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Do you feel nervous or uneasy using unisex loos?

206 replies

Motuihe · 23/07/2026 11:51

It is a bit offputting when several men are washing hands and whistling away and you are only woman there. Or if you leave a loo at same time and clock eyes with a bloke.

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VestibuleWeaver · 27/07/2026 18:32

Motuihe · 27/07/2026 18:30

Well you should, its unhygenic....and gross lol

Why would it be any more unhygienic than single sex loos?

Bideshi · 27/07/2026 20:18

It's not based on any logical position but I hate them and avoid them as far as possible. But I'm a bit funny about public loos in general.

missmollygreen · 27/07/2026 20:29

stargirl1701 · 23/07/2026 12:05

Only encountered this once at a wedding. The male guests and the elderly guests were very uncomfortable.

You must be mistaken. On Mumsnet all men are itching to expose themselves in unisex loos. It is not possible that a man night noit want to share a loo with a woman any more than a woman whats to share it with a man.

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 27/07/2026 20:34

I've never had any problems with unisex loos except for at work 20 years ago when some men used to do stinky hangover poos in there on a Friday.

I quite like them generally as they tend to be designed with sink and drier in the cubicle

LeftieRightsHoarder · 27/07/2026 20:39

I feel stressed in any small space, like a toilet cubicle, that a man could force his way into between me and the door. That happened to me (not in a toilet) as a child.
I’m fine in women’s loos and changing rooms as long as I know there are no men.
When I first noticed men trespassing in women’s toilets a few years back, it stopped me using loos in pubs, cafes etc for a while. Then I thought Go to hell, I’m big enough to do a man some harm if he tried it now.

Swissmeringue · 27/07/2026 20:40

If they are properly designed, so for example with fairly open hand washing spaces and all individual cubicles, then no I don't feel uncomfortable. I prefer single sex but I can work with unisex.

I'm still a bit flabbergasted over recently going to use some loos that were portakabin type ones labelled as "all gender" for both portakabins. Anyway I had my DD (8) with me, she walked in, looked really puzzled and ran back out. Turns out she'd walked in on some guy using a urinal, because they were not, in fact, properly set up unisex loos, but standard male/female portakabin loos that someone had decided to make "inclusive" by labelling everything as all gender. Gotta protect the rights of grown adults to use their preferred toilet over the right of little girls to not unwittingly walk into a massively inappropriate space apparently.

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