Do you feel nervous or uneasy using unisex loos?

[Motuihe]

It is a bit offputting when several men are washing hands and whistling away and you are only woman there. Or if you leave a loo at same time and clock eyes with a bloke.

I hate them, always piss on the seats and I don't feel safe if they're quiet, just one shove and no one would know anyone had been trapped in one by a man.

Ours at work are unisex. Self contained units, sink mirror loo all in one. So no man at the sink scenario. I much prefer them to the single sex ones we had before.

I hate them. Absolutely disgusting. We have them at work - I don't use them but instead walk across the road to use the supermarket ladies toilets which are still thankfully single sex. I don't drink much at work so that i don't have to go too often. I will actively avoid places that only have unisex loos. I won't use our local Theatre any more, which is a shame.

No as they are not in the cubicle with me

The ones I used last night were full of women. Often with young sons. I have no issue with them. Seem a useful addition.

Same. I recently used the unisex ones with my daughter in a coffee shop and whilst each cubicle had a door, the hand washing area was for all. Despite her being over 10 years old, I made her come in the cubicle with me because I didn’t feel safe leaving her on her own to wash her hands.

You’re talking about a row of unisex cubicles with shared handwashing facilities. I hate this, especially in a workplace. I badly don’t want to bump into a male colleague. I don’t want them seeing me brushing my hair and applying lipstick in front of the mirror. Worse still I desperately don’t want them hearing me unwrap sanitary products. It’s so personal.

I’m not a fan and will avoid them where I can as I don’t feel safe or comfortable, plus more often than not they are dirty and/or smell of wee - presumably from men pissing on the floor.

Your AIBU poll doesn't really make sense.

No, I really couldn't care less who else is using the same public bathroom.

It depends on the kind. I went to a national trust, last year I think, where they had just changed the women’s into unisex and that felt very uncomfortable as big gaps under the cubicles etc. The purpose built ones with enclosed cubicles and sinks inside aren’t so bad but I was cross they had just changed the women’s into unisex with no adaptations. Put me off going and to be honest put me off renewing my membership as I felt quite disrespected as a woman that I was suddenly expected to share what were the women’s toilets, and I assume had been for years, with men with no consideration for the safety or comfort of women.

Yep, I try to avoid them.

I really don’t like them.

My office has separate loos. But I travel to one of our other offices where the loos are floor to ceiling cubicles with individual sinks. They used to be badged male and female but have now been changed to unisex door labels.

Apparently regular users of the building still adhere to the men left women right set up of old but of course visitors don’t know that.

One of my female colleagues quietly told me that there is still one floor in the building with separate loos and that several of the women walk up two floors to use that one.

What do you do in small cafes that only have one customer toilet?

Do you avoid those too?

An Edinburgh festival location I went to a few years ago had changed the door labels to “cubicals only” and “cubicals and urinals”

There was a huge queue of women standing outside the cubicals only door. I didn’t see a single woman use the other choice the entire time I was waiting in line.

There was a recent thread on here about how to get the piss stink out of the floor tiles. That stink wasn’t made by women. Just saying.

One in, one out is not the same as encountering a man in an enclosed windowless space with only one exit.

There’s also less likelihood that a man is exercising his fetish while listen to you in the next cubical.

I can't stand them

Perfectly happy with them. They're the norm across the vast majority of Europe, and are usually sensibly arranged so that facilities are less dangerous in general than UK gendered toilet blocks.

Not really, no. If its a completely separate cubicle, then I'm ok. Provided its reasonably clean which it often isn't (pee on seat, floor etc.). Anything where I have to share a sink - no.

We have both unisex and singles loos at work. The unisex ones don’t bother me at all.

Our women’s loos tend to be the worst in terms of the way people leave them and the stinkiness, I avoid them and go to the unisex on another floor.

So some unisex toilets are okay then.

The all-in-one with a hand basin are bad enough. They are almost always tiny and filthy and a bit creepy.
I have occasionally used mixed sex loos, with non floor to ceiling doors. Even though it was DH peeing in the next cubicle, it felt horrible.

I haven't been able to use these since I came out of a cubicle to see a man using the sink as a urinal.

I truly don't care. I even have unisex toilets at home.

I get faintly peturbed when there is a urinal, but I am capable of averting my gaze. And it's not common, so it's the suprise factor as much as anything.

I hate them unless they are completely separate units with ceiling to floor walls and full doors with their own sink. Even then you can tell if a lot of men have used them as they are smellier and dirtier.