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Tea

128 replies

Poppycorn123 · Yesterday 15:46

To find tea drinkers exhausting? 🍵
I might have the very odd cup in the rare event of a hangover. Dh would only have one if a guest is present. When we have tea - drinking guests they will drink about 3 cups in a row , five times per day. I've started telling them to help themselves to a cup because it's so exhausting keeping up with making cups of tea. Why not have a glass of water every now & then? There really is no need for copious amounts imo- especially in this weather. Are they addicted?

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BreezyLurker · Today 11:18

I’m interested to know where you’re from & your age range with this opinion 😂

Poppycorn123 · Today 11:32

I am from Ireland (where tea seems just as popular as the Uk!)and 41 😅
Dhs nieces & nephews are all addicted to tea, I think it stems from having it in their bottles as babies. If that happened nowadays there would be uproar!

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Musicaltheatremum · Today 11:58

Waitingfordoggo · Yesterday 17:13

My DH and I drink loads of tea - him more than me as he works at home whereas I’m out and about. But we start and end our day with tea, and drink it regularly through the day. Some of our best chats and laughs happen while we’re making/drinking tea together. I very rarely drink alcohol and have been known to order tea in pubs and bars. I also take teabags on holiday. Tea is just my favourite. Very happy to make my own though in other people’s houses, if they don’t mind.

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My husband would prefer tea to alcohol. I prefer gin but we rarely drink at home now so I drink elderflower at night.
We take tbags away too and my husband drinks earl grey tea.

TooHotToBoogie · Today 12:08

Put in a hot water tap for instant tea!!

Arran2024 · Today 12:12

BauhausOfEliott · Today 11:03

I don't really understanding people getting worked up about someone else's drink preferences. I can't say it strikes me as 'exhausting' to put the kettle on for a guest, but my friends/family would just help themselves after the first one.

I drink tea all the time. Yes, I could drink plain water instead - just as I could eat unflavoured porridge oats for dinner instead of spaghetti bolognese, or wear a plain beige cotton sack every day instead of my favourite jeans - but I prefer to have a little joy in my life, so I drink (and eat, and wear) the things I actually like.

When I go to the office, I drink about six mugs of tea throughout the day. My colleague, by contrast, drinks endless glasses of water with slices of lemon floating in them. Struggling to see why one would bother you more than the other, really.

I've been drinking tea since I was a tiny child.

But tea is treated as "special" in the UK. No one cares if you decline a glass of water. People understand that some folk don't like the taste of coffee or aren't drinking fizzy drinks. But tea! As a non tea drinker I can assure you that this is often met with utter bewilderment, offers of herbal tea instead (yuk), a feeling that you're letting the side down. I had tea once as a child. I still remember it. I can still taste it and it's probably the worst thing I ever drank in my life.

Greengage1983 · Today 12:25

Mate, if you think you’re exhausted after a couple of days of it, imagine how WE, the tea drinkers, feel, having to make our own tea hour after hour, day after day 😂 yes it is exhausting. And yes it is an addiction. But also, tea is life. No matter what problems you have, a cup of tea makes it all feel better.

Greengage1983 · Today 12:28

Poppycorn123 · Today 11:32

I am from Ireland (where tea seems just as popular as the Uk!)and 41 😅
Dhs nieces & nephews are all addicted to tea, I think it stems from having it in their bottles as babies. If that happened nowadays there would be uproar!

Both my grandmothers were appalled that if didn’t give my babies tea 😂 (this was in the last 5 years btw). They thought it was bordering on cruel to give them “boring old water”. Seems almost unbelievable now.

caringcarer · Today 12:30

Just make a pot of tea and tell them to pour themselves another if they want more.

PatioDwellers · Today 13:01

happysunr1se · Yesterday 16:21

My parents are like this.
When they visit (they live 40 minutes drive away) they must have a cup of tea within 15 minutes of entering the premises. They also must have cake or biscuits with tea.

And also if they come for dinner they want a tea straight after the meal even if they've just had other drinks with the meal.

I truly think they are addicted if not physically then mentally.

God if you made me wait 15 minutes for a cup of tea when I visited you - I'd be having a minor panic I might not get one...

I drink a lot of tea.

Isittimetojumpoff · Today 13:19

Greengage1983 · Today 12:25

Mate, if you think you’re exhausted after a couple of days of it, imagine how WE, the tea drinkers, feel, having to make our own tea hour after hour, day after day 😂 yes it is exhausting. And yes it is an addiction. But also, tea is life. No matter what problems you have, a cup of tea makes it all feel better.

I really wish there was a laughing reaction!

VictoriaEra · Today 13:19

I don’t mind making anyone tra as long as they don’t ask for a ‘cuppa’

Newsenmum · Today 13:20

Thechaseison71 · Yesterday 15:48

Nothing wrong with drinking tea. I have about 8 cups a day plus water

Careful of anameia! That much seriously depletes you.

EatMoreChocolate44 · Today 13:31

I love tea! It brings me joy and comfort. There is something so soothing and lovely hearing the pop of a kettle that has just boiled. It's also a social thing and it is lovely sitting around with friends or family drinking tea and having a chat, even better with a biscuit. I feel sorry for people who don't like tea (or coffee as an alternative).

HardyPinkPanda · Today 13:50

Arran2024 · Today 10:18

One year for a Secret Santa someone gave me a tea tray cover. I had no idea what it was- i don't use tea trays- and had to ask the organiser if she could ask the giver what it was!!

A tea tray cover? That's new. Hope it didn't have a picture of a tea pot. Or "Everything stops for tea" written on it. 🤮

Meckrel · Today 13:56

Making tea once an hour or so is a useful break. Either a brain break and a reason to stretch your legs if you've been doing desk type work, a rest and an excuse to sit down if you've been doing something more energetic, or a break from social responsibilities if you have a houseful.

I always go and put the kettle on if I'm struggling with something. It's good thinking time.

Beingseenisneedy · Today 13:57

Bluesclues1 · Today 08:24

I love a tea but only a couple of cups a day (currently pregnant so unfortunately on the decaf which isn’t the same!). Those who have pints and pints a day, aren’t you worried about teeth staining??

Not really, I get compliments on how white my teeth are.
Just brush twice a day and dentist visit every 6 months.
She's only ever once brought up staining, which coincided with my licorice phase.

Been drinking tea since I was a toddler and now 50. Used to have sugar but not anymore.

8 cups is the sweet spot.

Congrats on the pregnancy and agree, decaff isn't the same.

Freda69 · Today 14:06

I drink 5 mugs of tea a day plus some water, but I don’t drink coffee or any cold/fizzy/sweet drinks. Tea is great for breaks between chores or if anything stressful happens. (72)

ErrolTheDragon · Today 14:07

Newsenmum · Today 13:20

Careful of anameia! That much seriously depletes you.

Drink it between meals, not with them.

Freda69 · Today 14:08

happysunr1se · Yesterday 16:21

My parents are like this.
When they visit (they live 40 minutes drive away) they must have a cup of tea within 15 minutes of entering the premises. They also must have cake or biscuits with tea.

And also if they come for dinner they want a tea straight after the meal even if they've just had other drinks with the meal.

I truly think they are addicted if not physically then mentally.

Sounds pretty normal to me. Anyone who comes into my house gets offered tea.

Arran2024 · Today 14:08

HardyPinkPanda · Today 13:50

A tea tray cover? That's new. Hope it didn't have a picture of a tea pot. Or "Everything stops for tea" written on it. 🤮

It was hand made, with padded bits - think very twee country cottage style. I genuinely was completely bewildered.

NightOwlNutter · Today 14:15

Each to their own. Who rattled your cage?

CanterThroughChaos · Today 14:32

I used to do this at work so I could spend time making it 🤣

Pinkflamingo10 · Today 14:34

Just make a big teapot of tea for guests ?
It’s not that difficult.

BauhausOfEliott · Today 14:41

Newsenmum · Today 13:20

Careful of anameia! That much seriously depletes you.

Tea doesn't make otherwise healthy people anaemic.

If people are predisposed to anaemia anyway, it can increase the risk, but even then it will only generally be a problem if it's consistently drunk alongside your meals, rather than between meals during the day.

mondaytosunday · Today 14:43

My sister constantly has a cup of tea on the go. Not actually sure how much she drinks as I keep finding half filled cups! But just tell them to help themselves.