Its a group holiday one...

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13 girls going on holiday.
In hotel there is 2 rooms of 4 people, 1 room of 3 people and 1 room of 2 people.
The organiser has planned that everyone pays the same so the people who only have to share with 1 person will pay the same as the people who have to share with 3.
Surely this isnt fair and the cost should be split by room? So for example if a room for 4 is 200, that group pays 50 each.
What would you do in a group whatsapp situation where everyone else has agreed to this...
AIBU to speak up and ask for the cost to be split more fairly? The room for 2 has obviously already been bagged.

If you did t discuss this at the planning stage but really still want to go, I think you need to suck it up and get on with it. It could be a great holiday but it won’t be if it’s tainted with moaning. It’s so hard to organise these things to keep everyone happy cost wise and with every detail - I think I’d just be grateful someone else has that burden and try to make it easier for her by not complaining. It’s only a night or two and you’ve learnt something which is to state what you can and can’t tolerate before the booking is done.

Single bed in the room for 3 would be by far my preference.

So many threads are going to drop out of this horror show of a holiday from various attendees (and probably fellow holiday makers appalled at their behaviour!!)

I'd probably feel the same. If the rooms really are different sizes and everyone has an equal chance of ending up in any of them, splitting the cost by room seems like the fairest approach. Paying the same for sharing with one person as someone sharing with three doesn't feel particularly balanced to me. That said, if everyone else has already agreed, I'd only bring it up if you're happy to accept that they may still stick with the original plan. It doesn't seem unreasonable to ask the question politely though.

What’s the actual cost of each room? Shouldn’t each person pay for the appropriate proportion of the room they’re actually staying in ?

Sounds like the holiday from hell

All paying the same wouldn't bother me.

It wouldn't occur to me that people should pay differently depending on the room set up if im honest, splitting evenly would be fine

Id be annoyed about the 'baggsying' and suggest drawing lots or something to determine who slept where if some rooms are more desirable

I think you either suck it up, pull out altogether, or ask if one of the quadruple rooms can be swapped for 2 doubles (assuming you are happy with a double) but that may cause fallout if the overall cost goes up too much. Check the hotel yourself to see what the prices and availability are like. I guess the organiser put 13 adults into booking.com or similar and was given a list of options and picked the cheapest.

I wouldn’t be going or would book my own room. However, with my snoring, menopause insomnia and toilet visits I don’t think anyone would want to share a room with me never mind a double bed

How significant is the cost difference between if it was the price for the room of 4 split by 4 and the cost of all rooms shared equally? If it's a large difference then by all means say something but maybe try a private message to the organiser first, maybe speak to others in the 4 separately to see if they agree and then one of you email her.

Sounds horrific!

I think you should all pay the same to avoid conflict.

When you say “holiday” does that imply it’s more than just the one night of hell?

Oh my goodness this sounds horrible. I would have done this in my early 20s but not now. I wouldn’t even wish to share a room with just one person, let alone a bed! Urgh. Why on earth wasn’t this all discussed in the planning stage? Can the venue be contacted and rooms changed?

On this basis, splitting per person seems fair. I'd expect a room with 2 double beds to cost more than one with one double bed. Only people with a slight advantage are the people in single beds in triple rooms.

Yikes. I don’t think you lot are going to be mates after this. Split by person and, if you make it out as mates and go again, maybe you can switch the room situation around to even things up.

All the people saying they can't imagine anything worse and wouldn't go - it's unlikely you'll be asked, so it's not helping. Obviously OP has this kind of friendships and wants to go, the post is about costs, not sharing a double bed with a friend.

I don't think it's particularly unfair, it's often cheaper to get two double rooms than a room of four (anyone trying to book a family room will know that), so splitting by room might not work out cheaper for you. If you are genuinely worried about four to a bathroom, for some reason, look and see if a four person room could be switched for two singles.

Otherwise make the most of it and have a great time.

Maybe I just haven't gone to the same ones as others, but I've never ever known a hotel with more than one double bed in a room. Plenty of family rooms with a double/king for the parents and a single bed(s) for the kid(s); or two or more singles for a pair/group of friends... but I really can't see what main guest demographic they'd be aiming at with two doubles in lots of the rooms. Double beds - as opposed to king-sized - are very small for two people who aren't happy cosying up intimately with each other.

Even in cheaper hostel-style accommodation, based on several people sharing for budget purposes, it's still usually singles or bunks unless it's intended for an actual couple who choose to share a bed normally.

As for those saying to bagsy the single bed in the room for 3, I'm guessing that might not work so well in practice. It's perfectly reasonable to say to the whole group "Suzanne, Claire and I would like to share - so we're great with the room for 3"; but potentially much more awkward to claim the obviously best bed in that room in advance, meaning that Suzanne and Claire thus have to share a bed.

This thread has made me laugh. I work in the tourism sector. For a group booking, most if not all hotels for that many rooms, will have a breakdown of the cost of each room. For example, the cost of the larger room accommodating four people will always be more expensive because of the linen charges. However, as an example, the cost is £145 per night for the room, the cost should be divided by four people which will always work out cheaper than the cost of a double or twin room. Our site handles a lot of group bookings and we recommend to the booker that their confirmation email does (and it should have for tax purposes) contain a breakdown for each room.

It appears the booker has got the total cost and split it across the amount of people going. In fairness, that would be fine were all to have a room each.

I would ask for the breakdown of the room costs and those assigned to each room split the cost equally between However many people are sharing the room. Ultimately, that will mean some people are paying more, or the organiser says, this hotel looks good, all book individually.

It is a skill organising a group event, we have them regularly, usually with corporate travel agents, however, we have a regular group that come twice a year and they all have single occupancy and all pay the same for DBB. But in double rooms as that is what they prefer. For events, eg hen and stags, it is usually people booking individually.

I do feel your organiser has poorly planned this as it won't be just you feeling it is unfairly mapped out. Have a private word and ask the terms and conditions of the booking. Has a deposit been paid ? Usually would be for a group booking unless she has booked through say booking.com,that would then bring its own set of problems as that would have to negotiated through that channel as the hotel would not be able to make changes to the booking.

Have a private if you want to preserve the relationship and support her. If you drop out, that will then increase the cost to the group, so you're landed with another problem then.

If people are paying for a service then it should be open & transparent, the cost of each room will be on the booking confirmation.

Four in one room? My God, the smell...😖

I think this is the price you pay for a group trip.

I wouldn’t imagine that the cost is hugely different. You’ll probably find that if the double room is £200 per night the quad room will be £320, a slight saving but not worth the fall out.

group holidays are an absolute pain to organise, there’s always someone who doesn’t want to be on the ground floor and another who can’t sleep by the lifts; someone who insists you have to be walking distance to a particular bar and another whose cousins flatmate visited in 2017 and says the only place to be is in a 300m radius of the square.

you have three options:

• suck it up
• don’t go
• book your own room

The latter will likely cause irritation as you’ll bump up the price for everyone else.

Personally, I think there’s very little way of resolving this now…….organiser ought to get pick of the rooms simply for the faff of doing all the admin involved. It’s a girls holiday…..are they seriously going to be spending much time actually in the rooms?
Suck it up this time and perhaps do the organising yourself next time…….and get the pick of the rooms. Equating payments to room layout would be a PITA

It's usually a right ball ache for the person organising these things, especially when they spend time and effort finding somewhere to accommodate a large group only to then have people asking to change/switch/have something different. It's not an easy task to be the organiser, more of a thankless one. Since everyone is sharing beds, I'd just pay my share like everyone else, suck it up, enjoy it for what it is and go with the flow. The organiser could have checked if people were happy to share beds but that would have opened a huge can of worms and might have meant they couldn't find anywhere suitable, not to mention wasting loads more time. Be grateful someone else has taken on the burden of organising the trip, meaning you can just relax and do sod all except turn up 😁

That randomly reminded me of the old joke about the couple who go to marriage counselling. The DH complains bitterly about his horrible, selfish DW's insistence on letting her big smelly dog sleep in the bedroom with them all night, and the stink is driving him mad.

The counsellor thinks for a moment and says "Surely there's a simple compromise here? How about the dog can stay in with you, but on the condition that the window must be left open all night for proper ventilation?"

The DH shrieks "Whaaaat?!?! And lose my 500 prize-winning pigeons?!"

I wouldn’t go away if I had to share a room.
the only person I would share a double bed with is a romantic partner.