AIBU to feel awkward about my cleaner's very revealing work outfit?

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My cleaner wears what i'd describe as an extremely skimpy gym outfit. I'm not sure of the exact name of clothes like this but hopefully you can imagine what I mean. It leaves basically nothing to the imagination - basically painted on fabric, and not much of it.

I get it (especially in these temperatures) - sweaty manual work, wear what your comfortable in, it's current fashion for people in their early 20s, want to show off body, whatever.

But I can't help but feel its a little inappropriate and awkward, especially when husband and other males are around in the house.
I don't want to make it a thing but AIBU? Would you say anything?

She is dressing for herself not any random male who happens to be around.

women with a great body not hiding it! The horror! 😂

The most concerning thing here is that OP isn't comfortable with the situation, but is doubting herself. OP you have a right to feel comfortable and set boundaries in your own home. The opinions of strangers online are not the deciding factor.

You call it prudish. I call it decency. To each his own. But if I were OP I also would be uncomfortable and given no one is allowed to be so in this PC world I wouldn’t say a word, just terminate her contract. I am a civil servant and we get pulled up if we wear certain clothes to the office. Rightly so. Decency goes a long way. If I’m going to other people’s houses to clean I would bear that in mind. Or I go work in Ibiza.

Not at all - the girls are wearing, appropriately, the uniform of their sport. And their coach is presumably wearing ordinary shorts, not something skintight like a speedo. You're not really comparing like with like.

If you can’t see the difference between clothing norms for a domestic cleaner and a civil servant, then it’s hardly surprising the country is in disarray.

There are loads of males at the gym and no one ogles women in gym kit.

There obviously is no difference from what persons are saying here. That argument because gym outfits are appropriate for gyms that means they should be appropriate for going into employers’ houses. So I guess as a civil servant I can go from the gym straight into work in my gym outfit. World going bonkers. Because you are a domestic staff does not mean appropriate dressing is not required. Especially if your employer is uncomfortable with it. But no, people here demonising the poor OP for daring to state her discomfort.

and most of us believe that gym wear is completely appropriate for "domestic staff".

The more energetic my cleaner is, the best clean my house get. What else than sports wear is she supposed to wear if that's the most comfortable for her?

The OP is being called out because her discomfort is due to the presence of "MALE" in the house.

There you go again. Maybe you should have a cognitive functioning test if you really think your job’s dress code in any way resembles what a domestic cleaner could legitimately wear to her job?

Yes. Degenerate to insults because I have a different viewpoint. I repeat, every employer has the right to expect a dress code, to expect their employees to dress decently. If you don’t care good for you, let your cleaner clean your house in their bikinis/budgie smugglers. OP does and she should not be demonised for that.

I quote the OP below. She clearly showed her discomfort, and only said she feels so especially because of the males around. She’s the employer. It’s her house. She is allowed to set her boundaries.

‘But I can't help but feel it’s a little inappropriate and awkward, especially when husband and other males are around in the house’

Or she could just admit she’s insecure, and/or doesn’t trust her husband not to jump the cleaner behind the utility room door, and recognise that it’s ok to sit with ‘discomfort’ with someone else’s clothing choices.

What is your husband going to do then?

There are 'males' at the gym too.

What I cant stand seeing are these leggings with the gathers at the back seam of the bum - looks revolting and screams look at my big fat a@@se!

Most employers have a dress code. My workplace (large corporation) has a dress code written into policy/contract - no cropped tops, shorts, too revealing necklines, tank tops (on men), or other inappropriate clothing. We’re not customer facing, but expected to dress respectfully around our peers. Nothing wrong with that. It’s not a case of people all perving or jumping on each other, it’s just about respect for others. I’m sure most of us in the heatwave would be happy to travel around the country in bikinis. But we don’t…..Maybe the same people on here saying it’s fine to dress how you want when in a working environment are the same ones who see nothing wrong with the current trend of men walking round the streets topless.

It takes a lot of work to get a firm and big bum, as opposed to a sorry flat unattractive one. You could give it a go?

Funny how no one ever comment on flabby butt, but the toned one are fair game for some people. Jealousy maybe?

If you want a dress code in your house, you can get a dress code in your house. No one is stopping you.

I hope the cleaner will find other clients, because being forbidden to wear gym wear when you are .. a cleaner because your boss is worried the MALE will notice that you are good looking, is a very good reason to get the hell out of there.

But what about if the cleaner turned up in a bikini to work due to the heatwave? Would you be still saying that it’s fine for her to dress this way? If not, why?

I suppose you could always do the cleaning yourself in a tweed skirt and blazer with a pair of brogues instead?

Was I the only one who got the Hilda Ogden reference? 😂😂😂

There’s no mention of cleaner being attractive,or is she attractive because she’s wearing fitted clothes 🤔

My (now former) cleaner used to clean in her gym clothes and then complain about the cold in winter. Lol. It seems to be the choice of work wear and dries quickly.

if you don’t feel comfortable, change it to when the males are not home (I mean they could actually do the cleaning if they have time to be at home too). I asked my cleaner not to do DD’s room as she didn’t feel comfortable with her being in there (same school, several years apart). That’s ok too.

What the cleaner is wearing is making the Op feel uncomfortable in her own home. Why is that so difficult to understand? It is of no help to be telling her she shouldn’t feel uncomfortable, the fact is she does. The question is what can she do about it. She could accept that the cleaner can wear what she likes and say nothing. Or she could, as the cleaner’s employer, explain that she doesn’t think the outfit is appropriate. There is nothing wrong with either approach.

Jeeeze the scrunch bum leggings are inappropriate anytime! Disgusting items. I’m working out at the gym, I don’t want to have to look up anyone’s arse thanks🤢