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AIBU to think my husband is lying about another school mum?

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Ailiss · 23/08/2026 10:56

So, I have woken up this morning to a fairly devastating message and my husband is not helping at all.
To cut a long story short, I have woken up to a message from one of the mums at DS's school telling me that both on Friday when she dropped her DD off (Scotland so we went back last week), and yesterday when she dropped her DD off at Gymnastics and went to sit in her car (DS goes to gymnastics too), my DH made some sexual advances on her.
She didn't elaborate, I have asked her to but she messaged around 9pm last night and I only just saw it when I woke up this morning, so she might be busy this morning and just hasn't seen my reply.
I asked DH for more info, and he said thats just not true. He claims he hardly spoke to her on Friday, and yesterday when he saw her parked up offered to buy her a coffee, so he did then they sat in her car together, he claims nothing else happened.
However last year he did make a joke about some of the mums of DS's friends being "smoking hot, 10/10s".
I know this woman fairly well, she is married, but much younger than us, maybe mid-20s, DH and I are knocking on 40. I actually went to school with her older brother and remember her when she was very small!

AIBU to think DH is just lying to me? What would she get out of sending me that if it wasn't true?

OP posts:
Velumental · 31/08/2026 09:37

shuggles · 30/08/2026 19:14

A man who talks to multiple women is far, far more likely to cheat than a man who never talks to women, because talking to women is a prerequisite for cheating.

But sure, continue to disregard what I say and then wonder why you find yourself with untrustworthy partners.

You think men shouldn't TALK to women? So if a man drops his child at school he shouldn't talk to their friends mums?

shuggles · 31/08/2026 17:37

Velumental · 31/08/2026 09:37

You think men shouldn't TALK to women? So if a man drops his child at school he shouldn't talk to their friends mums?

There's a gulf of difference between small talk "hello how are you?" and actually talking to someone.

Pinkflamingo10 · 31/08/2026 18:52

I think you already knew he was a creep, as he was describing women you both know as “smoking hot 10/10”
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