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AIBU to admit to sister that DH probably vandalised her bathroom but wasn’t responsible for all of it?

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AliceNotInChains · 25/07/2026 09:42

Last night we went to my sister’s for dinner. During the evening someone wrote “cunt” on the bathroom mirror in what appeared to be shit (turned out to be Nutella but obviously with it being the bathroom it was immediately assumed to be shit).

My sister was the one who found it and came marching downstairs demanding to know who had done it looking at DH and I. Obviously I didn’t do it and I don’t think she would have done it herself so that leaves DH and BIL. Personally I think BIL is most likely as he does childish stuff all the time, sister is fuming that I’m blaming him but both are denying it. AIBU to think it’s obvious that I’m going to believe DH over BIL??

As the evening went on someone threw wet toilet roll at the bathroom ceiling. I suspect this may have been DH but still he’s denying it. AIBU to tell sister that the toilet roll was probably DH but not the mirror or would this just give her the excuse to blame him for both??

OP posts:
Pinksalamanda · 25/07/2026 10:10

Hahaha! What! What grown person would do that? And then follow it up with another moronic “prank”. If your DH did do it, he’s the cunt. I’d be embarrassed to be married to that.

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 25/07/2026 10:15

I still want to know are they the crow sisters please?

SerendipityCat · 25/07/2026 10:22

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 25/07/2026 10:15

I still want to know are they the crow sisters please?

Yes, they are. Also of holiday bathroom/abandoned keyboard fame and other petty “dramas”.

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 25/07/2026 10:26

Wtf have I just read? All the people in this fucked up little tale are adults? Seriously?
Grow the fuck up.

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 25/07/2026 10:31

SerendipityCat · 25/07/2026 10:22

Yes, they are. Also of holiday bathroom/abandoned keyboard fame and other petty “dramas”.

Thank you serendipity ,if real I wouldn't want any of them as neighbours although the claiming of the crows and rowing outside would be quite the spectacle to watch.

omghereistrouble · 25/07/2026 10:33

Pathetic I'd chuck the lot of you out including her husband

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/07/2026 10:33

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 25/07/2026 10:15

I still want to know are they the crow sisters please?

@PatNoodle gave us a quick rundown of OP's recent threads at 8:48.

Overtheatlantic · 25/07/2026 10:35

What a scummy family you have

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 25/07/2026 10:37

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/07/2026 10:33

@PatNoodle gave us a quick rundown of OP's recent threads at 8:48.

Thanks serendipity cat confirmed what I thought as well ..thank you
It's niggling when something seems familiar but can't quite place it.

PinkyFlamingo · 25/07/2026 10:37

This is so bizarre! Why would any adult act like this?

InterestedDad37 · 25/07/2026 10:38

I always smell guests' fingers for that tell-tale Nutella whiff whenever this happens 🤔

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 25/07/2026 10:38

InterestedDad37 · 25/07/2026 10:38

I always smell guests' fingers for that tell-tale Nutella whiff whenever this happens 🤔

Edited

Or lick them and hope it's Nutella .

PoppieCock · 25/07/2026 10:40

It's a sunny Saturday morning OP.

And you're this bored?

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/07/2026 10:44

InterestedDad37 · 25/07/2026 10:38

I always smell guests' fingers for that tell-tale Nutella whiff whenever this happens 🤔

Edited

That really made me laugh, but you shouldn't be here. It's really not safe.

SakuraTea · 25/07/2026 10:48

Woofwoofwoff · 25/07/2026 09:50

Mums net always has a magical way of letting me know that I’ve had enough internet for one day 😆

Grin
GCAcademic · 25/07/2026 10:49

You and your sister married well, didn't you?

InterestedDad37 · 25/07/2026 11:07

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 25/07/2026 10:38

Or lick them and hope it's Nutella .

btw, your username has diverted my Saturday into a Northern Soul listening deep dive 🎶 😎 ✊ For which I thank you 😀
And I've put Nutella on my shopping list 😂

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 25/07/2026 11:14

InterestedDad37 · 25/07/2026 11:07

btw, your username has diverted my Saturday into a Northern Soul listening deep dive 🎶 😎 ✊ For which I thank you 😀
And I've put Nutella on my shopping list 😂

You're more than welcome.
I've been a Northern Soul nut for about 45 years.
Enjoy the records and the nuttella

5128gap · 25/07/2026 11:14

Admit nothing. It's pretty obvious what happened here. Your MiL snuck in and wrote on the mirror and the neighbours 5 feral children threw the toilet paper on the ceiling from their garden.
I would suggest immediate no contact with narcissist MiL and that your sister contacts the school so the teachers can sort out the neighbour kids. Then go no contact with the teacher, your sister and husband. As for DBil, you should get you ducks in a row and LTB. He's a red flag.

Whosthetabbynow · 25/07/2026 11:18

Classy

SnowyPetals · 25/07/2026 11:21

Look, if you're going to keep posting ridiculous crap on MN at least change your username. We aren't all stupid you know.

IronEverything · 25/07/2026 11:22

I can't believe you sister didn't end the evening immediately after she found that.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 25/07/2026 11:27

It was the crows that done it!!

Jane143 · 25/07/2026 11:30

What a crazy family! I’d just clean it up and forget about it

TheFlyingPenguin · 25/07/2026 11:31

My only sympathy is for the sister who appears to be the only adult in the room.