Primary school asking parents to not change Nappies in the toilet

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My 5 year old is sen in a mainstream until he transitions to specialist in September. He's toilet trained at home but requires nappies at school/outdoors due to anxiety over using the toilet.
He goes into school 5 mins after gates close as he's an escape risk. This past week just as we've entered the gates he's done a poop, so I've taken him into the reception "accessible" toilet, changed him, bagged the waste and placed it into the bin. I obviously don't want to hand him over full of poop!
Just received this pedantic email (attached in comments) which will have gone to all parents. I'm quite annoyed as my their suggestion of staff escorting parents to another toilet. My son cannot access the main school and is in a segregated area with full time 1-1. Plus I'd have to faff around getting a sign in badge. Reception are aware he's sen and only has one week left before moving schools after summer.
I spoke to his 1-1 about it and we're convinced it's aimed at us and one other parent who's baby goes on the school run.

AIBU to feel like emailing them suggesting they place a nappy bin in the toilet, buy some air fresheners and maybe get a better sealed door if the smell travels the much?

I work in a SEN school.

Bins for sanitary waste and different or bins for human excretion.

You need to use the right bin .

If you had both taken the nappies away with you then you would not have been told not to use the toilet. A dirty nappy in this weather will have stunk everywhere out.
I can’t believe the other mother using facilities for another child. I took my younger child with me when she was in a nappy when I dropped my older one at nursery. There is no way that I would have used the school toilets, let alone leave a dirty nappy there.

They are just asking you to use the toilet with a nappy bin in it.

genuinely don’t see the issue here

No that’s not ok to leave a dirty nappy in the sanitary bin. Unacceptable. Take it away with you.

Sounds really tricky OP, is that why they have suggested they would escort so that they can help you if he tries to make a run for it? They’re trying to give you another option. Or maybe change him where you did and once he’s handed over ask if you can have access to the other toilets to dispose of his nappy?

Couldn’t you put the nappy in a bag and take it with you? I often do that with my toddler if we’re out and there’s no nappy bin. They can’t go in sanitary bins. It’s not really a big deal to take it home and dispose of it properly.

Shaming a parent for disposing of a disabled child's incontinence waste is really not on, I'm with you OP. If they can provide nappy bins elsewhere in the school why can't they move one or install one where the child(ren) with SEND enter school. What if OP has to walk home, or take public transport straight to work and has to carry a large incontinence pad to work with her? What a dreadful way to treat a disabled student and their parent.

Sounds really tricky OP, is that why they have suggested they would escort so that they can help you if he tries to make a run for it? They’re trying to give you another option. Or maybe change him where you did and once he’s handed over ask if you can have access to the other toilets to dispose of his nappy? Also bear in mind for where you put your energy, this is a one week duration problem for you if a problem at all

How do you think that leaving a soiled nappy in a sanitary bin is acceptable? So what there is no nappy bin, you take it with you and dispose appropriately. They sent a general polite email so not to single you out. How could it be dealt with any better? Entitlement is off the scale on this one.

You shouldn't leave the nappy there. Take it home with you.

Poo needs to go in the right bin. Ask to access the bin after changing and bagging once your child is in the classroom.

I’ve never in my life left a nappy in a bin somewhere that wasn’t a nappy bin. It’s never even crossed my mind.

Same as I wouldn’t dispose of dog poo in an ordinary bin in a school, office or restaurant.

The email isn't shaming.

The OP could ask where to throw the poo if there was no bin. If her son is incontinent the OP will have to get used to asking.

That’s bad on your part. Surely you can’t expect everyone to sit in the reception area and smell a dirty nappy. Take it with you. A nappy bin in the reception area will still smell.
There’s nothing wrong with their email.
They have provided the appropriate places to do so, so you should use the area.

You can clearly tell when a person who does this, is the same that will just throw a dog poo into anyone’s bin as well.

As a parent who’s son toilet trained at 7 (and still has occasional accidents) I sympathise but you shouldn’t put human waster in a general bin or a sanitary bin. You need to bag it up and take it with you.

Just take it with you, what’s the issue? Theres 2 toilets you can use to dispose of them too. The email seems perfectly polite. It’s not hygienic or polite to put them in any bin.

Putting human poo in a “public” toilet is extremely anti social. Take it with you ffs.

poo is not absorbed. It sits. Sanitary bins are not emptied daily.

they provide nappy bins in other loos. Yes they should provide one but until they do BAG IT and take it with you. The solution is never to leave poo in a bin.

Most adults shouldn’t have to be told what would be the best etiquette in this situation. You assessed the situation and came up with the worst solution

I'm surprised at the answers. An accessible toilet should have adequate waste facilities. No way would I be taking my disabled daughters poo around with me. She's not a baby

So are the school letting you go into the childrens toilets unescorted to change him? Because surely having you in the toilets is a safeguarding issue?

It sounds as if you are not going to take responsibility for your actions. Sani bins are not suitable for dirty nappies and you should have taken it with you.

Nothing wrong with that email. No one wants to be smelling shit unnecessarily. Just put it in a nappy bin after if you can’t go to that specific toilet at the time or take it with you and bin it on way home. Putting it in the sanitary bin isn’t a solution.

There are 2 toilets with adequate waste facilities. Op just doesn’t want to use them.

Well no, she's using the accessible toilet. It's the sort of thing they're normally for

Can’t see the problem with the email