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AIBU?

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Its a group holiday one...

158 replies

Cornwall776 · 01/07/2026 18:47

13 girls going on holiday.
In hotel there is 2 rooms of 4 people, 1 room of 3 people and 1 room of 2 people.
The organiser has planned that everyone pays the same so the people who only have to share with 1 person will pay the same as the people who have to share with 3.
Surely this isnt fair and the cost should be split by room? So for example if a room for 4 is 200, that group pays 50 each.
What would you do in a group whatsapp situation where everyone else has agreed to this...
AIBU to speak up and ask for the cost to be split more fairly? The room for 2 has obviously already been bagged.

OP posts:
Overthemoun · 01/07/2026 18:49

Is there a group chat? I would rather obviously say - can I please bagsy a room for 2 if we’re splitting the cost equally? Sounds like a good deal!

Cornwall776 · 01/07/2026 18:50

Overthemoun · 01/07/2026 18:49

Is there a group chat? I would rather obviously say - can I please bagsy a room for 2 if we’re splitting the cost equally? Sounds like a good deal!

Its already been taken. It was taken within 1 minute of the message going out

OP posts:
GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 01/07/2026 18:51

Are the 4 to a room just sharing a room or sharing double beds?

Random321 · 01/07/2026 18:52

The organiser should get the room for 2 for all the work involved and whoever shares with her get the bonus.

Probably feck all difference between sharing with 2 and 3.

I'd get on with it or don't go.

PreachyPie · 01/07/2026 18:52

Surley this was discussed before booking?
What was agreed before you booked?
The faires
t way if you all pay the same is to draw our if a hat who gets the best room.

Twoweeksinaugust · 01/07/2026 18:52

Why in earth have you booked rooms for 4? Why not just book all doubles? Sounds like hell.

Cornwall776 · 01/07/2026 18:53

PreachyPie · 01/07/2026 18:52

Surley this was discussed before booking?
What was agreed before you booked?
The faires
t way if you all pay the same is to draw our if a hat who gets the best room.

Edited

Wasn't discussed. Organiser just put a message on saying this is what I'm booking and this is what everyone owes

OP posts:
Cornwall776 · 01/07/2026 18:53

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 01/07/2026 18:51

Are the 4 to a room just sharing a room or sharing double beds?

Sharing double beds

OP posts:
Cornwall776 · 01/07/2026 18:54

Twoweeksinaugust · 01/07/2026 18:52

Why in earth have you booked rooms for 4? Why not just book all doubles? Sounds like hell.

I thought the same! Who wants to sleep in a room with 3 other people...

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AbzMoz · 01/07/2026 18:54

I honestly wouldn’t mind. if this was an issue then a hotel with all twos should have been booked.
Could those in a four ask to switch it to two twos or do you want a suite for getting ready / games together?

MiddleAgedDread · 01/07/2026 18:56

Cornwall776 · 01/07/2026 18:53

Sharing double beds

Fuck that, definitely a discount if that’s compared to 2 people sharing a twin room. Particularly if there’s only 1 bathroom between 4.

TidyDancer · 01/07/2026 18:56

I would only be happy with this split if it was agreed in advance and room assignment was done at random. You could try playing dumb and just messaging back to the group saying something like ‘what’s the discount for those sharing with more people?’. I don’t think it’s fair as it stands and I’d be surprised if everyone else thought it was!

HumerousHumous · 01/07/2026 18:57

Op, would NOT be happy sharing a double bed. Completely unreasonable. Twin beds maybe ok but a double?!?! I would not be going.

poolcrew · 01/07/2026 18:57

Are all the rooms the same size? So does the room for 4 have 2 double beds, and the room for 2 have 2 double beds, so they get a bed each?

Cornwall776 · 01/07/2026 18:58

poolcrew · 01/07/2026 18:57

Are all the rooms the same size? So does the room for 4 have 2 double beds, and the room for 2 have 2 double beds, so they get a bed each?

No the room for two people has one double bed. The room for three has one double and one single and the room for four has two double beds.

OP posts:
Overthemoun · 01/07/2026 18:59

Can you just make a separate booking for yourself? Have your own room?

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 01/07/2026 19:01

Sounds hellish. I don’t share rooms and certainly not a double bed. I wouldn’t be going with a large crowd like this.

12345onceIcaughta · 01/07/2026 19:01

I think as everyone is sharing a double bed (apart from one person) then splitting it equally is fair.

Upsetbetty · 01/07/2026 19:01

What is the age range of those group? At age 18-25 I wouldn’t give a shiny shite…now at age 41 absolutely not!!

12345onceIcaughta · 01/07/2026 19:02

As Pp I would not go away if I had to share a double bed.

JellyAnna · 01/07/2026 19:02

This wouldn’t be an issue for me, I don’t think. I’d be a bit miffed at the ppl who went straight in and dibs the double room without checking if there’s a fairer way to do it, but tbh I think splitting the cost evenly is pretty fair. Things like this are always to be expected on a group holiday.

Indianajet · 01/07/2026 19:05

I would only have shared a double bed with my late husband, or my sister at a push. I wouldn't be going.

PinkEasterbunny · 01/07/2026 19:07

Twoweeksinaugust · 01/07/2026 18:52

Why in earth have you booked rooms for 4? Why not just book all doubles? Sounds like hell.

This!!!

Can the booking be changed?

IsawwhatIsaw · 01/07/2026 19:08

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 01/07/2026 19:01

Sounds hellish. I don’t share rooms and certainly not a double bed. I wouldn’t be going with a large crowd like this.

This. I’d pay money not to go

palrono · 01/07/2026 19:08

I'd run a mile and go to Whitby on my own 😊

Realistically I'd book a room for myself only as there's no way I'd share anymore. If you must share (and I realise it costs to book a room for single occupancy), my view is it should be room cost / no. of people in that room.