Primary school asking parents to not change Nappies in the toilet

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My 5 year old is sen in a mainstream until he transitions to specialist in September. He's toilet trained at home but requires nappies at school/outdoors due to anxiety over using the toilet.
He goes into school 5 mins after gates close as he's an escape risk. This past week just as we've entered the gates he's done a poop, so I've taken him into the reception "accessible" toilet, changed him, bagged the waste and placed it into the bin. I obviously don't want to hand him over full of poop!
Just received this pedantic email (attached in comments) which will have gone to all parents. I'm quite annoyed as my their suggestion of staff escorting parents to another toilet. My son cannot access the main school and is in a segregated area with full time 1-1. Plus I'd have to faff around getting a sign in badge. Reception are aware he's sen and only has one week left before moving schools after summer.
I spoke to his 1-1 about it and we're convinced it's aimed at us and one other parent who's baby goes on the school run.

AIBU to feel like emailing them suggesting they place a nappy bin in the toilet, buy some air fresheners and maybe get a better sealed door if the smell travels the much?

A supplementary point is that the school's main purpose is the education of children. Providing toilet facilities is necessary but secondary, and only a small minority of pupils at a mainstream primary school will require nappy changing facilities. A public toilet, on the other hand, has providing toilet facilities as its main purpose so it would be unreasonable not to provide facilities,it's fir disposing of nappies.

Utterly grim and antisocial OP. Flush poo and take nappy home. Simple?

Isn't there a public bin near the school you can chuck it in on the way home?

A public bin, during a heatwave, @Katemax82? 🤢🤮

Schools finish tomorrow no? So itll be September next time. Or a dog poo bin

flush the poo. Bag up the dirty nappy and dispose of it when i found a proper bin!

Even if you are unsure to the best thing to do. I can’t fathom why anyone would come to the conclusionleaving poo in a bin or sani bin was the right call.

Double bag, pop it in the boot of your car and dispose of it at home.

Nothing wrong with what the school has asked; everything wrong with you leaving a pooey nappy in their bin.

Take it away with you and then you can continue using the same bathroom.

Take your nappy home with you?

I think you will have to work with the school on this.

You can't leave a spiled nappy in the sanitary bin

I get you can't walk your son through the school due to risks. So Id say in future, either double bag and take home with you in your bag, or double bag, pop in your bag and then once son is safely in class, ask someone to take you to the toilet with the correct disposal bin.

Also, it sounds as though you’ve had a difficult year and that the school might have had a lot to deal with if your son is leaving to go to a special school. Personally I think the email is polite, and the fact that they’ve sent it to everyone means they’re not targeting you. And you’re leaving in less than a week! Even if so many people hadn’t agree that the school was right, do you not think that this one might have been one to let go? I can’t believe that you would think it’s appropriate to consider ruining a teacher’s day about this so close to the end of term in these n circumstances.

So you want your son’s shit stinking out the reception area all day and want the receptionists to have to sit smelling it all day? You’re really that entitled? Take the nappy with you.

Why would a primary school need a nappy bin in the reception area? Nobody with babies will be using that toilet. I understand in EYFS where some children like your son will still use nappies but not in the main reception!

You want the school to waste limited resources on paying for a nappy bin when you would be perfectly capable of bagging it and taking it home with you?

Your sense of entitlement is off the scale. It is minging to put poo in the sanitary bin.

Two things can be true: 1) You need to use that toilet to change your son or it will be too difficult for you. Nobody seems to be stopping you though. 2) You must, like many people do when using small community halls, GPs, shops, etc. take your nappy with you. I'm not sure what your problem is or why you're ok with stinking out the reception area for everyone. Or why you think the school should pay to have a bin. Just take it home.

I expect that nappy stunk to high heaven in this heat and the email is perfectly polite and reasonable. YABVU

Well no, not all day. All month as it's a sanitary bin!

I’m a numpty - that hadn’t occurred to me, @Katemax82!

Well you never know it might be hot in September ( hopefully not)

Can you not shake the poo into the toilet and flush it away? Then bag the nappy and take it away with you? Double bag it if you cannot go home straightaway, don't leave it in the bin at school, who do you think has to dispose of it?
I used to work in a preschool based in a church hall, getting the toilets ready early monday morning and the bins were full of wet/soiled nappys from events in the hall over the weekend. Why don't people think?
Its your child’s nappy therefore its your problem to deal with, don't leave it for someone else.
Similar to people who dont pick up their dogs poo.

The school's response was perfectly reasonable. Or you could take the poop home with you. Do you really think it's OK for the reception area to stink because of your kid?

I'm sure that given the access difficulties/flight risk and that the school is accepting SEN children you have a right to facilities in the area you need them. To not provide them and demand something that puts your child at risk is disability discrimination. However, you will have a lot of struggles over the coming years and if this problem goes away when school breaks up I would pick your fights wisely and just take an extra bag you in which you can take the nappy home. My son had withholding constipation and we had years of overflow soiling/adverse effects of treatment at school requiring multiple discussions and reasonable adjustments required. I would keep your powder dry.

That’s not an unreasonable request, to be honest.

He's leaving the school at the end of term to go to a different one.

She just needs to take shit filled nappies home rather than expect somebody from the office or a cleaner to open up a bin containing used tampons and towels (and potentially sharp items also dumped by somebody) to pull out a large, shit filled nappy, possibly underneath used tampons and towels, put used tampons and towels back into the bin and then carry the large, shit filled nappy across the site to place in the appropriate disposal facilities.

Er, maybe read my post properly? I suggest she takes them home as he leaves school in a week. Nowhere do I condone using sani bin facilities. The fact remains that, had this child been staying at the school, under the Equality Act 2010 he is is entitled to reasonable adjustment/adequate provision in the areas he uses, which would include nappy bin provision.