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AIBU to admit to sister that DH probably vandalised her bathroom but wasn’t responsible for all of it?

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AliceNotInChains · 25/07/2026 09:42

Last night we went to my sister’s for dinner. During the evening someone wrote “cunt” on the bathroom mirror in what appeared to be shit (turned out to be Nutella but obviously with it being the bathroom it was immediately assumed to be shit).

My sister was the one who found it and came marching downstairs demanding to know who had done it looking at DH and I. Obviously I didn’t do it and I don’t think she would have done it herself so that leaves DH and BIL. Personally I think BIL is most likely as he does childish stuff all the time, sister is fuming that I’m blaming him but both are denying it. AIBU to think it’s obvious that I’m going to believe DH over BIL??

As the evening went on someone threw wet toilet roll at the bathroom ceiling. I suspect this may have been DH but still he’s denying it. AIBU to tell sister that the toilet roll was probably DH but not the mirror or would this just give her the excuse to blame him for both??

OP posts:
Springtimeinsunshine · 25/07/2026 11:31

As the evening went on someone threw wet toilet roll at the bathroom ceiling. I suspect this may have been DH

Why are you with someone who you suspect could be this pathetic and immature? I dislike my stbx for many reasons but I wouldn't have dreamt he would be capable of doing something like this.

Why are you still with your pathetic DH @AliceNotInChains ? Grow up and get rid of him.

Funkypigeons · 25/07/2026 11:32

Jeez, you lot are the pits. Were you raised by wolves or what.

BillieWiper · 25/07/2026 11:33

What a load of nonsense.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 25/07/2026 11:35

dayslikethese1 · 25/07/2026 09:49

Why would anyone do this?

They don't. Or not past the age of 12.

Mumsnet isn't always real life.

whippersnapper55 · 25/07/2026 13:20

Do you just make this stuff up? Why??

SamphiretheTervosaur · 25/07/2026 13:24

Summer holidays have barely begun...

TreesinthePark · 25/07/2026 13:29

Proud (or embarrassed, not sure) to say I clocked on and recognised OP straight away in the first post!

TicklishMintDuck · 26/07/2026 10:13

Is this a joke? Why would any adults would think that this is normal behaviour? Why are you writing this online? It has to be fake for clicks, surely.

Pherian · 26/07/2026 10:16

AliceNotInChains · 25/07/2026 09:42

Last night we went to my sister’s for dinner. During the evening someone wrote “cunt” on the bathroom mirror in what appeared to be shit (turned out to be Nutella but obviously with it being the bathroom it was immediately assumed to be shit).

My sister was the one who found it and came marching downstairs demanding to know who had done it looking at DH and I. Obviously I didn’t do it and I don’t think she would have done it herself so that leaves DH and BIL. Personally I think BIL is most likely as he does childish stuff all the time, sister is fuming that I’m blaming him but both are denying it. AIBU to think it’s obvious that I’m going to believe DH over BIL??

As the evening went on someone threw wet toilet roll at the bathroom ceiling. I suspect this may have been DH but still he’s denying it. AIBU to tell sister that the toilet roll was probably DH but not the mirror or would this just give her the excuse to blame him for both??

Who behaves like this over the age of 12 ?

I honestly wouldn’t invite you two over for dinner again since clearly one of you has not learned how to act in public.

Packofsix · 26/07/2026 10:18

How old are you all? 5?

SqueakyFromme · 26/07/2026 10:21

He should have used peanut butter, Nutella is entirely the wrong shade to masquerade as poo. Just let him know for the next time.

AwayWiththeGoblins · 26/07/2026 10:21

5128gap · 25/07/2026 11:14

Admit nothing. It's pretty obvious what happened here. Your MiL snuck in and wrote on the mirror and the neighbours 5 feral children threw the toilet paper on the ceiling from their garden.
I would suggest immediate no contact with narcissist MiL and that your sister contacts the school so the teachers can sort out the neighbour kids. Then go no contact with the teacher, your sister and husband. As for DBil, you should get you ducks in a row and LTB. He's a red flag.

I think the crows should be involved somehow.

HGHGHG · 26/07/2026 10:24

YABU as the Lidl version of Nutella would be a much better shout.

It is more sticky, and has little bits in, so looks more like poo and would have done a better job.

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 26/07/2026 10:26

AwayWiththeGoblins · 26/07/2026 10:21

I think the crows should be involved somehow.

Instead of a kangaroo court
A crow court
Let the crows decide
Justice from the beak.

SqueakyFromme · 26/07/2026 10:26

HGHGHG · 26/07/2026 10:24

YABU as the Lidl version of Nutella would be a much better shout.

It is more sticky, and has little bits in, so looks more like poo and would have done a better job.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Greypanda86 · 26/07/2026 10:29

Is this real? You think your husband has potential for throwing wet toilet paper on your sisters bathroom ceiling and you still choose to be in a relationship with such a wanker

Moellen54 · 26/07/2026 10:31

Surely FAKE..

or I hope it is

MsIceSandwich · 26/07/2026 10:34

I wish the crows would take away your Internet access.

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 26/07/2026 10:36

MsIceSandwich · 26/07/2026 10:34

I wish the crows would take away your Internet access.

Would that happen after the crow (cook)report programme on TV

Besidemyselfwithworry · 26/07/2026 10:37

AuntieBiotics · 25/07/2026 09:43

You all sound like children. Seriously.

This!
how absolutely pathetic
poor kids of these adults too what awful role models if they find that sort of thing funny. How revolting

BauhausOfEliott · 26/07/2026 10:39

You again, OP?

MsIceSandwich · 26/07/2026 10:43

For everyone outraged by their behaviour, OP makes this up for engagement. I don't know if she thinks she's a comedy genius (she's not) or what, but it's all bollocks.

Lostinbrum · 26/07/2026 10:46

Why does MN not ban this person

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 26/07/2026 10:51

Not what you asked but...
Who really lives like this?

Balloonhearts · 26/07/2026 10:51

How old are you people? You sound like a bunch of 12 year olds, Jesus, grow up.