Can’t stand husband 😂 anyone else

[omgcomeon]

I know I sound horrible. I know I’ll get lots of hate saying leave him the poor man but I know a lot of women feel the same.
I love him but he just gets on my nerves anyone feel the same? Give me stories / things your husbands do that grate on you like a fork on a brick wall. 😂 I know I sound vile. I’m honestly not, just ughhhhh shudder.

Do you have small children by any chance?

Yes 😂 😂 😂 hahahaha

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/0316267104
so common they wrote a book on it 😂

Agreed. 😂

Everyone does stuff that irritates their spouse/partner but that's very different to not being able to stand them.

Why don’t you leave him if you despise him so much? There must be reasons you stay, money, lifestyle, convenience?

So leave him. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who thought it hilarious that they couldn’t stand me.

Would you be okay if he posted on the internet how you get on his nerves, accompanied by all the smiley faces and laughing emojis?

It can be a hormonal thing.
As a regular time every month, pre menstrual cycle, everything, including my husband, would get on my tits, and then it would pass.
Young children, busy hectic lives, lack of sleep often were a factor.
I'd imagine at times he was a bit allergic to me.
I found being captain of our ship and chief organiser, mental load carrier very wearing at times and it has impacted how I feel about him, definitely.
My friends would 100% feel the same.

My husband drives me insane. Especially when I’m in the kitchen trying to cook, he’ll come and make a coffee with his massive elaborate coffee machine, spill stuff, get in the way, stand in front of drawers I need in.

it’s a rule now we can’t eat in silence, we need music or something. Because the noise of him eating makes me want to strangle him.

I get you, you love him, but husbands are fucking annoying. The same way it would be spending that amount of time with anyone I imagine!

There is a big difference between not being able to stand your husband/not liking him and him occasionally doing things that annoy you (which is normal and you’ll do things that annoy him too).

What types of things does he do that annoy you?

Love DH, but this morning he has really got on my fucking nerves it isn't even 10:00 AM yet.

in no particular order these are the things he has done so far to annoy me:

Made a huge mess in the kitchen when making pancakes for the children's breakfast.

Told me we are almost of milk- he was in a supermarket yesterday.

Put a load of white laundry in with his dark stuff with out any qualms at all he was trying to be "helpful "

Asked what's for dinner tonight, as he didn't really fancy what's on the meal plan tonight.

DH will be sorting out all of the above. He will be cooking or buying everyone a take away tonight he can fuck off if he thinks I am sorting any of this out!

Meanwhile I am sat in the coffee shop enjoying a coffee and a cake reading my book and I don't intend to walk slowly home until lunch time.

I’m surprised how seriously some people are taking the post. I honestly could cheerfully have murdered mine when the children were tiny and he would be asleep. That was it. Asleep. It made me murderous.

Also considered divorce when he ate crisps after I got baby ds to sleep.

I wonder what Mr @omgcomeon might post… 🤔

As we were trying to go to sleep last night he kept yawning and making this clicking noise. I was this far from punching his head into the pillow.

And the snoring…makes me wonder whether I would get caught if I suffocated him with my pillow.

But then I wouldn’t get the absolute gems such as ‘I remembered our anniversary just after midnight but I didn’t want to say happy anniversary in case you wanted to have sex with me’ 😂🤣 so I let him live.

I got home from work late last night, he'd WFH and had picked our you gest up from nursery.
I got in to damp washing all over the house, hanging off the table, back of the sofa, on the kitchen bench because he was being helpful.
I'd text him and said can you stick the full lot in the dryer and had already sorted the non dryer stuff out. He'd left the dry towels in said dryer as well. He'd also fed our youngest and left everything on top of the fucking dishwasher.
His breathing often annoys me and if he leaves his socks in my hallway today I will not be responsible for my actions.

We do have a clothes horse btw and a heated airer 🫠

Oh and....he didn't get up until ten mins ago. That in itself pissed me right off 😂

Being irritated sometimes is normal but loathing him most the time is concerning!

I know exactly when my period is due as I get the desire to put mine under the patio.

When I read posts like this with that random "I love him" in the midst of all the loathing I wonder what posters think love means? To me "I love him" can't really coexist with "I can't stand him". The latter goes way beyond the usual minor annoyances.

If you really can't stand someone you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. If you choose to be in a relationship with someone then tolerating their various habits is the bare minimum.

I think it's natural to be irritated at times mine used to annoy the life out of me at times and I'm sure he would have said the same. Then he died and now I wish he was here doing all of the minor grievances that annoyed me.

A friend at lunch randomly said of her husband ‘ I think Vincent is …. Really stupid’

I must admit I struggled to see the love. I guess marriage is a curates egg!

Aside from the black and white mix up - which would piss me right off...

He's woken up and cooked breakfast for the children and you've gone out to drink coffee and read a book in a coffee shop. Tonight he will buy a nice takeaway. Regarding the milk, have you never forgotten anything in the supermarket?

Dp and I genuinely live in a bubble of pink mutual appreciation and extremely rare annoyance (I annoy him occasionally but frankly I would try the patience of a saint). That’s because our children are adults, our parents are nearly all dead, we have plenty of money, we’ve only been together 6 years so still fancy each other, and I don’t have periods any more. It’s normal enough to have moments of hate when you’re in the trenches buried under nappies, bills, his mother, hormone tides and emails from primary school about Wrld Fcking B*k Dy.