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Its a group holiday one...

158 replies

Cornwall776 · 01/07/2026 18:47

13 girls going on holiday.
In hotel there is 2 rooms of 4 people, 1 room of 3 people and 1 room of 2 people.
The organiser has planned that everyone pays the same so the people who only have to share with 1 person will pay the same as the people who have to share with 3.
Surely this isnt fair and the cost should be split by room? So for example if a room for 4 is 200, that group pays 50 each.
What would you do in a group whatsapp situation where everyone else has agreed to this...
AIBU to speak up and ask for the cost to be split more fairly? The room for 2 has obviously already been bagged.

OP posts:
WelshRabBite · 01/07/2026 22:02

roshi42 · 01/07/2026 21:27

Everyone gets half a double bed so I don’t see why everyone shouldn’t pay the same tbh.

Hotel rooms aren’t just the beds. Imagine there’s four of you in the room, you’ve all returned after you’ve had a few drinks, you all need a wee, desperately; who goes first?

You're getting ready to go out, four of you need a shower and need to wash their hair and need to dry their hair (with the hairdryer that’s attached to the wall in the bathroom) and one of you needs to empty their bowels, one is having a heavy period and needs to change their tampax and you’re due to meet in the lobby in an hour.

Yes, that’s an extreme circumstance and one may have brought their own hairdryer, and the person who needs a dump may leave the room and go to the communal toilets near the bar downstairs and maybe not everyone needs to wash and dry their hair, but it would certainly be easier for only two to have to share the room and bathroom, so why should the room of four pay the same?

biggestcatmom · 01/07/2026 22:19

4 people getting ready together for a night out will be a nightmare

OldCrohn · 01/07/2026 22:50

People with complaints like this have never actually organised something similar so just have no concept of how impossible splitting things like this any other way. At best, push back on how the rooms have been divvied but don't start quibbling over fractions of bed space.

emmetgirl · 01/07/2026 22:54

That all sounds like my worst nightmare

rosiebr · 01/07/2026 23:18

How old are they? Where are they going and for how long?

DaisyDooley · 01/07/2026 23:36

I just couldn’t cope with 4 people pooing in the same bathroom for a weekend.
Especially if there is drink involved.
I would book my own room or not go but I just couldn’t cope with that.
My rule is - if I’m not as comfortable as I am at home I’m not going.
.i will only share A room with my daughter and at a push my husband (needs his own room for a multitude of reasons).
It’s my idea of hell.

mondaytosunday · 02/07/2026 02:04

Nine of us to celebrated a birthday and she booked the house. Three doubles one triple. The girls in the triple were not best pleased as they had bunk beds. I lucked out with the double with en suite! We all paid the same. I think I’d be a bit miffed if I had a bunk bed, but they all knew each other and I didn’t know my roomie (poor girl had to put up with my snoring). She who booked it assigned the rooms. It’s a tricky one.

GrantMyWishes · 02/07/2026 02:17

OMG! There's absolutely no way I'd be sharing a room, let alone a bed, I value my sleep too much, and as it's likely to be a very tiring trip with lots of socialising and late nights anyway, I'd simply have to have my own room so as not to get disturbed by other people's sleep noises, whether it be snoring or other bodily functions. Plus I hate sharing a bathroom, so I definitely wouldn't be going.

However, if you do want to go OP, I'd suggest that every room is a names in the hat process, as otherwise there's likely to be falling out before you've even got there, and the cost of whatever the room you get, should be split between the number of people sharing.

Zanatdy · 02/07/2026 02:31

Everyone is sharing a double bar one person so i’d just keep cost fair. But at my age now (50) I wouldn’t go on a holiday where I had to share a bed.

canuckup · 02/07/2026 03:07

This holiday will be a nightmare, I guarantee

Yellowsubmarineunderthesea · 02/07/2026 03:45

One night away I'd probably just go with it but anything longer I wouldn't be happy and probably just withdraw or book my own room. Even with 4 of my own close family, I'd see 4 in a room sharing one bathroom a nightmare plus the lack of physical space for people, clothes, shoes and bits & bobs just not worth it and wouldn't be a holiday. There will be fall outs for sure

lxn889121 · 02/07/2026 03:58

For me it depends on how close you all are.

With really close friends, I'd much rather a room of 4.

When I was younger and went away with friends we had a similar situation a few times, and the larger rooms ended up becoming the places where people gathered/met/hang out etc. And being in the smaller rooms could get a bit isolated - it kind of felt like you were missing the party. The bigger rooms seemed to have more fun.

That being said - to make it fair, it should be random/lots drawn, not something people can choose.

TappyGilmore · 02/07/2026 04:10

Yeah I wouldn’t want to share doubles.

If you are happy with that, I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just pay actual cost instead of splitting the total. For example one room is £100 per night, that is split between the two people sharing it. Another room is £150 per night, that is split between the four people sharing it. If it’s booked through a website or app, they usually show you the price per room even if it is all one group booking.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 02/07/2026 04:20

Depends how well I know the others. With my four old mates from school I'd happily share a bed and split cost. With someone I barely know I wouldn't want to share even a twin room let alone the same bed.

Though the bed sharing is generally just overnight, for a longer holiday twin beds at least even with close friends, and definitely separate rooms with anyone else!

garlictwist · 02/07/2026 04:20

I’d be fine with this. I go away with friends all the time and share beds. You’re asleep when you’re in it so it doesn’t really make any difference. And I’m 45 so not young. I don’t think there should be a discount because all the bed situations are th same. If someone had their own room that would be different.

Scorchio84 · 02/07/2026 04:57

emmetgirl · 01/07/2026 22:54

That all sounds like my worst nightmare

Absolutely this! God knows in my 20's I've shared hotel rooms, beds even with my friends when we've had too but this is just hell on earth & the pp on pg1 (apologies I can't remember your name!) who came up with the very accurate scenarios, getting ready, showering, hair drying etc not to mention during the night wees, lights on & maybe the fan, snoring....you'll end up murdering each other!

I couldn't do it @Cornwall776 but all the best if you do & I hope you come back & let us all know how it goes!

Tamtim · 02/07/2026 05:05

How many bathrooms and how will they be split?

sharing a room would be a no from me for anything. I’m too old for that now. In my younger days, a cheap holiday and sharing was generally fun.

Scorchio84 · 02/07/2026 05:07

Kizmet1 · 01/07/2026 19:57

I think I'd book my own room. I'm 37 and recently went on a hen weekend where we were all expected to bunk up and share double beds. It was a bit awkward, but I said no.
I like my own bed space and sharing a room with single beds wouldn't have bothered me at all, but sharing a bed with a drunk pal? Noooo. I wasn't willing to flex my preference that far!

Yeah definitely! Sure my OH's sisters went on holiday together just a few weeks ago, just the two of them I might add & THEY even booked separate rooms & I know I'd be the same now

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 02/07/2026 05:22

Let me guess. The organiser is in the room of 3 and the only one of the group in her own bed?

I'd opt out of this bollocks and organise my own room.

occamsrazor26 · 02/07/2026 05:51

Don't have any part of this. If you really want to go, book your own room and meet up with them there.

PurBal · 02/07/2026 06:06

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 01/07/2026 19:01

Sounds hellish. I don’t share rooms and certainly not a double bed. I wouldn’t be going with a large crowd like this.

This.

Somnambule · 02/07/2026 06:07

I could handle the room sharing but not the beds, bollocks to that.

Goldenbear · 02/07/2026 06:10

TofuTuesday · 01/07/2026 20:41

Is it a package holiday? If so splitting out room costs from transfers and flights will be a nightmare.
I think this is the holiday either embrace it or not - the majority don’t seem to have an issue.

I agree with this, I recently went away for a friend's big birthday and we did get our own room each but I objectively had one of the worse rooms along with another woman as it was bunk beds, tiny and on the ground floor, everyone else was on the upper floors. However, it did have a great view and essentially I got a massive bathroom to myself as there was one on the ground floor plus could get water etc. From the kitchen without disturbing anyone. I think I was slow off the mark and it was my fault as I didn't bag of the the big rooms quickly enough. I think the organiser has to have a choice and the birthday person. It is very difficult to organise when lots of people and so I think you have to accept it is what it is.

Backstop · 02/07/2026 06:17

You should have said something before the booking. Honestly I thought you were going to complain you were in the two person room not with the group rooms. I don’t see by yours would be cheaper and think the organiser didn’t know what she was in for. If I was off with mates I wouldn’t care less - it could be a laugh. If it turns out to be a nightmare then you make a separate arrangement next time…

Moonnstarz · 02/07/2026 06:18

I think these things need to be discussed at the planning stage. Reading these posts I often feel sorry for the person who gets stuck being the organiser. It always sounds like a group want to go away but only one person is willing to make the arrangements.
At the start when discussing the group trip you should have said can we make sure there are private rooms, I don't want to share. Or if you are happy to share you could have said can we book somewhere with twin beds. Even not all premier inns do proper twin rooms (I went with my mum and let her have the double while I took the single) so I imagine when trying to book for so many people it's hard to tick all boxes.