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To be upset my dd is dating a middle aged man

280 replies

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

OP posts:
BillieWiper · 13/07/2026 13:23

That's not a big age gap. They might be at similar life stages and have similar interests? I thought you were going to say like she was 19 and he was 57?!

rollonxmas · 13/07/2026 13:23

This is almost exactly the same as a previous thread

Chetsometime · 13/07/2026 13:24

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Bait GIF
TeaWithASplashOfMilkPlease · 13/07/2026 13:25

What is it with being 30 today? There’s this ridiculous thread, and another where a woman is wailing and gnashing teeth because she thinks she’ll be old when she turns 30!

I don’t know where some people get it from, I swear.

freezingmytoesoff · 13/07/2026 13:26

Wow, this is how I find out that I'm middle aged at 32! 😂

ThisAutumnTown · 13/07/2026 13:27

A 7 yr age gap is nothing. You’re being insane

Snufkin88 · 13/07/2026 13:28

He’s not middle aged what are you on about . YABU

Viviennemary · 13/07/2026 13:28

You are being ridiculous.

Horses7 · 13/07/2026 13:28

This can’t be serious!!!

Harrietsaunt · 13/07/2026 13:29

Don’t be ridiculous. They are both in their twenties. You sound batshit

Magnalux · 13/07/2026 13:29

Get a grip

TiggyTomCat · 13/07/2026 13:30

Are you for real - he's only 7 years older ffs.

BunnyLake · 13/07/2026 13:30

My mum was 23 when she married my dad, who was 30. I was a proper grown up at 23 and would have felt capable of dating a 30 year old. Different today I suppose when 20 somethings are looked on as barely adult. As it stands at the minute she is 23 and he is 29 🤷‍♀️

SallyD00lally · 13/07/2026 13:30

This thread was mildly funny the first time round.

Bobajobob · 13/07/2026 13:30

So a 22 year old is dating a 29 year old! What is wrong with that? Sounds perfectly normal to me. And 30 is not middle aged unless you are planning on dying at 60.

GCAcademic · 13/07/2026 13:31

Sherararara · 13/07/2026 11:50

Cue all the “30 is not middle aged!” comments.

I like how you mention he’s 30 in July like that makes a difference. He’s not a toddler who’s “2, but 3 in July”

Edited

He's 347 and a half months. That half month makes a difference!

BunnyLake · 13/07/2026 13:31

rollonxmas · 13/07/2026 13:23

This is almost exactly the same as a previous thread

It does sound familiar. I’ve been getting Deja Vu on here a lot lately.

BMW58 · 13/07/2026 13:31

Completely barking OP.

Go and have a cool drink and a lie-down.

😂

JustLetMeHave · 13/07/2026 13:32

I'm 34 and I feel middle aged but that's because I've got a baby and a toddler and my body is knackered!

JFDIYOLO · 13/07/2026 13:32

Don't be so daft. They're both in their twenties. He's likely be more steady than someone her own age.

Chipshopsiblingwar · 13/07/2026 13:32

I remember a story in a teen mag ( sugar i think) with a 17 yr old who married a 60 old yr old . Now thats a horrible age gap funny enough i remember thinking it seemed ok at the time. Was 14ish i think.

VoiceOfCommonSense · 13/07/2026 13:33

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

What a silly post

AllSlugsAreBastards · 13/07/2026 13:33

YABU because 1. 30 isn't middle aged and 2 that's only a 7 year age gap as she's 23 before he's 30.

sugarapplelane · 13/07/2026 13:34

How old are you Op? Middle aged? I’m 51 which is middle aged. 29 is still a spring chicken.

I think this is a wind up

MeganM3 · 13/07/2026 13:34

Thought you were gunna say to say your 20 year old is dating a 45 year old, with an ex wife and 3 kids.
22 and 29 is perfectly normal.