To not take any conception now I’m 40

[68days]

I’m 40 in late July and have been talking about with dh not using condoms or any other form of conception anymore

Did you post too soon or something does the rest of the sentence say "because we want another baby"? In which case go for it!

We weren't careful ONCE and I mean once at the ripe old age of 42, I'll be giving birth aged 43 in a few months time. Fertility doesn't drop off a cliff at 35 as they lead you to believe, which if you are wanting a baby is a good thing, if you aren't well I await your announcement anyway ☺️.

Nearly 40 here and sat in induction ward about to deliver my 3rd 🤣
Got pregnant very easily too

Gosh
I had my first at 22
2nd at 36 and now will be having my 3rd at nearly 40.
I'm enjoying motherhood so much more this time
I think it's a mindset
I'll be nearly 60 when this little one is 20
Seems great

Ridiculous and narrow minded comment. Lots of children lose their mothers at far younger ages, due to cancer, or other illnesses.

Maybe girls should have their DNA tested and be sterilised so they can never put future children through that trauma? Of course it's a ludicrous sugges, but so is your view, based on limited life experience.

I love my DS dearly and wouldn’t change a thing but funding him through university when both me and his dad are pensioners wasn’t quite the plan! I’ve just had to use some of my teacher pension lump sum as deposit on second year accommodation. And of course, he wants to do year abroad and postgraduate qualifications too. Yeah, I didn’t bother with contraception because I was in my 40s and his dad nearly 60😂

Are you planning to have children or not? That is the central question here.

Constructive.

Perfectly possible to get pregnant OP.

I did at 40 first try (DC3), now late teens.

The maths in this post doesn't add up? A mum who has a baby age 40 will be 69 when the child is 29, not 75 or 80

At aged over 40 I've been spending the last week stressing in case I am pregnant because the condom broke. I'm still none the wiser if PMS or pregnancy and will need to give it a few more days.

Because you want to conceive? From your follow up post I’m guessing that’s what you mean.

More likely multiples (twins) in your 40s.

I personally think 40s is too late, not for a baby, but for dealing with teenagers mid 50s onwards.

If not, average age menopause 51, contraception is advised until menopause confirmed (2 years after last period until 50 or 1 year over).

Otherwise until age 55.

"NO! BIG NO!*

At your age your body is releasing all the eggs it can. Sometimes women get pregnant really easily during this time. Releasing more than one egg a month mean multiples occur.more frequently. The risks of chromosomal abnormalities is greater as well.

If you feel you've completed your family please STAY on effective birth control until you finish menopause. Or get your tubes tied. There are a lot of years left that you could still be fertile.

This. Having babies in one's 40s is completely normal.

I know more than 15 40+ year olds who thought exactly the same and are now parents later in life!

OP, you haven't come back but if you are still reading these posts, I can provide details of my lovely ds, conceived at 44y5m by which time I was down to one tube and half an ovary. 😁

Do NOT give up your contraception unless you want a baby.

For those being judgey about older parenthood, I'm a 62yo mum of a sixth former, and it's great. He's happy, confident, secure, I'm fit, healthy, active (a runner), work full time. Every woman in my family has had at least one child in her 40s, we all live into our 90s and some make their centuries.

I have never understood why so many on MN want to get old so early.

My sister recently had her first baby at 41, so…

Dh's parents were early-mid 40's having him and his brother and they both found lots to enjoy about having older, more relaxed, more financially stable parents. It's not all doom and gloom if you want to do it. Yes now we're in our late 30's/early 40's and have lost them both but he's not the first to lose a parent from our friends.

Your question is unclear.
If you want a baby then why ask us?
If you don't want a baby, time to dust down those basic biology notes from your school days and remind yourself of the facts of life.

I presume you mean, 'contraception'.

If you are still ovulating, and that is more than likely at 40, you will become pregnant. Is that what you want?

What has made you think you would stop at age 40? Like, why now?

54 and still on the mini pill till I turn 55 in January. Asked the nurse about coming off it and her first words were , are you still sexually active?

My dm (6 dcs) suggested to her gp that at 54 she could come off the pill because the oldest new mum ever in the UK was 51.
Her gp retorted that the 51yo mum may simply have been the oldest woman foolish enough to come off the pill before it was wise. 😊

I was at my friends 60th Birthday Party a couple of weeks ago. My kids were at her son’s 16th the same night.

it A no from me. I wouldn’t (didn’t) take that risk!

If you’re suggesting it’s because you won’t get pregnant at 40 then you’d be wrong. I am 50 this year but still taking contraception, because my family is long complete, and I certainly wouldn’t be wanting to have to terminate a pregnancy. Obviously low chance but whilst you’re still ovulating you have a chance of pregnancy, definitely at 40.