To not take any conception now I’m 40

[68days]

I’m 40 in late July and have been talking about with dh not using condoms or any other form of conception anymore

Is the original post just to announce an attempt at trying to conceive @68days ?

OK well good luck with that!

Conception with a condom. That's a new one on me. Is a little pinprick involved?

I got pregnant twice after 40: one miscarriage, one amazing DD.

This!

Just nope, nope, fucking nope.

I'm about to turn 43 and currently have a 8 week old and 2 year old. Crack on if you want more babies, I'm a overweight smoker.

Is this a joke?

Yeah is this your way of asking if YABU to try to conceive at 40? Your post can read either that you think people don’t conceive after 40 so can you just not use contraception, or that you’ve got to 40 and want to try to conceive.

Either way it boils down to want a baby/not, not want a baby then don’t use contraception, but if you don’t want a baby then use something.

ETA: and no, plenty of people have babies at 40+ now. The average age of first time mums has gone up, and the average number of children has gone down, so it follows that more and more people are having their children later (if at all).

OP my mum conceived me within 2 months of trying at the age of 41

Had my daughter 8 months ago, natural conception, perfect pregnancy, birth and recovery.

I'm 45, soon to be 46.

Because who wants to be a geriatric mum? It’s not fair on the kids having parents so old.

Rage bait .

WTF. I had one at 39. I’m not old!

40 isn’t old

🤣 well that’s a Freudian slip if ever there was. You are going to get preggers OP!

I’m wondering if the Op was drunk

Edit as cross posted with Op. Does that mean you’re trying to conceive? Because if so, yes, you should probably stop using contraception…

I’m with you…. I don’t want more but I don’t want to continue putting hormones into my body. I don’t want to risk the other side effects from hormonal contraception taking it long term. I’ve also stopped. Marriage isn’t the best so not worried about any accidents…. Just didn’t feel the need if we were using the most effective method (not doing it anyway!)

DH has cousins old enough to be his aunts/uncles FIL was a baby his mother thought was the menopause.

Omg, you are 39. Absolutely NOT too old to conceive!!!

Weird no one has mentioned that if she were to get pregnant (increasingly unlikely at 40) she could have an abortion? It doesn’t need to result in a baby.

Interesting title.

Seriously? I doubt many people decide to stop contraception with the idea that they'll just have an abortion if they get pregnant.

My Uncle is young enough to be my brother. As my Gran thought she was going through the menopause.

My Dad and his brother never lived in the same house as a result, they get on really well though and are so much alike.

Same, I was 42 eoth my first

So you want to have another child then?

The average age of death is somewhere in the early eighties, so it's likely that any kids of parents reproducing around 40 will have their parents into their forties. That's as much as anyone could ever hope for.

Plus there are definite benefits to having older parents. More time, money, and patience.