Woman in underwear in own home

[Alee36]

I'm raging and need to know if I'm blowing this out of proportion.We live in a first floor maisonette, house conversion. We moved in a month and a bit ago and (granted) for two weeks we were without curtains or blinds. Our living room window is at the front of the house and we have a large bay, so the main section of the living area is quite set back from the window.

I have returned from a rare evening out to my husband relaying a conversation he had with the next door neighbour, who knocked on the door. For context we have not met this neighbour yet. Apparently the neighbour said they are having their guttering done at some point next week, and that they will do ours at the same time (lovely,thanks). He then went on to say that last time his contractor was here, he 'saw your partner walking around in her underwear'. This has really bothered me, and more so because my husband said he doesn't see the big deal. My feelings are these:

1. It was a heatwave
2. I was in my own home
3. It would have been huge granny pants akin to shorts and a vest or crop top- you'd see more scantily clad people in the park or at the beach
4. I wouldn't have been parading in front of the fucking window, but rather just living my life and walking through
5. My husband frequently walked around in his pants in the heatwave, unsurprisingly this wasn't mentioned
6. Call me old fashioned, but a gentleman would avert his gaze and crack on with his job?

Overall, why on earth has a contractor passed on this information to our neighbour and why has my neighbour thought it appropriate to then tell my husband? Isn't that weird? That me in my underwear at home is being discussed in a chain of men. Like wtf? If he was trying to be helpful he could have had some tact, and said oh by the way we can see in your windows or something along those lines. I just find it bizzare and inappropriate, and actually quite sexist. Woman in underwear in own home- alert the press. In other news, bikinis allowed on beaches and forks found in kitchen.

Also they are doing the guttering at 'some point next week', so am I to hide out all next week lest I offend with my pjs or whatever I want to wear in my own fucking home?!

AIBU?

I don't even know who us and them are! People are specifically categorising themselves, then, becoming incensed about it!

It's the usual tactic to make an OP feel like they're alone / in the minority.

That said, I find the mums/wives/girlfriends/sisters/daughters comparison a slightly odd way of looking at it.

Why is that odd? Most people see the world around them through a lens of their own life experience, you only have to see the biased answers on here to certain subjects to know that it's a thing.

But for instance.. a lot of women I know would be mortified if they were chilling in their own home in their pants on the assumption they were in a private space, and a workman suddenly arrived who could see them, they would absolutely like to know in advance if it was going to happen again so they could make a decision on whether to take extra precautions to protect their own privacy when the workman was around.

Based on that I would assume you may feel the same, and if I knew it was something that could happen, I would warn you just in case you did feel that way.

Or maybe the neighbour got the impression that the contractor enjoyed getting a sneak peek.. again, I wouldn't make a thing of it, but I would absolutely tell you he had seen you to make sure you could protect your privacy if you wanted to.

The only time I wouldn't say anything is if I just didn't give a single shit who saw what and when and if anyone may be upset by it.. so IMO he is being neighbourly.

Obviously if you are genuinely not fussed about privacy that's entirely up to you, but I really can't see how has done anything wrong by just passing on the information he has been made aware of, via your husband (seeing as you weren't in).

Another alternative is that the contractor said something about it that the neighbour was uncomfortable with, in a more creepy or degrading way and the neighbour felt compelled to tell your husband to make sure you were aware that someone can see and give you the heads up. In fact this does sound more plausible now I’ve thought about it. But you’ll probably never know for sure.