To not take any conception now I’m 40

[68days]

I’m 40 in late July and have been talking about with dh not using condoms or any other form of conception anymore

I had my first at 39 and 2nd at 41 both conceived first try it's not necessarily low odds of getting pregnant

40 is old in terms of pregnancy and parenting who wants to be parenting a teenager touching 60. It’s entirely up to you but personally for me absolutely not I’m 31 I’ve got a 4 year old and pregnant to give birth later this year and I’m 2 and done. Purely because I don’t want to have children late for their benefit and mine infact I was having quite high levels of anxiety about never having a second but I knew I’d never want one late.

I had dd at 41. A miracle as didn't think ever have children. I'm not the oldest mum by any way in the playground...got several friends who gave birth aged 45. So take it you want more children

Goodness me. What an offensive comment. Some posters have said they had the DC at 40+. I did too. And I wanted to be pregnant. It wasn't an unfortunate accident. Until contraception became reliable, the majority of women carried on having babies well into their 40s.

What do you imagine is unfair on the 'kids'? Wobbling to the school gates on a Zimmer frame? Double incontinence making its presence felt on the beach? Singing the Sex Pistols in the bath rather than Taylor Swift? You need to think before foisting your heartless opinions on strangers. Just as well for you that this conversation is online and not face-to-face.

No, it isn’t. At least half of my child’s class have parent who gave birth to their first late 30s to mid 40s. One was 49 when she had her first (natural conception).

You’re saying it’s not old, so why do you think you’re immune, unless there is a big back story like you have confirmation you have gone through the menopause? Or, do you actually want a child?

Do you want to get pregnant? I had my babies at 38 and 40 got pregnant first go each time . So if you want to do that...go for it

I mean… every mum will be a geriatric mum at some point right?!

Absolutely good for you! You knew what you wanted and did it! I was adamant I didn’t want one until I was at least 38, preferably early 40s and I did the same - knew what I wanted and did it. I’m really sorry you had to suffer anxiety though, that must have been really tough.

You mean contraception? If you’re 40, you should know that birth control is called contraception.

The only reason not to use any form of contraception is if you want to have a baby. Do you want to have a baby?

I think we need to think of the potential children here. You are potentially going to pass away at what 75/80+ so the child would go through their own what late 20s onwards lives loosing their parents early. You’d potentially never meet grandchildren etc.

Freudian slip I think 🫣

Did you press send to soon...and forgot to add "what are my chances of not becoming pregnant"

Or..
Do you want another baby?

Either way at 40 your ovaries are probably still clattering about a bit.

How old are your existing kids, presuming you have them?

Yanbu though, if you dont want more kids tell him to get the snip!

So will this be your first child or are you and your husband adding to the family?

Exactly, it’s common enough to have kids at that age so crack on OP, if that’s your intention.

Ha....isn't it funny what the eyes see....I thought it said contraception but now I look again (after your post) I see she wrote conception!

At 40 you might well have another baby, but you also might just have loads of miscarriages - would that really be less stressful than contraception?

Do you want to get pregnant? Does your partner want more kids?

If you do then crack on. If not then take precautions

Essentially is your question, is it ok try for children at 40?

Don’t be silly.

Did you study biology at school?

Unless you want another baby of course.

Clearly quite a lot of us based on the responses on this thread.

40 is not "so old". There are many scenarios that would "not be fair" on kids. Being over 40 is not one of them.

But you definitely won’t meet your grandchildren at all if your children don’t exist. I absolutely hate that logic.

Op are you trying for your first or a final baby?

My youngest is perfectly happy. I’m 50 and she’s 12.

It absolutely is.

I got pregnant 4 times in my early 40s.