To think that the dressing gown was one step too far?

[Imdunfer]

In a petrol station buying a coffee at nine thirty in the morning. Looking down realised that the young woman behind me was wearing obvious pyjamas. And slippers. Then looking up to see a fluffy cream dressing gown.

I can't decide if it matters. I was brought up to believe that it shows a complete lack of self respect, and a lack of respect for anyone else, but does it, these days?

YABU. Perfectly normal wear for filling up your car.

YANBU. What is the world coming to that anyone thinks that's reasonable.

In my view, its none of my business what other people do.

Unless someone shows ill will or acts in harmful ways toward me, I dont think its my place to comment or judge.

But thats just a view.

Christ my nightmares of old are now acceptable to some people!

i literally had nightmares where i was out in public in my nightclothes…

Go back 2 generations and you’d probably have been arrested. Now no one cares.

Personally I don't care how someone else dresses as they're not affecting me personally. I mean I'd rather see pyjamas than someone walking round with their genitals hanging out for all to see. I see a few people in my local town walking around shops in pyjamas and dressing gowns. If that's how they want to dress that's up to them, I wouldn't go into town in nightwear myself mind but each to their own

I personally wouldn’t even answer my door in my dressing gown even if I knew it was a friend .
when I had an operation I actually got myself up and dressed before I had visitors that evening.

I do think it’s lazy behaviour and a don’t care attitude but that’s only my own thoughts .

PJS/Crocs/Dressing Gowns out and about. I just don't get it.

A Consultant in A&E recently told me that her BF got cross with her because she went into Sainsbury's in the PJs. And Crocs.

Beats me.

"Now no one cares."

I wonder if that is part of the issue. Some adults who are insecure in themselves are not that much different to children/young adults and need boundaries to feel secure. We all need to care about it more so they can care about themselves.

God this gave me such a laugh, this has to be satire 😂

Genuine question - I often do a PT pilates or yoga session at 6:30am. I get out of bed, have a cup of tea, wash my face, brush my teeth, slap on some deodorant and sunscreen and go. On my way home, I often stop and pick up a coffee or to grab something we need from the grocery store. No one would bat an eyelid at that, but I'm not sure how it's materially different?

I don't own pyjamas, a dressing gown or slippers, however.

I think its a terrible trend, I did get caught out once though I lived in Ireland and I wa picking up some bits in a petrol station, every second person had pyjamas on. I went back to my partner and started ranting about chavy people and he pointed out it was the nearest shop to the hospital. Mortified.

I always find the divided opinions on this one fascinating. For me personally, unless you are really struggling with your mental health and it's honestly all you can do to get yourself out the house, it's grim. Don't care if you haven't showered but throw on some basic clothing at least. And yes, there is a difference between a tracksuit or similar and your nightwear. PJs and dressing gowns are for inside, not a hotel breakfast or garage coffee run Imo. Have some standards.

Did this happen in Liverpool?

I have seen it one time too many. I do not judge.

A friend works as a carer for a young child.
One evening, after she had her shower and was dressed in pajamas, the mom said, "We are going out for dinner." My friend said she asked the mom what she wanted the young person changed into, but the mom said, "Get out her dressing gown, she will be alright."

Maybe it is a Scouse thing? For me, whatever makes you happy.
I would not do it, but I have no issues with others doing it.

The thing I really don't get with this - which @Imdunfer has mentioned - is how people don't seem to mind their lovely intimate clothes (for which only read pj's, slippers, dressing gown) touching god knows what grubbiness in shops and petrol stations...I could not bear wearing my favourite slippers in my bedroom or putting my feet up on the sofa, knowing I'd walked across a garage forecourt in them...yeuch!!!!

This is what it signals to me too. If you went for surgery and the surgeon was dressed in pjs, how would you feel? And yes, I get that the person at the garage wasn’t likely to be performing surgery, but there is something about showing respect appropriate to your situation. If you can’t be arsed to get dressed anymore, it’s a bit sad. If you’re depressed in mood, just trying to get up, get dressed and make a cup of tea is a good start. It’s just depressing slobbing all over the place in pjs.

YES!!!!

Is the no handbag rule cultural?

I genuinely don't get it, I feel quite self conscious putting the bin out in my jammies and dressing down if I've forgotten or whatever, honestly couldn't actually comprehend going any further than the end of the drive

Growing up, we knew our elderly next door neighbour had dementia when she started going shopping in her nightwear and slippers. It was actually really sad. That was in the 80s. Now it’s just the uniform of the unemployed-by-choice povvo.

I think anyone coming out dressed like this looks totally slovenly.
I can just about excuse a group of 13 year olds 'popping' to the local shop for sleep over snacks ,but no one else 😊

I shower at night, as I hate getting into bed grubby and then can’t usually shower more than once a day as it irritates my skin. I wouldn’t say I’m grubby — I just freshen up in the morning and go about my day.

First they started wearing their skirts above the knee, now this! What’s next! Will someone think of the children?!?!

I’d never wear them out in public (well, maybe at 3am once on a maccies run in uni, covered with a large floor length coat) but I do change into my “day time” pjs every morning. I shower at night and like working in comfy clothes when I WFH

The travelling community in Ireland aren't a different race?

My Gran used to do that. In slippers. She also used to talk with a cigarette in her mouth. When we were kids, she'd be cooking, fag in mouth, and we 'd watch for the ash to drop.

Well I agree with you, washing doesn’t have to mean bathing/showering, you can just freshen up at the sink (a “pits and bits” wash my mum used to call it!) but seems unlikely that someone would do that then change back into pyjamas to go out in public.

It’s factual. Why are you trying to make it about race ?