To think that the dressing gown was one step too far?

[Imdunfer]

In a petrol station buying a coffee at nine thirty in the morning. Looking down realised that the young woman behind me was wearing obvious pyjamas. And slippers. Then looking up to see a fluffy cream dressing gown.

I can't decide if it matters. I was brought up to believe that it shows a complete lack of self respect, and a lack of respect for anyone else, but does it, these days?

YABU. Perfectly normal wear for filling up your car.

YANBU. What is the world coming to that anyone thinks that's reasonable.

No, and it wasn't a thought that occurred to me when I saw her. Everything looked beautifully clean and uncrumpled. I wondered how she could bear to go near a petrol pump in that beautiful fluffy nearly white dressing gown!

It's not something I would do but I couldn't get outraged about it.

I always wonder if people who do this have special outside slippers, that they just wear for trips to the shops, as well as their usual inside slippers. The thought of my nice fluffy slippers being ruined by treading in all the crap that is normally found on pavements would really put me off wearing them again indoors.

There was a time when going out in your slippers was a classic sign that you were in the early stages of dementia.

I posted upthread about how I once accidentally went to work in my slippers. For me it was a classic sign of perimenopause

I don't think anyone is especially "outraged" tbf & also it's possible to dislike many things

"I have never seen anyone wearing fetish gear outside of a club. And I have only seen men wearing dogs heads or see through clothing on the net"

yeah me neither @OneLilacHedgehog not since my 00's days/nights in Merry Old London & Ibiza 😊

I saw a picture of a street in Nigeria recently. It was just a mess, with piles of weeds, rubble and rubbish, wonky signs, poor/shabby looking buildings, unpaved paths. It would be utterly depressing to live somewhere like that.

Doesnt sound all that different to some UK town centres. I hate seeing people out in PJs but you can understand why they might have just given up.

I better tell my Auntie that... 😂The signs were always there, we should have known in the early 90's when you accidentally picked me up from school in your car wearing yours! 😂😂

I always assumed women who don't get dressed to go to the shop / petrol station were sex workers...

Agree with this 100%

We don't know, but if we did I would judge them as lazy twats too!

Potentially it could have been a one off if she was in a rush??? Fluffy slippers not that safe for driving. Overall its not acceptable but some people seem oblivious to it.

It makes me feel uncomfortable and I cringe, this is from someone who doesn’t care what I look like and often has sports leggings on and a hoodie with hair scraped back and no makeup but adults in pjs is embarrassing

This is actually insane. If I saw someone who did that I would think, there's a person that likes to be comfortable and isn't beholden to other people's opinions. And maybe they had a really good night out last night

Fine for petrol station. Not sure about slippers for driving but I often go for a swim afterwards, shower and pj's and go home!

I think some people are over thinking this 😆

Wow. I had no idea that people in general were so incredibly judgemental to the point of feeling personally disrespected, over completely harmless comfortable clothing choices. I thought we as a society had moved on from such ridiculous pointless rules. But apparently being comfortable and not worrying about what others think heralds the downfall of civilisation. Mind blown

The mental gymnastics necessary to argue that a person wearing their pyjamas to the shop is some kind of free-spirited bohemian who operates outside social convention, rather than just a massive slob, is genuinely impressive.

You can bet that they’ve not got a full shower and scrub and put their PJs on 😝 might as well carry a sign saying ‘I’ve not washed today’

But are you leaving the house like this and going into a shop or petrol station? These are not clothes for outside. It takes a few seconds to put on jeans and a hoodie. I saw someone in PJs picking their kid up at school once - not even dropping off in the morning with a newborn sibling or similar!

Since when were travellers all only one race? Far as I know travellers can be any race etc..shes making a factual observation of what the local ones do in her work place

Carrying money in your knickers. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ok, let’s break that down.

Plenty of clothes are “comfortable” without being nightwear, so it really isn’t a comfort issue.

And “isn’t beholden to other people’s opinions” is essentially what I said. If you feel so little regard for yourself, particularly when you’re feeling rough after drinking, that you simply don’t care what other people think to the extent you go out in the previous nights pjs, that is really not an indicator of confidence or wellbeing you are suggesting it is.

Also wow. That is quite an impressive amount of melodrama to squeeze out of the observation that pyjamas and slippers look skanky when worn in public.

Not every social convention is a rule, and not every convention exists because society is desperately trying to control you. Some are simply conventions that evolved because people generally understand that different settings call for different levels of presentation.

If pop into my nearest Co-op which is on a rough council estate, I am considerably more likely to encounter someone doing their shopping in a dressing gown and slippers than I am if I drive into town and go to Waitrose, where it would simply never happen.

I work in social housing and I see every day how different expectations of dress, presentation and behaviour become normal in different communities. If you spend your life in an environment where going to the shops in a dressing gown is completely unremarkable, you’re obviously going to regard it differently from someone whose social environment treats that as embarrassing. This is the sad fact about modern society.

My head says they’re just clothes and it shouldn’t matter but I couldn’t do it myself and I do think ‘grim’ when I see someone out dressed like that