Why can’t I report this horrible woman?

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Horrible woman who used to be my very good friend, made a malicious police report several years ago about me and my children. It was instantly confirmed by police it was malicious and no further action was taken. I know it was her, I am 100% on this. I have never confronted her as she would just deny it. She tried to ruin my life through jealousy (not jealous of me directly).

I Need to still see her daily and I am civil but inside I am reeling all these years later. I want to wipe the smug smile off her face. She claims to be living as a single person and receives benefits, whilst living the high life not single and not struggling in any way. I want to report her for benefit fraud, but I simply can’t do it. I don’t have it in me to do it.

why can’t I do it? I physically can’t bring myself to do it, my conscience won’t allow me to. When Everytime I see her I get so angry at how smug and smart she thinks she is. I can’t seem to let go of the anger towards her, if anyone has any tips on how to deal with the anger I feel please let me know. Aibu that I feel like this yet still can’t bring myself to report her?

I hope you do report her OP. To me your motivation hardly matters.....I just despise benefit fraudsters like this woman so much. I would urge anyone who is aware of such a person to do the same.

People like her are the reason I had to take my wheelchair-bound DS to the Job Centre to attend a stressful interview in order to prove we really weren't lying and he really wasn't capable of working (despite his condition being lifelong and him having a mental age of about 4).

Your conscience won't allow you to report a benefit cheat?
FFS
What kind of morals do you have?! 😡

Report her. It won't ruin her life. She will be investigated, may have to attend an interview and then pay back anything that she should not have had. She won't have to pay back a lump sum, an agreement will be set up

Why should she get away with receiving SPD? It is one of the biggest frauds out. Council tax is crippling for a lot of people so yes please report her

OP if you’re going to report her you have to be clear about why you are doing it. Are you strongly morally opposed to benefit fraud ? Would you report others if you knew they were claiming fraudulently ? Or are you considering reporting her simply because you want revenge for what she did to you ?

If it’s the latter I would think very carefully before you act. You’re clearly not a naturally vengeful person or you wouldn’t be here asking for opinions. You would have gone ahead and done it.

I also think that because you see this person on a daily basis, you need to be prepared to witness the effects of you reporting her, which could well be serious and far reaching. Could you cope with knowing it was you who brought that about ? I think the reason you’re having difficulty acting on this is because you know that although reporting her may be the right thing to do, you would be doing it for the wrong reasons.

Only you know what’s right for you. But before you report you need to be as sure as you can be that you’re correct. If your resentment of her may be in any way colouring your judgement then you need to rethink.

I’m saying this because l’ve worked in and around benefits, and a report of fraud can have serious consequences for a claimant, even if they’re doing nothing wrong. DWP will review the claim and if they decide to investigate, depending on the circumstances, they may suspend benefit payments while they do so, which can cause a lot of hardship, not to mention the stress of being interviewed under caution and everything that goes with it.

Sometimes things aren’t as they seem and reporting isn’t something to be done lightly, as you’re causing upheaval in someone’s life when potentially they aren’t doing anything wrong. That’s what you need to keep in mind whatever you decide.

Report her. I've had enough of paying for piss takers.

Actually there isn’t. For standard council tenancies, there’s no legal limit on how often or how long guests can stay overnight, but there’s a clear distinction between having a visitor and taking in what the local authority would consider to be an unauthorised occupant - consecutive overnight stays for more than 2 to 4 weeks, for example. What they look at is similar to how DWP investigate - things like a guest using your address to receive mail, work, registering for a GP etc.

There’s also a common misconception that benefits like Universal Credit or Housing Benefit limit overnight stays to 3 nights a week. That’s a myth. There has to be evidence that someone is actually resident. That’s why l would urge OP to ignore the knee jerk reactions here and concentrate on what she knows to be true, because things aren’t always what they seem.

Send me her details and I will report her for you!!! I cannot abide people stealing money from the system when vital services are constantly having to have their budgets cut😡

If she’s a benefits cheat you should report her.

Just do it. No one likes a thief.

Absolutely report her. Benefit fraud is disgusting and should not be seen as something that has become acceptable. It's theft.