To be upset my dd is dating a middle aged man

[Middleaged77]

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

I too am dating a middle aged 30 yo and strongly recommend it.

You are absolutely unreasonable ! he's a young man !!!!

I thought you were going to say he was 50! He's only 7 years older than her and still very much in the same sort of ball park age bracket. So he's not looking for a nurse maid and he's hardly a cradle snatcher. Bloody hell OP.

At 23 I was dating a 30 year old man.
Now my husband of 31 years. Absolutely nothing wrong with it and, from my experience of other couples, a very good age gap to have.

Me too .

Must be a joke ! Like lots of others I thought he must be at least 50 ! Ridiculous !

One poster has made a good point about maturity. My 23 niece has two kids, a partner and a mortgage. That is the sort of life she wanted and it makes her happy. Long haul flights, ridulous quantities of shoes and 3 day party weekends made me happy at 23.

I am now with someone who is 7 years older. It is nothing, but can be a reach if one partner is either very immature or mature when you are both younger. If he is respectful, looks after her and supports her with her ambitions, that would make me happy.

Support the relationship and let her know you are there for her. So, if it is not right she can come to you and not feel she has to lie in the bed she made. I see why you feel uncomfortable but our kids will make their own choices that might be different to choices we would make.

The only thing I would have my eye on is an older partner with kids and my daughter being taken advantage of. This is currently happening to my partner's daughter. Not that it matters, but it is a same sex relationship. I wanted to make a point that this dynamic can occur in other blended family scenarios.

Ermmm....he's 29 (nearly 30) not 50!! He's 7 years older than her, not 17 or 27 years older!

When I was 24, I was in a relationship with a 31 year old, exactly the same age gap as your daughter and her boyfriend. Mine, turned out to be an arsehole, but his age didn't make him an arsehole, his personality did!

Unless 30, has been mistyped twice, and this man is indeed 49 (nearly 50), then I don't think you have too much to worry about!

Yes, you are being unreasonable. He is not even 7 years older than her.

If he was 39 then yes I would agree with you but 29? Not ideal but I couldn't get too bothered about it

Is this a wind up? If not then get a grip. 🙄

Yabu

Is this a joke? You'd be upset my age gap marriage then, met when it as 24 and he was 40. 22 and 29 isn't that far apart at all. Are there other reasons why you dislike the match?

Fucking hell - this thread is ridiculous OP 😂 - what is wrong with you?!

If 29 is middle aged, I’m 37 what does that make me?! Elderly? I feel it but the label isn’t nice 😂

So she’s dating someone six years older? So what? When I was her age I was dating someone 14 years older and I married him!

OP, please tell us you are joking. This is just too ridiculous for words.

I dated a 30 year old man when I was 19 but he was bossy so I ditched him. No harm done.

He's 29 and she's 22 - so 7 and a bit years age difference - that's hardly huge only bit more than more usual 1-4 years.

Maturity wise they may well match - honestly though at 22 you don't get a to say who they date - and less emphasis on age and more do they treat each other well.

Plus ealiest most people thing of as middle age is 35 - and my IL when they were hitting fifty were insiting they were only just becoming middle aged and many agreed with them.

30 isn't middle aged, don't be so ridiculous. In fact 30 is the new 23. And 23 is the new 18.

omg he's old enough to be her father... oh no wait he's really not.

Middle Ages is 40-65!

hes 7 years older thats it. And you can have old 23 year olds and young 30 year olds

its her life leave her be

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Middle aged man?????? You need to grow up.

30 is not middle aged. That age gap isn't bad. There's 8 years between me and my boyfriend. Its all about connection and how well they get on. If they are arguing all the time then yea thats an issue, if not then dont really see the problem