AIBU to wait until after a Barbados holiday to end it?

[Thewrathofsylviaplath]

I've been with my DP for 2 years (I'm 39 and he is 42), but things have been pretty dead for quite some time. No massive drama, but we have become more like flatmates and he is utterly terrible with money and spends it all the second he is paid. He is in thousands of pounds of credit card debt and seems to put a band aid over the problem by taking out balance transfer cards.

My dilemma is that he has booked us a 2 week holiday at a 5 star resort in Barbados this December. He impulsively booked it on his credit card- he was already 5k in debt on his card prior to booking the trip. I haven't been outside Europe since I was 21 and I really don't want to pass up on the opportunity. I could never hope to afford it on my own and I don't want to regret not going when I'm older. It sounds terrible, but should I hold out until after the holiday in December to break up with him?

Yeah that's way too long off to string it out until then if you're sure now. If it was next week, maybe, just to be sure, but it's in 5 months time, you can't pretend for that long and you need to end it now.

OMG. You are not a nice person.
Break up with him. Hope he can get his money back.
And stay single for a while until you've recovered your morals.

Will there be any sharks in Barbados that you can jump?

How grabby and entitled are you?! What if he is planning to propose while you’re there? What will you do then?! Be a better person and end things now for both your sakes.

Absolutely not.
You'd be taking him for a ride, already knowing you plan to dump him on return.
No idea where your moral compass is but I suggest you look really hard to find it.

So you’re letting him get into more debt so you can have a nice holiday, which you’ll be spending with him (& presumably sharing a room with him) whilst fully intending to come home and dump him, because he is bad with money????

agree!

hard sgree!

except I'm sure it must just be a wind up!

Yes, I think it must be, even if she really thought that she’d be unlikely to say it out loud!

Go on the holiday gal, break up with him then shag his sister