, they wont let me, I'm retired. (Had to scrape her 6 months rent in advance which was bloomin hard)

Allswellthatendswelll · Today 12:13

In the past, pre contraception, when women had four or five or more children it was completely normal to have your last child in either your late 30s or early 40s.

I think too old is when you are biologically too old so celebrities having egg donor babies at 53. Not 42 when you are still fertile.

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