Its a group holiday one...

[Cornwall776]

13 girls going on holiday.
In hotel there is 2 rooms of 4 people, 1 room of 3 people and 1 room of 2 people.
The organiser has planned that everyone pays the same so the people who only have to share with 1 person will pay the same as the people who have to share with 3.
Surely this isnt fair and the cost should be split by room? So for example if a room for 4 is 200, that group pays 50 each.
What would you do in a group whatsapp situation where everyone else has agreed to this...
AIBU to speak up and ask for the cost to be split more fairly? The room for 2 has obviously already been bagged.

Personally I think this is fine to keep costs down. The organisers deserve the best room.

Eeek that’s horrific! Luckily I snore and all my friends know so I never have to share a room as no-one wants me!

Everyone should just pay for the room they’re in, e.g. cost of a room for 4 divided by 4 etc. With a hotel it’s obvious what the cost is per room. The organiser is being very unfair.

That aside, I’d still ask if it’s possible to have twin rooms, if not singles. Hopefully more people will ask too, and you can get it changed.

agree with other poster
organiser should get the 2 room
the difference between 3 or 4 in a room is minimal
to be sharing like this I would expect it to be reflected in the overall price for everyone
and yes everyone pays the same

personally I wouldn’t entertain it in the first place

what would be the price difference in booking 7 rooms instead of ; should imagine that would be considerable

13 girls is a lot of you to all be close enough to share double beds, and it’s really odd for the organiser not to check that everyone was comfortable with that. I think a premium needs to be paid by those in singles in the groups of 3 and I agree with the PP who suggested playing dumb and asking what the discount is for being in a room of 4 but, tbh, I’d be tempted to drop out entirely.

This whole thread is why being the organiser of a group holiday is an absolute 'mare.

All the people saying they can't imagine anything worse and wouldn't go - it's unlikely you'll be asked, so it's not helping. Obviously OP has this kind of friendships and wants to go, the post is about costs, not sharing a double bed with a friend.

I kind of disagree with this- there have been multiple posts on MN about people going away with friends and having an unexpected nightmare of a time and coming on here saying it's all gone wrong. Many times its even ruined long friendships permanently.

Your idea of going away with mates can be very, very different to the reality of it and sometimes that needs mentioning.

I also agree with a PP about 4 people sharing a room when coming back drunk, having to use the toilet at the same time, not being able to sleep due to someone snoring, etc is very pertinent and its likely to cause arguments.

This wouldn't be a hill i would be willing to die on.
Go on holiday, have fun and split the cost.

I’d never go on holiday with this many people - too much potential for drama.

It’s a thread about how important it is to discuss expectations (no of rooms, no of beds, division of payment) in advance. The cheapest offer may resolve some issues but add others.

And imagine the poor people around them

Life's too short for this nonsense. Can you pull out OP?

Sounds awful. Is it 1 bathroom for 4 people? Big big no from me

I agree that it often can be; but part of being the organiser is asking people how they want you to organise certain important aspects.

It's not difficult to say "Do you want to share rooms/beds and save a bit of money, or pay extra for separate rooms/individual beds?" Then you sort out rooms for those who want separate ones and whoever is left, who wanted to share, can be provided with a bigger communal room(s) and charged less accordingly.

A holiday you say. 🤔

This sounds like my idea of hell. I would not want to share a bed with anyone except my DH on any type of vacation.

No advice, OP, but you have my sympathies.

“hi gang, late to the party here. Can I take a room for 2 people please? Clearly I’m happy to pay more for it - that seems fair”…

As was first mentions on the first page, 'expectations' need to be agreed long before you get to the stage of anyone booking anything.

If I'd been lumbered with organising a holiday for 13 individuals, I would expect everyone who wasn't doing any of the leg work to accept decisions I took BUT you all needed to have set out your 'line' over what is / isn't acceptable when the idea was in it's infancy.

I don't have a problem sharing rooms, I am well aware others do. Neither is right or wrong, but it needed to have been sorted long before a booking.
Same as how you allocate rooms, or what you are doing about food, and so and and so on.

Absolute nightmare trying to organise a group holiday at the best of times, even if you know each other really well and know you have similar budgets and similar ways of "being" when on holiday.

This has disaster written all over it.

I'd go online and book my own room. Four in a room, sharing beds, one bathroom sounds horrendous. Only if you can't book online call the hotel and say you're a late addition!

But what happens to the 1 person who no longer has a bed if OP takes the room for 2 for herself?

I organised a trip for 15 people to France once, Normandy are for WWII stuff etc.
I only did itinerary. Said we're based in Bayuex every night...sort your own accommodation.

A MILLION times easier. We still had dinners together, did museums etc. but they knew to be in a particular carpark at X time each day. So they could spend the morning as they wished, or afternoon etc some people spent all 4 hours in museum, some spendt one hour and went off to cafe/shopping... Met back at whatever time was set for departure /meal.

Worked beautifully, because some people just wanted cheapy Novotel type places, others wanted boujie B&B etc

By that logic the room for 2 will be subsidising the rooms for 4 - splitting the total cost per person makes so much more sense. You are all going. You are all sleeping in a double bed except for no 13 who has a single bed. Honestly really nothing to moan about here other than preference would have been for 6 doubles and a single room or 13 single rooms in which case you all would have been paying more

This is the way to do it - let people sort their own accommodation and meet up at specific times in a specific place. That way you get your own privacy, space, and comfort but you still get to see your friends (but no so much you get sick of them!)

'Girls'? 🙄

If you're not comfortable sharing rooms and beds with any if them speak up and say "I'm quite happy to share a room but I'm not comfortable sharing a bed with anyone. I assumed we'd all be in twin rooms with one other person." And see what she says?

Yawn

I’m amazed you took more than 24hrs to show up 🙄