Husband lying on bed in sweaty clothes

[robothoover40]

Im wondering if I’m BU here as I’ve been told by my husband I am. He runs. When he runs often long runs he comes home and sits on our fabric chairs in the kitchen or goes up and lies on our bed. This morning I changed the bed put new sheets on and he come home lies on the bed whilst waiting for the water to heat up. Apparently I’m been precious.

Maybe OP likes one small opportunity to get in a nice clean bed after she went to the effort of changing the sheets? Not have a sweaty person drip all over them and make them smell first?

I am a woman. I don't clutter the house with throws or towels

I don't have upholstered chairs in the kitchen but no one is telling me where I am allowed or not allowed to sit in my own house! 😂

You don’t own towels? 🤔

Your DH is a VERY patient man.

It's his home as well as yours and frankly as such his comfort should come before your soft furnishings.

YABU.

I am so glad I don't live with 58% of you.

I don't leave a pile of them in the kitchen , do you? 😂

I’d just go and shower. I’m not sure why it takes so long for water to heat up in peoples showers??

if it’s because the hot water hasn’t been on then that’s a planning issue. You know you’re going for run so put it on a boost before you go, or change the timer. Ours is on morning and evening so there’s enough hot water for everything.

if it’s because it takes 30s to go from cold to hot then just use that time to get undressed.

if I’m all sweaty i might cool down a bit outside or get a drink. But I’m not sitting on soft chairs as beds. Gross.

I’m surprised by this thread! 😂

And I’m glad I don’t live with you! Gross to sit on the bed smelly and sweaty from a run

Yeah, I’m here for the mystery of the water heating up for a hot sweaty bloke’s … what?? Bath? Shower? Cup of tea?

No that’s minging and disrespectful he could at least take the sweaty clothes off and sit with towel round him while he waits for water to heat up to which I’m wondering what decade do u live in?

His armpits aren’t touching the bedlinen at all, unless he’s lying in a very strange position.

Oh for goodness sake! What is it with all these precious posters these days?

Eh?! Haha not sure how you lie on beds but yeah, they definitely can/do touch bed linen, especially when you pull up the duvet. Also, sweat travels, especially huge sweat patches on tops.

I know.

Sweat is 99% water and a bit of salt, and actually doesn't in itself smell.

Utterly absurd.

Agreed. I’m constantly amazed by how many Mumsnetters seem to be perpetually repulsed by literally everything about the male body and seem to think men are intrinsically disgusting and smelly. God knows how these people maintain a sex life.

It reminds me of shrieking little girls at infant school screaming “Urghh, boys can’t play with us, they’re stinky”.

I’m also amazed at how many just seem to live for laundry and housework and make a rod for their own backs obsessing over it.

FWIW, in our house I’m the runner and DP does the laundry. I couldn’t even tell you how often he changes the sheets tbh. I mean, I always notice when they’re changed and I always say “Aw, thanks for doing the bed, mate” but I’m not marking the date on a calendar each time. And if he got all prissy about me flopping down on the bed after a run, I’d think he was being a tiresome fuss-pot. Fortunately he isn’t repulsed by me.

He’s not IN the bed. He’s lying ON it after a run. He’s not getting under the duvet.

He does a long run and gets home and you think he shouldn't sit down on your fabric chairs or your bed. I think "precious" is exactly the right word.

That's grim and I'm a towel sharer. This last couple of weeks have been awful with the heat, we live in a park home and it's been boiling in here i have been sat here dripping and have been putting a towel on my chair so as to protect the fabric. I'm not particularly house proud but I don't want sweaty bodies on my furniture.

Do you not have sex?

I've been sweating buckets after I run lately, I can't get straight into the shower because I keep sweating for a while afterwards and it would be pointless so I put a towel under me while I wait. If normal weather I'm not really a sweater and wouldn't bother but lately it's sweat pouring from everywhere, if your husband is like this he really should put a towel down.

🤔

Yanbu. Thats filthy

YANBU it’s grim. I wouldn’t even want to lie my own body down on my clean bed after exercise. Straight to the shower, then he can lie around afterward!

I wouldn’t like it. Personally, I’d be straight into the shower. I don’t know why anyone would need to transfer sweat needlessly onto bedsheets instead of washing it off their body. Same applies to any bodily fluids, really.

I’m also amazed at how many just seem to live for laundry and housework and make a rod for their own backs obsessing over it.

I agree with this. It's like we've regressed to some earlier time where women are competing over who has the cleanest house and laundry. Some of the posts are just madness, sniping over "hygiene" and the washing of towels. Honestly, I thought we as women moved past this decades ago.