To want MIL to stop doing our laundry?

[HannahR21]

MIL is here every other Tuesday looking after our toddler whilst we both work. She is really helpful, and tries to do stuff round the house. Recently, she has started putting washes on. I find this a step too far - the first time this happened, there wasn’t a great deal of washing in our basket - it would have fit in one wash. She left one item in the basket which was a rather ‘risque’ all in one bedroom outfit of mine if you get what I mean. She had obviously seen it, and decided to leave it (and nothing else) in the basket.

DH says she’s being helpful and it saves me a job so I should be grateful. I find it..invasive? Fully appreciate it may be a ‘me’ issue but thought it’d get some impartial views.

Grown ups would also select and pay for professional childcare as well. What a bunch of ungrateful bastards. If her intent was to interfere and undermine, get someone else to work for free. If it was to help and lighten the load, be thankful and put up with being embarrassed, some people dont have free cleaners and childcare.

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After seeing your sex outfit I think it likely she won’t do the laundry again tbh.

He says she’s doing YOU a favour? What the actual fuck! What a ridiculous misogynist.

In this situation, I would reallocate the family laundry to your husband, but wash your own.

She brought up a son who was once a teenager, I am sure she'd have seen it all😅 How about you put the washing on yourself before you leave for work and ask if she would be so kind to hang it all out for you? Women of that generation often find it impossible to not potter around the house and I am sure she means well. My MIL is like that, she came to stay when my youngest was born and I will be forever grateful for her help during that time x

It’s not a gift horse if you don’t want her doing it.

@Twatterati Could you and DH have separate laundry baskets so your dirty washing can be left for you, but she can do his and any DCs?

Your suggestion wins the award for being even more ridiculous than any of the others so far- well done! 👏

YANBU! I do not want my own mother in law rummaging around in a basket full of my worn knickers, JFC.

I’d have felt the same as you but now you know I would sort out loads to go on and leave them for her to do. Then you get the help you actually want!

You are incredibly ungrateful. Not only do you get free childcare from her but also this. It isn't hard to take out what you don't want her to see. She sounds like a nice lady trying to be kind. You are the one being controlling here.

Do the people who think OP should be grateful, when you have relatives staying do you just go in to their rooms and rifle through their clothes, without checking first.

MIL stays with us for a couple of weeks at a time so will want some laundry doing. I will ask her and then give her the option to do her own, or put it in the laundry basket or directly into the washing machine when I am sorting out a wash. I wouldn’t just march into the guest room and take it

He is happy for his mum to do his own laundry, the job is being done leaving time for other things. I’m open mouthed people want to do housework. Perhaps I’m just a slattern.

YANBU, I felt very weird when MIL did ours and would fold my big granny pants for me…