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Bonnie blue risky sexual behaviour whilst pregnant

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Jellysweets13 · Today 17:22

If you’re not interested in discussing this then feel free to scroll on by.

A lot of us will know who Bonnie Blue is. The porn star who slept with 1000 men and various other stunts. Loves to rage bait especially to women.

She’s now pregnant, probably around 4-6 months.

If she’s to be believed she’s still working and filming and her latest stunt was to hold a baby shower in which she invited strangers to urinate over her and then have sex with her.

Obviously this has created a lot of outrage and disgust and there are comments everywhere online saying that she is not only sexualising her baby but that social services should be involved.

I’m not completely convinced that she actually doing these things for real. She has an X page showing clips, but it could all be fake or AI.

But let’s say for a moment that she really is having sex with strangers and letting them urinate on her. Where is the line drawn between her body her choice and saying that she’s putting the baby at risk and social services should be involved?

I’m very much usually of the opinion of women having autonomy and choice, but it seems like very risky behaviour and the child is going to have to endure a lot of negative comments and attention because of the choices the mother is making. She doesn’t need to do these things whilst pregnant she is a millionaire.

Yabu - her body her choice
Yanbu - it’s a social services case

OP posts:
Backedoffhackedoff · Today 20:10

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · Today 20:04

Is the fact she’s already incorporating and centering her unborn child in her pornography not enough grounds to warrant a safeguarding concern? Bang while pregnant, sure why not?!. Golden showers aren’t my thing but sure, create a load of pointless laundry if you’re into that. Film it! Whatever.

The theme of ‘baby shower’ tips it into something darker and far more sinister - it’s almost like she’s forcing us to think about the baby as part of the porn scene (as per a normal baby shower centering around a future baby and their mother) which shows that there’s at least a cause for concern - and further investigation - into whether she has the capacity to keep the baby safe from harm. I think that’s why so many of us find this so unsettling, even though we truly believe ‘her body, her choice’.

“Is the fact she’s already incorporating and centering her unborn child in her pornography not enough grounds to warrant a safeguarding concern?”

so let’s say it was- what does that actually do?

a safeguarding concern? What is it and what impact will it have?

Ipsevenenabibas · Today 20:10

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · Today 20:08

I think you’re just recognising how high the bar is for SS involvement.

Oh no, I am very aware actually. Nonetheless it saddens and sickens me each and every time I am reminded of the fact.

Teaandtoastserveddaily · Today 20:10

Frequency · Today 17:35

On the one hand, it's her body, her choice. On the other hand, I can't help thinking some complex psychological issues are going on with her.

My judgment is mostly reserved for the vile men who take part in the stunts.

Women have agency too. She's responsible for her actions and mental issues shouldn't even come into it. She's literally involving her unborn child, without its consent, in her disgusting sexual performances.

Shes a disgusting creature and her child should be taken from her, for its own safety and dignity.

No human who behaves like this should be around children, full stop.

MurunBuchstansangursCousinRossiter · Today 20:13

shuggles · Today 19:56

But you've made a leap in logic, in that urinating on someone is a form of degradation. That's strictly how you frame it in your mind and your head. I certainly don't see it as degrading.

Then you’re not right in the head.

ohgollyme · Today 20:13

I think you make a good point OP. To me it’s morally illogical to, on one hand to state it’s ’a fetus’ and ‘your body, your choice’ but on the other, be outraged at what she’s doing. Surely if you have the moral right to abort at any point, then you have the moral right to also do this?

Ipsevenenabibas · Today 20:13

Glowingup · Today 20:09

Why the hell would you think the pp was a pedophile? There is nothing about making porn featuring a pregnant woman that has anything to do with pedophilia.

Pregnant women in porn appeal to a very particular person. If you can't see the link I can't help you.

Samysungy · Today 20:13

Jellysweets13 · Today 19:52

Sexualising a baby shower and calling it a golden shower, eating baby food mixed with semen is stepping into pedophile territory.

Allowing strange disgusting men to urinate all over you and then selling the video as part of some sick violating a pregnant woman is going to cause the baby serious psychological harm once it’s old enough to understand.

Having sex with strangers whilst pregnant is putting yourself at risk of disease which could have serious consequences to the baby.

If you can’t see how her behaviour is harmful then you are either being argumentative for the sake of it or you have a screw loose.

You are yet to answer the question....

Can you answer the question please instead of deflecting...

Glowingup · Today 20:13

Teaandtoastserveddaily · Today 20:10

Women have agency too. She's responsible for her actions and mental issues shouldn't even come into it. She's literally involving her unborn child, without its consent, in her disgusting sexual performances.

Shes a disgusting creature and her child should be taken from her, for its own safety and dignity.

No human who behaves like this should be around children, full stop.

Once the baby is born and if she continues with this stuff, she might well come on the radar of social services. However, she’s not as chaotic as someone like Katie Price or Kerry Katona so it depends on how the baby is cared for as to whether anything will be done. Presumably she earns enough to get a nanny and to keep the child away from anything to do with her “career”.

Glowingup · Today 20:14

Ipsevenenabibas · Today 20:13

Pregnant women in porn appeal to a very particular person. If you can't see the link I can't help you.

I really don’t think they appeal to pedophiles. To sick fucks, yes, but not pedos.

DelphinoPlaza · Today 20:15

Ipsevenenabibas · Today 20:13

Pregnant women in porn appeal to a very particular person. If you can't see the link I can't help you.

Being attracted to a woman who happens to be pregnant is not paedophilia fgs. Most men on earth would be if that was the case. Fetishising the bump itself is sus but still you can’t deduce much from that.

Like this just isn't the conversation we’re even having.

thefloorislavayes · Today 20:16

The shower clips are all fake, the 1000 men were mostly fake, she's just monetising outrage.

Ipsevenenabibas · Today 20:18

DelphinoPlaza · Today 20:15

Being attracted to a woman who happens to be pregnant is not paedophilia fgs. Most men on earth would be if that was the case. Fetishising the bump itself is sus but still you can’t deduce much from that.

Like this just isn't the conversation we’re even having.

I never said being attracted to a pregnant woman is paedophillia

EmailsaysOOO · Today 20:19

Well I have to accept she should have control over her own body. Perhaps she has mental issues, poor self esteem, I'm not qualified to say. But I doubt if she has a girl growing inside her, that she'd like the thought of her daughter subjecting herself to such gross acts. She just seems deranged. Hopefully when she's made enough money from it she's going to retire and we will never hear of her again.

I think her acts go towards explaining how some men manage to think so little of some women, unfortunately. If she doesn't respect herself why should anyone respect her ?

Backedoffhackedoff · Today 20:19

Ipsevenenabibas · Today 20:18

I never said being attracted to a pregnant woman is paedophillia

What’s the particular type of person who watches pregnant porn then?

PuppiesProzacProsecco · Today 20:20

I think all the back and forth about "her body, her choice" and exposing her baby to potential STIs is moot really - this woman isn't mentally well enough to take care of a baby.

She's repeatedly and explicitly (pardon the pun) demonstrated this. She needs serious mental health intervention and her baby needs to be removed as soon as it's born.

MurunBuchstansangursCousinRossiter · Today 20:21

Zoonosis · Today 20:08

Her behaviour aside, describing a woman as "a collection of fuck holes" is also a revolting thing to say.

Are you seriously suggesting the men see her as a whole human being?

EmailsaysOOO · Today 20:22

@Glowingup the time will come when the child will know everything about what it's mum has done.

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · Today 20:22

Backedoffhackedoff · Today 20:10

“Is the fact she’s already incorporating and centering her unborn child in her pornography not enough grounds to warrant a safeguarding concern?”

so let’s say it was- what does that actually do?

a safeguarding concern? What is it and what impact will it have?

Triggers further investigation and involvement? Women DO get their children removed because of the risk of future harm. I was asking if this would be enough to trigger involvement to assess that risk. What happens then follows a fairly lengthy process involving much more than just a social worker.

Glowingup · Today 20:23

PuppiesProzacProsecco · Today 20:20

I think all the back and forth about "her body, her choice" and exposing her baby to potential STIs is moot really - this woman isn't mentally well enough to take care of a baby.

She's repeatedly and explicitly (pardon the pun) demonstrated this. She needs serious mental health intervention and her baby needs to be removed as soon as it's born.

She’s really disgusting but actually she comes across quite cool and collected in interviews. She doesn’t seem to be on drugs. She looks dead behind the eyes but she’s in control of her actions. A lot of what she says and does is total rage bait. I’m not sure it points to her being unable to care for a child in terms of meeting physical needs. Emotional needs is a different matter. I wonder if she will just give the baby to her mum to raise, like Katie Price did with Harvey.

MonDieu · Today 20:23

There’s a retired noughties ex porn star mum at my children’s school. You would never have known - she’s a perfectly nice, normal, non-descript SAHM. One of the dads figured it out, as apparently her persona was quite well known back in the day - but to be honest, I’m more judgmental of him and his viewing habits for having recognised her! The kids seem happy and well adjusted, so it can work. The difference is, she’d quit well before getting married and starting a family.

I’d be concerned about the mental state of ‘Bonnie Blue’ as the acts just seem to get more and more desperate and degrading.

Ihateboris · Today 20:24

Has anyone else heard the rumours that she transitioned from a guy at age 13?? For anyone interested Google Kyle Butler Bonnie Blue.

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · Today 20:25

RoseField1 · Today 20:09

But involvement will be by consent. It's not compulsory.

Aye, it’s not compulsory, until it is. Like I said, it’s up to her what she does next. She can’t keep anything under the radar because she’s essentially a rage bait generator, so if she really can’t keep her baby safe she’ll get caught out fairly swiftly, I’d say. Thank god.

Glowingup · Today 20:25

EmailsaysOOO · Today 20:22

@Glowingup the time will come when the child will know everything about what it's mum has done.

Yeah but same can be said about notorious criminals or someone like Katie Hopkins or Tommy Robinson. The fact that the parent is a trash person in terms of morals and beliefs doesn’t mean the child can be removed.

PrincessHoneysuckle · Today 20:25

Why would she want a baby with her lifestyle?

Glowingup · Today 20:26

Ihateboris · Today 20:24

Has anyone else heard the rumours that she transitioned from a guy at age 13?? For anyone interested Google Kyle Butler Bonnie Blue.

Would make her pregnancy now fairly miraculous… but no I am pretty sure she was not born a boy.