AIBU to wait until after a Barbados holiday to end it?

[Thewrathofsylviaplath]

I've been with my DP for 2 years (I'm 39 and he is 42), but things have been pretty dead for quite some time. No massive drama, but we have become more like flatmates and he is utterly terrible with money and spends it all the second he is paid. He is in thousands of pounds of credit card debt and seems to put a band aid over the problem by taking out balance transfer cards.

My dilemma is that he has booked us a 2 week holiday at a 5 star resort in Barbados this December. He impulsively booked it on his credit card- he was already 5k in debt on his card prior to booking the trip. I haven't been outside Europe since I was 21 and I really don't want to pass up on the opportunity. I could never hope to afford it on my own and I don't want to regret not going when I'm older. It sounds terrible, but should I hold out until after the holiday in December to break up with him?

LOL, no, don't do this, it's making you come across worse than him @Thewrathofsylviaplath ! So you're going to wait 5-6 months and stay with him even though you don't like him, go away with him, and then come back and dump him? This is actually hilarious! 😂

You're not going to do this, surely?!

I think @DillyDillie hits the nail on the head!

It's women like you that give us all the shudders.... You're some piece of work lady...

This reads like you don't like that he's irresponsible with money unless it's to your benefit. So, you'll take advantage of that and then abandon him after you've had your fun. Did I read that correctly?

Are you really that shallow, grabby and immature at 39? It sounds like something a teenager would do on a smaller scale "I'll wait until after Valentines/Christmas/birthday to dump him so I get my present first".

This can't be real.

What if he proposes? 😱

If you were saying it was next month then I'd probably say yeah, but waiting till December and not contributing anything is really scummy. You can't complain he's terrible with money when you're happy to golddig a trip to Barbados.

Assuming it's real, I guess she'll wait until he's put the entire wedding and honeymoon on his credit card (while complaining about his card debt), then divorce him as soon as they're home and think it's ok because it wasn't her idea to get married.

OPs wanting to use her partner to go a holiday she said she could never afford, so I doubt very much she offered anything back

Why don't you end it but tell him that as a favour you're still prepared to go with him on the 5k holiday he booked for 5 months time - and see how that goes down.....

I’m really finding this hard to believe it’s a real post because surely no one is this selfish?

Yikes, no you shouldn’t do that!!!! 😳

Surely this is a wind up, but in the slight chance it isn’t then no, this would make you an immoral human being.

I could never hope to afford it on my own

neither can he! If you leave him now he may be able to get some money back

I don't think I should cough up as it wasn't my idea to book it.

but it is your idea to arrange your life and decisions to prioritise going though isn’t it?

Your post makes you sound like a complete user and makes me feel sorry for him - impressive given my usual reaction to spendthrifts

I am totally sure it is. Unfortunately it is Real Life, not a 1950s B-Movie

Wow.
You want to break up because he is financially irresponsible but you want to hugely benefit from that flaw before ending it?
The start of your post when you said it's a bit dead I was thinking go, it might bring the spark back. It looks like the main reason is the finances and you will end it regardless of how much fun you have. That is cold and immoral.

This. You’re very shallow, op.

Oh behave

Your expectations of him paying all your costs while you are away probably explains why he is in debt. Nice supportive partner there

You want to go, you pay your own way. Your attitude absolutely stinks.

It's likely a journo writing it farming content.

Grabbing popcorn

Don’t be such a twat op. 🙄

OP of course this isn't ok morally. Would you like this done to you? If you had paid half the bill then I could just about fathom why you wouldn't want to miss out but I can't understand why you're asking us if it's OK that you lie and lead someone on for months because he's paying for a luxury holiday for you.

Agree. Anything else would be so incredibly shallow and gross. YABwhollyU, OP.

Ick. He'll be dodging a huge bullet. Maybe that will even be worth the money to him.

This is ragebait, though.

If this is real then you are vile!