Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

[LavenderSkiesxo]

I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

Thanks for this, I couldn’t believe what I was reading either

Maybe it was a man pretending!

Some women (and some men) have a consistent stream problem.

What dangerous jobs do they do that women can't. Just genuinely curious about this statement

the level of bitterness is insane 😂😂

I am glad I am not surrounded by hairy bald things 😂

And they are not obsessed by the number of time people change their bedsheets or wash their towels like so many users on that forum

the level of bitterness is insane 😂😂

I am glad I am not surrounded by hairy bald things 😂

And they are not obsessed by the number of time people change their bedsheets or wash their towels like so many users on that forum

I went to an all girls school until I was 12 and hated it. I think it is the aleatory nature of the girls behaviour that made school life more stressful..

Meh

If nothing else, men are great to look at, the ones who need to be are brilliant in bed, they made fantastic friends, brilliant sport coaches, are strong and supportive.
If that was their only use, I'd still take that 😂

It's terribly unfeminist of me, but I feel reassured when I see male cops or firefighters when I need them

As taste is a very subjective thing, I can't suggest we remove the ones I don't find attractive or interesting.

I also wish it was more 50/50 in primary school, because all the male teachers my kids ended up having were fantastic. Female teachers too, but a mix of both is ideal.

Ok? 🤔

Do you want some sort of medal?

Geez. This just sounds bitter AF and terminally online frankly. You sound like a female incel.

“Men are redundant”, “ugly hairy bald things”, “pathetic” - imagine a man describing women as saggy, hormonal, boring creatures whose only value is sex and reproduction. You’d (rightly) call him a misogynist.

Also the irony of sneering at men for supposedly being obsessed with attractiveness while writing an entire paragraph mocking ageing and baldness is really quite something 🤣

Oh, for crying out loud. Are you serious?

That's really dangerously disturbed.

I’m starting to think this after DP just came out with that he doesn’t want kids, after telling me he wants kids. I just think why are all men the same? This is the first time I’ve had a good one and he’s the same as the shit ones. I just think why can’t you be like my friends who are all lovely all know what they want out of their lives and men just can’t be fucking bothered working on themselves and working out what they want only to break someone’s heart because of their shortcomings. They’re all like that! I actually can’t fucking stand men anymore. I don’t want male friends and I’m seriously thinking about not having a partner now. Just disappointing.

@LavenderSkiesxo Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote

Neither could men. Men did not have the vote until after World War 1.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

People have medical issues which means they need to pee more frequently. You sound like one of those people who can't understand why old people walk more slowly.

Second point is that men are less exposed when peeing than women, which is why men may sometimes pee outside.

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners.

I agree that's shit. But what I can never understand is why men who commit serious crimes seem to have absolutely no difficulty finding a partner.

Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings..

Specifically because women express disgust whenever men talk about their feelings.

some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

There are more women who transition to men, than vice versa.

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

I mean for one, men do seem to be massively overrepresented in the "dirty jobs" that women won't do.

I agree OP.
It’s getting very very VERY waring.

@shuggles I agree that's shit. But what I can never understand is why men who commit serious crimes seem to have absolutely no difficulty finding a partner.

Because they can usually sniff out incredibly vulnerable and insecure women who are desperate for love, affection and “protection”.

I have a wonderful husband. My Dad was a great man and he was the first example I ever saw of feminism.

But I am also a complete and utter misandrist. Women are so much better than men. A great man, that so many of us say we have in our husbands, is still only doing what the majority of average women do every day.

I can never get over on here how many women will pipe up with “it’s just a few men”. Well, no, it isn’t. When you look at the stats of how many women have been SA or abused by men, it’s not just “a few” men doing this to multiple multiple women. It can’t be, the maths just doesn’t add up.

There are lots of lovely, kind and amazing men, I don’t dispute that. But as a group they are miles behind women and they have a long way to go before they can be equal to women.

It really is. Honestly, this site makes me so glad and grateful for my rational, lovely normal friends!

And men don’t do any caring duties such as wiping backsides and bathing elderly people do they? So the feeling is mutual.

Exactly this ☝Many men seem to have become disenfranchised, have lost their reason for "being". As women have become more empowered men are standing back and letting us get on with it, them taking the easier option.

Why I don't know. Is it because a lot of the jobs requiring strength, size and power are disappearing. The tough, heavy, dirty jobs that women would struggle to do.
I hesitate to say this but if we had a war would more traditional roles reemerge?

This sounds like a, "I want MN to let me play with the cool kids," post. Well, I'm a cool kid and I love all the men in my life. So, too bad for you, I guess?

Men are entitled to change their mind about having children, just like women are.

Yes. Very selective attention span.

The cool kids 🤣🤣🤣🤣
If you have to say you are one then you ain't 🤣🤣
How... uncool! Almost as unfunny as people who will tell you they are funny 🤣🤣🤣🤣

A great man, that so many of us say we have in our husbands, is still only doing what the majority of average women do every day.

This is so bloody true. I bet the ‘amazing’ men being spoken on here just did what is very normally expected of a woman. Things she gets no praise for.

I’m sorry to say my experience of men has been overwhelmingly negative, from the cheerful but useless types who do damage with their incompetence and laziness, to the toxic angry types seething with rage and resentment.

I work in crime and noted to a colleague earlier what an uptick we have seen lately in explosive male rage - men who just ‘see red’ and commit appalling acts of violence against completely innocent people. Like this charmer.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c74dxlq2j8no

Who cares? All those men were birthed by women. What’s your point? Men invented some things while women were cleaning their toilets and raising their kids at home?