To think that the dressing gown was one step too far?

[Imdunfer]

In a petrol station buying a coffee at nine thirty in the morning. Looking down realised that the young woman behind me was wearing obvious pyjamas. And slippers. Then looking up to see a fluffy cream dressing gown.

I can't decide if it matters. I was brought up to believe that it shows a complete lack of self respect, and a lack of respect for anyone else, but does it, these days?

YABU. Perfectly normal wear for filling up your car.

YANBU. What is the world coming to that anyone thinks that's reasonable.

I was brought up not to judge others for how they choose to live their lives. It seemingly stops me being very annoyed at things that are none of my business and make no difference to me.

Nor do I. My mother had a pinny but that remained in the house for housework time. She never smoked either. Nor went out with curlers in her hair. Ever. Even if she wore them, which she didn’t.

I've been known to walk to the car or the post box in my PJs, but I always put a coat that's at least knee length on over them, and preferably long boots on the bottom. The aim being to make them as inconspicuous as possible.

seriously. ???...could be a night worker, a doctor whatever back off a long night shift..what gives you the fuck to judge

I was brought up to get up, dress up and show up.

So, by way of example, if someone decides to live their life by drinking from 8am, and spends the day slumped on a park bench, periodically sitting up to garble rubbish at passers by, you wouldn’t judge their conduct?

Or if someone decided to live their life by habitually cheating on their spouse, you wouldn’t judge that conduct?

We need to get out of this mindset that says no one should ever be judged. It’s why we have a society of people doing whatever the fuck they want, and to hell with anyone else.

No standards or self respect.

It’s the start of a very slippery slope in my opinion.

We need to work on bringing back a level of shame. No one has any shame any more.

It does become other peoples business if it is indicative of a lack of hygiene, or might suggest some mental health problems.
We all live amongst each other. Going out in your bed clothes is putting two fingers up to everyone else. It is like a gauntlet almost to upset. Aggressive actually.

A friend of mine went to his football team's away match in Liverpool and he saw so many people in the area in nightwear, he thought a hospital had been evacuated.

One of Mumsnet’s stock frothing topics.

I would be distressed and worried if a doctor was working in their bedclothes. And a night worker.
I would assume they go home and change for bed.

I completely agree. Yes it doesn’t matter to me, she’s was completely covered. But it the lack of self respect. Do people really not care that much about themselves and how they look?

Even during Covid I washed and dressed every day.

Was in my local town on Thursday around 3pm and there was a man there wearing a female style / colour fleece wraparound dressing gown with the hood up .
I and many others were taking a double look at him !
Whilst I agree people should be free to wear what they want , this choice of attire was questionable .

I remember in the sixties going to school and one girl turned up in her nightie. Everyone felt sorry for her and her mum was considered to have issues.
Her mum was dressed. But it was taken as an indicator that all was not right in the home. Which is how I would judge it now.

Live and let live. What difference does it make to anyone else? Unless they're flashing of course!
You don't know someone has had a wash just because they're wearing day clothes either.
Just get on qithbyour own lives and stop worrying/criticising others lives.

It's sheer laziness and shows low standards - I absolutely do judge people who do this.

Yeah, ask your local shops and petrol stations to start advertising a dress code. No sarcasm.

I don't see why they can't throw on a hoodie and some jeans. It takes all of two minutes. I've got a neighbour who I run into in the morning usually still in her dressing gown trying to get her cat in, and then 20 minutes later she's a fully-dressed chic goddess who looks like she's spent three hours at the hairdressers. I have no idea how she does it other than being French.

It's not something I would ever do but on the occasions I have seen people out and about in nightwear I barely give it a minute's thought.

Why did you bring mental health into it?

I think looking at the poll, they are not divisive at all.

9/10 people are united in agreeing it is rank

You live in a hot country. We live in a cold, wet one. And yes, not wearing nightwear outside in public is a social construct. Like all sorts of things that create structure and mental wellbeing - eating three meals a day, cutting/styling your hair, saying hello, please and thank you, not shouting in public, not eating takeaway on trains, keeping desks/houses tidy - the list goes on.
Individually they may not matter that much, but collectively they make the difference between living somewhere orderly and having a sense of wellbeing, and living somewhere chaotic, and feeling irritated and discombobulated by the rudeness, smelliness and scruffiness of it all…

I saw a picture of a street in Nigeria recently. It was just a mess, with piles of weeds, rubble and rubbish, wonky signs, poor/shabby looking buildings, unpaved paths. It would be utterly depressing to live somewhere like that. If you don’t have any standards for how things look or how well things are done presumably that’s what you end up with. That, (along with money/corruption of course), is a big difference between first and third world countries.

Of course the case in point can be described as "grim". Words have lots of different usages. For example, "terrible" could describe a gruesome murder or a really bad TV prog.

All of my lounge wear is baggy trousers and an oversized sweatshirt, sort of like the link below. You wouldn’t see my lumps and bumps in it. I don’t often wear it out, but if it’s what I’m wearing at home and I need to walk to dog or nip to the local shop, I will nip out in it.

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