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What is going on in this house?

342 replies

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 18:14

Right, this is going to sound nosy but here goes...
A house in a street I know was owned by an old lady with no family. When she died, her house stood empty for nearly a year then it started having work done. It's been bought by a health service far away from he town we live in (think I live in Liverpool and NHS Devon and Cornwall bought it) BTW these are not the real locations. So, they do lots of renovations, including putting a much higher fence up which has a key code entry they also put frosted film on every window. There's a new build extension on the side with coded keypads too. This is where 2 carers are. There are 4 carers altogether, 2 at a time and then a swap. There is one man who lives there . He is in his 30s , able bodied can move well etc I've seen him once or twice in the garden in a whole year. Another twice I saw a darkened van come to get him. He was only gone for an hour or so then back.
I cannot imagine the scenario this might be. I'm not curtain twitching and permanently watching but I am fascinated.

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malefields · Yesterday 20:22

I think it’s a big jump to assume he’s healthy. He might be healthy as far as you can see.

Halfway house, rehab, disabilities… any number of things, really.

Livpool · Yesterday 20:22

I’d be interested in this too OP! It’s human nature

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:23

Dollymylove · Yesterday 20:21

House across the road from my mum was sold when the owner died. Bought by the authorities and done up to house a teenage boy with "behavioural difficulties " supported 24 hours. 2 hours each shift. It was done kn the quiet and the neighbours were not informed.
Since day on its been nothing but trouble, hordes of youngsters hanging out there and police attending on a regular basis. House values plummeted . So its not about being nosey,its about the quality of life of people who have to live amidst all this

Our neighbour hasn't been like this luckily. I've only seen him the handful of times and all is quiet.

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LiveLuvLaugh · Yesterday 20:24

I think he probably has health needs. I’m guessing autistic with high support needs. You could be a nice neighbour and knock on the door and introduce yourself and welcome him to the neighbourhood. Give him details of the street/area FB group. Tell him you hope he’s settling in.

troothfairy · Yesterday 20:29

Do you know that the NHS actually bought it, rather than just working there?

JJWT · Yesterday 20:29

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 18:23

I am not trying to find out in real life. To be clear, I'm just interested. He's very healthy and able so I was just interested about the always 2 carers seperate living quarters and all the security etc

So he could physically appear normal but gave high care needs like the poorly supervised man who threw a child into a crocodile enclosure.

canklesmctacotits · Yesterday 20:30

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:21

Definitely not a relative.
The trust they come from would be about 90 mins drive away at best with no traffic so quite far

Are you SURE not a relative? I mean, he could be a nephew three times removed and the only living relative of the old lady?

I'm just straining to see how a trust could justify this cost internally when the NHS is (or should be) all about the allocation of sparse resources. This has to be a better solution than all other alternatives. So either the cost is low (house and renovations are gifted, costs of employees is contributed towards?), or this is cheaper than every other option in the original trust.

I agree with you OP, I'd be contorting myself into pretzels trying to figure all this out. I'd probably just go out and have a chat with one of the carers one day, tbh...

likelysuspect · Yesterday 20:31

Dollymylove · Yesterday 20:21

House across the road from my mum was sold when the owner died. Bought by the authorities and done up to house a teenage boy with "behavioural difficulties " supported 24 hours. 2 hours each shift. It was done kn the quiet and the neighbours were not informed.
Since day on its been nothing but trouble, hordes of youngsters hanging out there and police attending on a regular basis. House values plummeted . So its not about being nosey,its about the quality of life of people who have to live amidst all this

There will have been planning permission granted so those that responded to the planning notices will have been informed.

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:35

Definitely definitely not a relative. I'm pretty sure it was bought by the NHS or maybe given to them? The person had no living relative and no will. The house was not up for sale. It was empty for a while. Then next thing, lots of work vans etc but also people with nhs lanyards on etc. Then now clinical carers

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likelysuspect · Yesterday 20:36

canklesmctacotits · Yesterday 20:30

Are you SURE not a relative? I mean, he could be a nephew three times removed and the only living relative of the old lady?

I'm just straining to see how a trust could justify this cost internally when the NHS is (or should be) all about the allocation of sparse resources. This has to be a better solution than all other alternatives. So either the cost is low (house and renovations are gifted, costs of employees is contributed towards?), or this is cheaper than every other option in the original trust.

I agree with you OP, I'd be contorting myself into pretzels trying to figure all this out. I'd probably just go out and have a chat with one of the carers one day, tbh...

I dont know whether to be comforted or incredulous that people are surprised at the possiblity of this

This is not at all unusual, either in adult social care or NHS care

How do you think adults with special needs are now supported since all the much criticised 'institutions' closed down? Many are living poor quality lives in the community alone, some are supported like this, monitored, supervised, restricted.

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:36

When I say clinical, I mean that the people who came when the renovations were happening were nhs but in office clothes

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CoastalCalm · Yesterday 20:37

My brother in law works in a place like this , round the clock carers for a client that is a risk re sexual offences - they do leave the house in his case but always with a 1-2-1

canklesmctacotits · Yesterday 20:43

likelysuspect · Yesterday 20:36

I dont know whether to be comforted or incredulous that people are surprised at the possiblity of this

This is not at all unusual, either in adult social care or NHS care

How do you think adults with special needs are now supported since all the much criticised 'institutions' closed down? Many are living poor quality lives in the community alone, some are supported like this, monitored, supervised, restricted.

I confess, I'm surprised. This seems like A LOT of money to spend on one person. (No skin off my nose, I'm not a British tax/NI-payer, just used to be one).

I guess I thought that the NHS would want to benefit from economies of scale, so non-individualised options. Residential care homes, facilities, wings of hospitals, even larger houses with more staff but more patients.

4+ staff for 1 patients seems extremely expensive to me. It can surely only be justified because there's no cheaper option?

Cracinbik · Yesterday 20:45

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:21

Definitely not a relative.
The trust they come from would be about 90 mins drive away at best with no traffic so quite far

But it doesn’t mean they commute. They could be from your area but employed by that Trust for this one person

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:47

Cracinbik · Yesterday 20:45

But it doesn’t mean they commute. They could be from your area but employed by that Trust for this one person

Yes as I was typing it I did think actually maybe that would make more sense

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likelysuspect · Yesterday 20:47

canklesmctacotits · Yesterday 20:43

I confess, I'm surprised. This seems like A LOT of money to spend on one person. (No skin off my nose, I'm not a British tax/NI-payer, just used to be one).

I guess I thought that the NHS would want to benefit from economies of scale, so non-individualised options. Residential care homes, facilities, wings of hospitals, even larger houses with more staff but more patients.

4+ staff for 1 patients seems extremely expensive to me. It can surely only be justified because there's no cheaper option?

Its fairly common, its usually adult social care, unusual for it to be NHS but there may be some joint commissioning going on

Its very common in childrens social care.

Usually these service users are subject to a DOLs

Care homes of old closed down. People wanted care in the community. This is the outcome.

Much better also for this to be directly arranged by the NHS rather than tendered out to a provider, it would cost even more then.

idontknowhowtodreamyourdreams · Yesterday 20:47

Oh I would find this interesting too.

You have seen an able bodied person, but is it possible there is someone else living there too?

Dollymylove · Yesterday 20:50

Dollymylove · Yesterday 20:21

House across the road from my mum was sold when the owner died. Bought by the authorities and done up to house a teenage boy with "behavioural difficulties " supported 24 hours. 2 hours each shift. It was done kn the quiet and the neighbours were not informed.
Since day on its been nothing but trouble, hordes of youngsters hanging out there and police attending on a regular basis. House values plummeted . So its not about being nosey,its about the quality of life of people who have to live amidst all this

*2 carers per shift that should say

Aluna · Yesterday 20:51

TisEye · Yesterday 18:27

I wish I was so pious that I wasn't interested in unusual events going around me but here we are.

Interesting OP. Whats your theory?

I don’t. Nor do I wish I had so little curiosity.

I would’ve already gone to talk to the carers to get the low down.

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:52

idontknowhowtodreamyourdreams · Yesterday 20:47

Oh I would find this interesting too.

You have seen an able bodied person, but is it possible there is someone else living there too?

Definitely just one

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Vye1988 · Yesterday 20:53

I have placed people in similar set ups. Most likely CHC funded supported living. Why this person receives this support or their diagnosis is honestly nothing to do with you. Clearly they are not causing you any issues. Get a hobby and move on

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:53

Aluna · Yesterday 20:51

I don’t. Nor do I wish I had so little curiosity.

I would’ve already gone to talk to the carers to get the low down.

The high fence, keypad entry, frosted windows and darkened van have suggested privacy is a high priority so I won't ask the carers

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Manxexile · Yesterday 20:54

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 18:25

The house wouldn't be big enough for this. It's a one bed open plan bungalow type

have you checked planning permission applications?

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:55

Vye1988 · Yesterday 20:53

I have placed people in similar set ups. Most likely CHC funded supported living. Why this person receives this support or their diagnosis is honestly nothing to do with you. Clearly they are not causing you any issues. Get a hobby and move on

Good lord again no need for the nastiness.
I haven't suggested they owe me an explanation. Or that it is my business. I am CHATTING on a CHAT site about something unusual.

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Aluna · Yesterday 20:57

Neighbourmystery · Yesterday 20:53

The high fence, keypad entry, frosted windows and darkened van have suggested privacy is a high priority so I won't ask the carers

You’ll just discuss it on here 🤓