Primary school asking parents to not change Nappies in the toilet

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My 5 year old is sen in a mainstream until he transitions to specialist in September. He's toilet trained at home but requires nappies at school/outdoors due to anxiety over using the toilet.
He goes into school 5 mins after gates close as he's an escape risk. This past week just as we've entered the gates he's done a poop, so I've taken him into the reception "accessible" toilet, changed him, bagged the waste and placed it into the bin. I obviously don't want to hand him over full of poop!
Just received this pedantic email (attached in comments) which will have gone to all parents. I'm quite annoyed as my their suggestion of staff escorting parents to another toilet. My son cannot access the main school and is in a segregated area with full time 1-1. Plus I'd have to faff around getting a sign in badge. Reception are aware he's sen and only has one week left before moving schools after summer.
I spoke to his 1-1 about it and we're convinced it's aimed at us and one other parent who's baby goes on the school run.

AIBU to feel like emailing them suggesting they place a nappy bin in the toilet, buy some air fresheners and maybe get a better sealed door if the smell travels the much?

Just take the waste with you?
This is pretty standard practice in areas without a nappy bin eg lots of toddler groups ask that you take dirty nappies with you to dispose at home.

Alternatively use the facilities provided. I'm not really sure what the issue is, presumably you'd be escorting him there?

It's a sanitary bin for period waste, not 5 year olds crap.

Those bins are dealt with usually by an external company and placing inappropriate waste in them could result in them not being emptied. Or it not being usable for it's purpose. And obviously they've told people it's stinking out reception.

You should take his dirty nappy away if he soils before he's in the charge of the school. When you're with him his waste is your problem.

I'd just go into reception and say I'm SO sorry I think that was me, I really didn't mean to cause an issue for you through the day. Due to x issues with using the other toilets could we possibly continue to use the same toilet, but I'll bring a bag to take home any nappies with me?

So you put a nappy in a sanitary bin?
Am I reading that correctly?

What would you do if the nearest toilet didn't have a nappy bin?

Have you considered contacting the school in response to this requesting a proper nappy bin. Or as it's coming up to the end of term take the bag home with you?

Why can’t you bag the nappy then dispose of it in the correct bin after you have handed over to his 1:1 (or take it home).

It’s a bit of a jobsworth email isn’t it. It’s like no one can be arsed to think “hang on, are the allocated nappy bins in the most useful toilets for the kids that actually need them?”.

Good luck for the school move, hopefully your son will be much better catered for in his new school.

Email from the school is completely reasonable. If there is no nappy bin, then surely you change him and take the nappy home with you!

The school is being reasonable. You just can’t be bothered to take him elsewhere

Oh my God. There’s a special place in digital hell for people who send an email to an entire community rather than talk to one person. So shaming. Such as total waste of everyone else’s headspace.

Don’t enter them then. Just bag up the poop in a scented nappy bag and place it in your own bin.

I did this often when my children are young, whether it be a posh restaurant, visiting an elderly relative. Loads of places don’t have designated nappy bins and it’s too much to expect them to deal with it. I don’t want people having to clear up my child’s stink. I’m happy to do it.

Can you imagine the smell in this weather?

Just take the nappy home with you and dispose of it at home,it's really not that difficult! Double bag if need be

Our last day is Monday 27th. 😭

They can’t just send it to one person. She might not be the only one who does it.

Stink up your own car on the way home! Putting shitty nappies in a sanitary bin is wrong.

I don’t think the email is unreasonable. If your son is going to a different setting in September, there must only be a few days left of this term. I’d just accept what they’re asking and find another method of disposal for a short time.

I work in a SEN school. Nappies are treated as non-hazardous offensive waste. They have to go in a pedal operated bin and then into special bags and then into special bins. It is different to just throwing them into the bin at home. The school has a duty to keep things sanitary and follow procedures.

That's a perfectly polite and reasonable email.

Visitors to the school should not be met with the smell of poo. Imagine if you were a prospective parent or an Ofsted inspector. First impressions count.

Take nappy bags with you, and take the soiled nappy home. Or just hand him over apologetically and explain that he's just pooed. I'm a retired special school teacher and kids frequently arrived in the morning having soiled their nappies. Not remotely a problem.

As a primary school office worker who organises these things as part of my role- let me break this down for you in simple terms. Sanitary bins are collected separately and say once a month (depending on size of school/numbers etc). Nappy bins have to be collected weekly due to their contents - obviously! I have to schedule 2 SEPARATE services, for 2 SEPARATE functions. Try to use some common sense! Your ignorance and entitlement that the world should bend to you is bewildering. Get a grip.

No, OP.
What you should do, as a responsible parent, is to take the bagged poo with you, rather than leaving it to fester and smell in a reception class toilet.

Your son can’t but you can, once he’s dropped off take the nappy somewhere appropriate.

The sanitary bins in our school are not replaced/removed frequently, especially in toilets that are not often used, so there would potentially he a shitty nappy in the bin for weeks.

Use the appropriate toilet or take it home

Yes, they could put a nappy bin in, BUT YABU to put the nappy in the san bin.

Then you need to take it with you.